I figured out my problem!

[the third eye]

So after years of tryin to figure out what is wrong with me, I've finally come to the conclusion that I have avoidant personality disorder. Every single symptom of this matches perfectly with me. I don't really know how to deal with this though? It's nice to have a name for my problems but what do I do with that?

 

[J Roc]

ahha self disgnosis. are you a doctor now?

 

[yuppaz]

get comfortable with persistance and going for what you want. By doing what is SLIGHTLY uncomfortable over and over and over

 

[BigSmooth]

Easy solution bud.


Every chance you get, go up and just talk to people!

Sounds hard right? I know it must be difficult with having AvPD, but it ain't going to cure itself.


When you notice someone you want to talk to, but can feel yourself trying to avoid interaction, tell your mind to kiss your ass, and go up and approach anyways. It'll be rough at first, but if you continue doing so, you will eventually get very positive results, and as positive results grow, I am certain your AvPD will diminish, since AvPD is likely caused by social phobia from childhood or other negative social experiences.

You need to start building positive results from interaction, and to do that you need to go and start interacting and communicating.

 

[the third eye]

ahha self disgnosis. are you a doctor now?

No but after hours of research on the topic and reading people's personal stories about it(and feeling like I could've written each and every one) plus already being diagnosed social anxiety ad depression, I'm fairly certain of my self-diagnosis.
Bigsmooth, thanks for te advice brotha. I realize the only real solution to this is getting out of my comfort zone for a little cognitive restructuring. Anybody else have experience with this personality?

 

[Huffman]

So? I probably have a disorder too (don't we all), but does this change anything?

So your brain works differently than you thought? Does it change anything?

Even if a doctor found out your brain cells are not grey but rainbow-coloured, does that change anything for your life?

What I'm saying is, you still got the same problems, and you still have to find your own solutions.

though if your brain is rainbow coloured, you're probably gay

 

[the third eye]

So? I probably have a disorder too (don't we all), but does this change anything?

So your brain works differently than you thought? Does it change anything?

Even if a doctor found out your brain cells are not grey but rainbow-coloured, does that change anything for your life?

What I'm saying is, you still got the same problems, and you still have to find your own solutions.

though if your brain is rainbow coloured, you're probably gay

I guess the question is, "do I hate myself enough to change?"

 

[yuppaz]

If you were spending all this time trying to figure out why you were a certain way, then you do want to change. I don't think it's a matter of if you HATE yourself enough to change rather what does that issue look like 5 years down the road if unchecked...what does it potentially look like if you do tackle it.... Do you LIKE yourself enough to change?

 

[BigSmooth]

I guess the question is, "do I hate myself enough to change?"

The question should be: How much more potential could be unlocked in my life if I find the motivation to change?

 

[Down Low]

Gentlemen's Rule # 4: The man is NEVER at fault.

So it's impossible that the problem is with you. To the contrary. The problem is with women.

Thank you.

 

[Young Juan]

I thought I had this once....Then I started to discover the principles of Zen...I do have ADD but also thought I had anxiety issues...I was even diagnosed by a real doctor with ADD and anxiety issues....and then I stopped giving a fvck.

The cure to everything is to simply, not give a fvck. Don't know how old you are, but what i've realized is the older I get, the less of a fvck I give. You can spend all your life trying to fix what you think society thinks is wrong with you, or simply develop yourself to be a strong individual, be confident (with a touch of narcissism and delusionality, if that's even a word, but you get the point) and realize a couple things:

- If you build it, they will come: do you
- You only live once
- You may consider yourself a realist, and you may think that people who are supremely confident are a bit delusional, but the alternative is to be rather depressed. Delusional people are always happy people.
- Life is short, you could die today. Every day could be your last e.g. the terrorist sleeper cells could go live at any moment and kill everybody
- If the b!tch don't like me, she must like women
- You'll never know if you can get away with murder unless you kill someone (figurative, don't really kill someone)
- Once you start killing it, you will get away with murder (The Law of OJ)

Hope I've been helpful. No, I'm not going to explain this. It's both figurative and literal.

It's been real, it's been fun, but ain't been real fun. P'z

 

[incognito42]

Listen to bigsmooth and youngjuan's advice. I don't think I'm much different than you, try to act before you overthink things.

 

[TonyBaloney]

Return of The Third Eye?

Hey bud,

Listen, this navel gazing, effeminate, grovelling, Pc, angst ridden culture is NOT helping much with our ultimate goal; Vagyna....

One has to throw off the shackles of fear and stride out into the gulph of humanity, and throw enough mud around, so that some of it sticks.

I've been horrendously let down by women, men, family, friends over the years, but that innate hunter in me always resurfaces.

Keep the Eye on the main chance - ALWAYS.... and spread bet....you will be succesful....but only if you believe in the inner hunter.

I look forward to yet seeing the best of the......Third Eye