I feel "too mature" for high school

[sstype]

I don’t like to rant about such trivial things but I think it would be best to let it out and get some good feedback

Here’s my background;
tall, fair skinned, black hair, built, overall good looking guy

my personality consists of a very chill, no bull**** attitude. I am cordial around any and all girls and guys im around, though im not a doormat. I am basically a nice guy but somewhat of a charmer. Many think I am good looking guy. I don’t C&F girls much because “no one ever takes a clown seriously.” So as a result, I don’t spew off curse words every second like all the other guys do, I don’t poke fun and tease and call girls a “*****” like all the other guys do, I don’t constantly try to impress and tell everyone how I am gonna get so wasted over the weekend( I don’t party unfortunately) I don’t bust my friends balls to prove I am cooler than they are like all the other guys do. I basically live by the philosphy of “treat others the way you want to be treated”

Prior to this, I was an arrogant and insecure loser who was always trying to impress and “be cool” I shunned out many decent people in favor of those who would probably hook me up with the cool guys. But everyone noticed and I made a complete fool of myself.

These same guys and girls now treat me with much more respect than before because of my paradigm shift.

However, I still have a hard time finding stuff to do after school with these same people. Not being close to any of them, they usually stick to their own cliques while im kinda left on the sidelines. Case in point, a girl I was supposed to hang out with Saturday night never called me back(she’s not the reason why im writing this, but its her action consistent with other girls I’ve tried to hook up doing the same exact thing)

Main thing is, I want to get more social without being a pushover, I want to retain my positive attitude and personality and still hang out with those smokin hot high school babes. I want to meet other guys and girls from other schools. I don’t want to bring anyone down or create enemies in the process. I don’t want to have to bust everyones balls and have to talk **** in order to gain respect. I really desire to expand my social network. Getting laid will come along with all of that. But not only will that happen, I will also be more social with people and that is where all the fun is.

But in high school, it appears that talking **** and busting everyones balls is the only way to gain respect. High school reeks of insecurity, immaturity, and low-self esteem. Every one is constantly trying to **** test eachother in order to gain approval from other friends and peers. “Cool” Guys will act like douchebags towards guys they don’t like, yet kiss ass and be friendly with the ones they seek approval from. “Hot” Girls will snicker, girl-code, and talk drama, they will shun out every guy except the select few guys who party often, smoke weed, half-ass their education, and spew garbage to everyone.

Sometimes I feel as if high school has no room for someone like me. I want to enjoy it as much as possible however I don’t want to be someone I am not in order to gain approval.

How can I improve myself to become who I want to be in high school without all that **** that comes along it?

Thanks for your time, I’ll be looking forward to some good advice

 

[Jimbo2k]

I felt the same way about highschool, but now im in college.

I dont have a solution to your (our) problem, all I can tell you is you will thrive in post-secondary (if you decide to go).

 

[gav]

one question. where do you get your fun from?

 

[oakraiderz2]

You dont make fun or tease girls?? What do you do then?? Have "mature conversations"?? You dont seem like you know how to be playful with girls at all. If you just act serious then that makes YOU boring. Just relax and make jokes, its all in good fun. Im not saying trying to impress people and that other gay sh*t is cool but those other guys are the ones gettin results while youre just watchin. You have to change and tweek somethings if nothings working. Remember, teasings all in good fun.

 

[sstype]

Originally posted by oakraiderz2
You dont make fun or tease girls?? What do you do then?? Have "mature conversations"?? You dont seem like you know how to be playful with girls at all. If you just act serious then that makes YOU boring. Just relax and make jokes, its all in good fun. Im not saying trying to impress people and that other gay sh*t is cool but those other guys are the ones gettin results while youre just watchin. You have to change and tweek somethings if nothings working. Remember, teasings all in good fun.

well from my experience with "teasing" more often than not it always seemed to turn off the girl. but i guess that was because i would seriously tease them. I still do tease a little bit. i guess maybe I was getting a little too serious with girls
I just dont want to become a clown in the process where no girl would take me seriously at all....

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by sstype
well from my experience with "teasing" more often than not it always seemed to turn off the girl. but i guess that was because i would seriously tease them. I still do tease a little bit. i guess maybe I was getting a little too serious with girls
I just dont want to become a clown in the process where no girl would take me seriously at all....

Just relax then, do you flirt with them at all? Cause thats all it is, no need to be talking ****, unless its in a playful way. You dont wanna be a clown yet you dont realize you may come off as being uptight and not even realize it. Do you have AIM???

