I feel TOTALLY embarassed and ashamed ughh plz help :(

[eaglez1177]

Hey all, I havent been on here in months, but I really dont know who else to go to about something like this. Ive had a gf for about 3 and a half months now and what happened last night is just making me feel like complete sh!t and I cant go through the embarassment of ever talking about it with someone in real life. I'll be straight and to the point.

Last night I hung out with my gf for the entire night and we were just hanging out and hooking up in my basement with the lights off. One thing led to another, and the next thing I know we both have our pants off ready to have sex.

I put on my condom, and we start doing it. Then, within about 30 seconds of having sex with her, I already come and the entire experience is over. Idk why it happened this has never happened to me before where I "ejaculate prematurely". Like whenever she sucks me off or even if im just jerkin myself off, this has never happened where I just come so fast. I feel really really really bad about the whole thing and I feel totally embarassed to say that the first time I had sex (if thats even what you wanna call this) only lasted for 30 seconds.

I kept on apologizing to her and all but she just kept saying how "oh yeah its fine dont worry about it its not a big deal". Well maybe not for her (shes had sex before), but I feel like a completely pathetic, useless, little sh!t who cant even hold his load for longer than a minute.

I seriously have no idea what to do, how to fix the problem (if it can be fixed), and i dont even know if shes even gonna wanna have sex with me after this. I mean we both love each other (and we truly mean it) and i've always been really good at satisfying her sexually (whether it be using my fingers or tongue), but I just feel sooo horrible about this whole thing. On top of it, all my friends talk about how great the sex is with their girlfriends and how they do it for like a good hour. Meanwhile im here AFRAID to mention anything about how I lost my virginity for 30 seconds.

Can someone please help im like getting depressed from this.

 

[Snyper]

It's perfectly normal, don't worry. It's also normal to feel embarrassed about it, and no, girls don't make that big a deal out of it. Next time, if you're not feeling confident, jerk off before sex, that'll make you last longer.

Again, don't worry, PERFECTLY NORMAL. Since she's your girlfriend, I'm sure she'll let it slip

 

[eaglez1177]

I know but i just feel really really bad about it....like I cant even satisfy her .

I mean maybe it would just be easier if I came first and then had sex. Cuz I know that whenever I come, I can still keep my boner pretty easily and I feel alot more relaxed.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

dude!! don't be ashamed of your sexuality man!!

a friend I have, he's pretty successful with women, once told me this:
"the first time i had sex I lasted for like 10 minutes, pretty long compared with other people. but after that I could go for hours, it was awesome."

BE PROUD you lost your virginity, and get with this girl again for more practice so you can build up some stamina.

the only real mistake you made was apologizing to her because that shows her that you're weak and insecure about sex.

but seriously, being with an actual woman, the pvssy has a whole different feel that your d!ck has to get used to. it takes time and practice, but work your way up.

like..the majority of guys are really bad the first time they have sex... its just from inexperience, believe it!

man when i beat it i last way longer than 30 seconds but i doubt i'd last 5 minutes on my first time with a b!tch.

REMEMBER: respect your sexuality as a man, don't get down on yourself because you can't fvck the hardest on your first try.

 

[Conquer]

Bro you got laid---period. Never be ashamed of getting laid. 30 seconds of vagina is better than 30 minutes of your own hand. Remember that **** bro. Brush your shoulder of.

 

[eaglez1177]

Hey guys, i got some great news! I hung out with my gf all day yesterday and we wound up fvcking again at her house during the day while her parents were gone.

This time around things were a lot easier and I felt a lot more comfortable and relaxed. I found that controlling your breathing and starting out slow makes it really easy to control yourself from coming. After I made it through the first five minutes, it felt like I could just go on for hours (and at a fast pace) cuz i had a lot of control over myself this time.

Thanks for the help tho everyone!

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

WTF :box:

You're making this a big deal . She's not . You dont have to do nothing , you dont need to apologize.It just happened , smile and say IT HAPPENED .

No need to feel bad , it happened to a lot of people.


You need to learn how to frame things . The way that you're gonna frame things , people around you are gonna do the same .

 

[Asteconn]

Masturbating before seeing your g/f will make sex last longer. My first time I lasted about 2 hours (not a boast, just some evidence)

 

[2.0]

It's expected that you won't be very good the first time.

Imagine if you had had a lot of experience in bed and were with a girl and it was her first time. You wouldn't expect her to be a master in bed, and if she wasn't very good, you probably wouldn't think it was a big deal because you know she'll get better and you'll enjoy teaching her.

Stop making such a big deal out of nothing, you're getting yourself into a state. It's expected that you'll finish quickly the first time because you've never experienced those feelings before.