 

[gav]

what oakraider said.

don't take everything so seriously.

be happy, but don't take anybody's shyt - if you do that you'll seem like a fun guy, but at the same time, you won't be taken any less seriously.

i have two major afc friends and that is probably their biggest mistake. they take everything so fvkcing seriously.

example:

him: i was just off the green so i took the putter out
me: ooh you like putting from the rough don't you? winkwink
him: fvck you. *attempts to take my head off*

putting from the rough is a gay innuendo btw

 

[sstype]

yeah, its not that im uptight or anything, i can handle the company of a girl no problem, but im all into fluff talk and not really teasing the girl. GWM just trying to project a calm, sexual state. maybe HS girls want more ****iness and teasing in addition to sexual state right??

 

[Brazilian_Blues_Boy]

I see where you're coming from, because it happens to me every so often...

You're boring !

Try to be more irresponsible when talking to people. You're not out there to have "clever" conversations, there's no such thing till like, college, in philosophy classes maybe...

And you know what? Become the clown of the class. Why not?
At least, you'll build yourself a reputation. That's golden in HS.

I was the "clown", word got spread around, my name was everywhere. Even when I wasn't "inspired", people would gather around to hear me making fun of something or someone... that would put them in the mood, so I would get away with some sh!t.

The more diverse you allow yourself and your personality to be, the more success you'll have in HS and in life

BBB

 

[Jester]

listen kid, im alittle high right now but we'll have to make due. anyway heh. This is what happened to this guy everyone. Girl('s), reject AFC, AFC believs himself to be good looking smart and "mature" just like the girls want. Girl('s) still reject AFC. THis repeating event does not fit logically into the AFC sees the world. AFC proclaims stoutly that he must be too mature for his peers and that is why he is getting rejected! Now all along these kids that act like they couldnt give less about the girls, making fun of them and teasing them are getting laid all over the place.

What gives?

read the bible and find out chummmmmmmmmp.

 

[katoom]

haha any situation is only as fun as you make it. Stop bein that uptight guy no one likes because he cant have fun. People always call me immature but I just know not to take most **** seriously.

 

[sstype]

alright so im loosening up a little bit, busting some balls here and there. showin some more personality at school now. we'll see what happens from here. always lookin to improve myself....appreciate all your reponses

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

I used to think I was too mature for highschool, but then I realized that I wasn't getting layed. I changed my attitude real quick.

 

[LikRetsam]

I don't like anyone.

 

[Porky]

I used to feel this wya. What changed? I don't know. I guess I just loosened up and stopped taking everything so seriously.

I don't like anyone.

Yeah, that's for chumps.

 

[Smooth as Anything]

Originally posted by Jester
listen kid, im alittle high right now but we'll have to make due. anyway heh. This is what happened to this guy everyone. Girl('s), reject AFC, AFC believs himself to be good looking smart and "mature" just like the girls want. Girl('s) still reject AFC. THis repeating event does not fit logically into the AFC sees the world. AFC proclaims stoutly that he must be too mature for his peers and that is why he is getting rejected! Now all along these kids that act like they couldnt give less about the girls, making fun of them and teasing them are getting laid all over the place.

What gives?

read the bible and find out chummmmmmmmmp.

Exactly...

 

[California Love]

I understand where you are coming from. The majority of high schools are filled with hypocrisy and superficiality. It doesnt mean you should give up. Suck it up and go with the flow sometimes! For real, you are gonna be experiencing people like this for the rest of your life. There's a whole lotta followers in the world, and if you don't learn to deal and accomodate to it, you're gonna have a real tough time making friends.


The most important thing:

Don't judge all your peers by the surface appearances. A TON of these "phonies" are actually decent people underneath. Learn to accept people and socialize. You'll be so much happier.

 

[Ak89]

I had same problem and still do. But one day i did find a solution.

You have to be C&F it will work well on how your acting. Flirt with them soon enough you will get them real horny. You don't have to really say much to them but just some some C&F remarks.

It worked for me a manage to get alot of kino with 4 out of 5 girls. One girl even got so horny that in English She had her legs on the other chair that way i can see her thong she was like that for hour and 30 mins. But of course my dumbass got to desperate and i end up hearing tell me.

"Sry for teasing you yesterday i was just horny i know you want the ***** but i just want to be friends"

But i could have gotten a BJ that day. the other girls just used to like set on my lap make me feel there breast, ass.

You should try it once see how it goes.