I feel so sh!tty after being shot down

[redspicyflag]

So I got turned down for prom

and no matter how many times I've been rejected

it always feels sh!tty

I thought I was reading her body language

and I was wrong

well whatever

Time to go fishin'

 

[rkc09]

Ouch! When is your prom?

 

[redspicyflag]

May 10th

Bout u?

 

[Bling]

I'm sorry to hear it, bro. Don't listen to any of the idiots that come in and said "Be a man, and find a new *****." It definitely hurts. The only thing wrong I saw from you is the whole reading her body language. Sadly, unless it's blatant, you start to see stuff that isn't there. Besides that, chin up. I've been denied over ten times, and only had two girlfriends. You'll find someone for prom.

 

[redspicyflag]

Hey Bling and rkc,

thanks

Even though I've been rejected before

I'm sure the pain never truly goes away

it ain't about how hard you hit, its about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward!

rocky IV(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ErR8OcBlO4)

 

[SinJester]

I'm sure the pain eventually goes away. Just not for normal people who only ask someone out every 2 years or so. It's really a numbers game. If you are on sosuave and start believing you've found the key or that you can get anyone it will end in dissapointment. I've always been through that a few times. Just don't dwell on it, sit down somewhere and look at all the things you did right and focus on them. There are really far too many variables in this for it ever to be logical to get down about it, but of course we all do.

In any case, you asked, you learnt, you had another experiance... You sir, win!

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Don't listen to any of the idiots that come in and said "Be a man, and find a new *****." It definitely hurts. for

Is this the advice from Master Don Juan ?:cuss:
Wtf do you want us to say ?? Start crying , wait for other girls to call you , dont go to prom and these kind of things ?

Of course not .

This is a forum of inspiration and motivation . We have to motivate this guy that got shot down by an arrogant b!tch .
Ok ok , he got shot down it hurts . Whats the big deal ?
I know it sucks , ive been rejected many many times . But cmon man , we gotta have Prize mindset . If she rejects me , its her loss .

Dont worry bro , in HS there are some b!tches that live for this . To reject , to be arrogant and these kind of things .

But you dont worry , try to find someone else for prom and have fun .

The best way get over it is to start gaming and then getting other dates 4 prom .

Good luck finding your next partner .

 

[noirsake]

Take your entire senior class number and cut it in half. That number will represent the girls. Take away 1 on the girls and thats how many potential prom dates you have.

Example:
Class of 500
250 chicks
249 left to ask

That girls was like %.4 of all the girls available that are seniors. Plus you have underclassmen as well!

 

[Triple T]

Take your entire senior class number and cut it in half. That number will represent the girls. Take away 1 on the girls and thats how many potential prom dates you have.

Example:
Class of 500
250 chicks
249 left to ask

That girls was like %.4 of all the girls available that are seniors. Plus you have underclassmen as well!

haha very true. Chin up mate!

 

[Bling]

Bro, how you feeling? Better? Any new ideas for prom dates?

 

[GaryUranga]

If you are on sosuave and start believing you've found the key or that you can get anyone it will end in dissapointment.

I beg to differ, I think a delusional believe that you are the sh1t will help you greatly, been working for me

 

[SinJester]

GaryUranga it depends if you are outcome dependant or not. If you believe you are the sh!t period, and don't care what happens or what anyone thinks it will work. If you think you are the sh!t but the when a girl shoots you down you think 'What happened? I'm supposed to be the sh!t' it aint gonna work because you obviously have deeper level problems. The second one happened to me... more than once.

More important that 'believing you are the sh!t' is not caring about the outcome. This is when you have belief in yourself and you are secure enough to know that her reactions say more about you than her. It's having an abundance mentality. It's truly believing that you don't need a girl in your life. People talk about all these things here and on some level you can gain anew belief but I don't think it can be truly strong untill you ahve ahd experiance with it.

Everyone has their own path and there are different means to an end. I don't have delusion confidence anymore, I am just completely secure with who I am. I don't get down about rejection anymore. At the same time that delusion confidence was good in some ways, but it was always shallow for me. Not having that doesn't mean that you can't have got rid of your negative beliefs. For me it is confidence not arrogance, security not delusion.

But this could all come down to semantics. I am sure you are going great and have a good mindset

To redspicyflag, just don't believe that rejection will always hurt.

 

[Evolution]

Who gives a crap about being shot down, i hate to even use that word "shot down" there are no such things are rejections in my book. Just learning and experience.

 

[defiancy]

I don't know about you, but I feel very empowered when I get rejected. You don't win, but you don't lose because you gain more confidence and know that you learned something from it.

Look on the bright side. Depending on what your definition of body language is, you now know that maybe what she did was not a sign of interest. Be easygoing about asking. If you are, you just shrug off the rejection easily and move on.

 

[redspicyflag]

Bro, how you feeling? Better? Any new ideas for prom dates?

Eh

There are a couple of girls

but i just don't feel that strongly about going to prom

meh

All my hard earned cash

haha

 

[SinJester]

If you don't go make sure your 100% certain you wont regret it.

 

[Cry For Love]

this is an issue of inner game. your goal should be to reach the stage where your mind cant be swinged by others. not only will that help you find inner peace (which is the main reason why you should strive for it) but it also makes you attractive. get into situations which threaten your confidence, of which you are afraid(like speeches, talking to several people, starting conversations with strangers, talkign to girls, anything). that will harden you and will pay off.

not getting sad or serious when people tell you that you s*ck, that you have done something wrong or when there is a general arrogant attitude towards you makes you have an aura of charm around you

 

[GaryUranga]

GaryUranga it depends if you are outcome dependant or not. If you believe you are the sh!t period, and don't care what happens or what anyone thinks it will work. If you think you are the sh!t but the when a girl shoots you down you think 'What happened? I'm supposed to be the sh!t' it aint gonna work because you obviously have deeper level problems. The second one happened to me... more than once.

More important that 'believing you are the sh!t' is not caring about the outcome. This is when you have belief in yourself and you are secure enough to know that her reactions say more about you than her. It's having an abundance mentality. It's truly believing that you don't need a girl in your life. People talk about all these things here and on some level you can gain anew belief but I don't think it can be truly strong untill you ahve ahd experiance with it.

Everyone has their own path and there are different means to an end. I don't have delusion confidence anymore, I am just completely secure with who I am. I don't get down about rejection anymore. At the same time that delusion confidence was good in some ways, but it was always shallow for me. Not having that doesn't mean that you can't have got rid of your negative beliefs. For me it is confidence not arrogance, security not delusion.

But this could all come down to semantics. I am sure you are going great and have a good mindset

To redspicyflag, just don't believe that rejection will always hurt.

yeah I agree actually its liek 2 sides of the same coin, just that delusional confidence works good for me specially when you keep your options wide open though Im pretty sure theres a balance between them

 

[Supremo]

Dude it sucks being shot down, but seriously you gotta come from a mindset of ABUNDANCE (straight from Tyler D). If this ***** is gonna front on your **** and say, "No." Then **** her! There's hundreds of other *****es waiting to go with you.

You weren't rejected, you just learned that she obviously has a bad taste in guys!

DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT acting down on yourself, especially around her because that just shows you were affected by her decision to not go with you. Keep up the ****iness, keep up the cool-guy behavior, and on prom HAVE A BLAST! She'll be the sorry one. The stupid slut.

 

[redspicyflag]

this is an issue of inner game. your goal should be to reach the stage where your mind cant be swinged by others. not only will that help you find inner peace (which is the main reason why you should strive for it) but it also makes you attractive. get into situations which threaten your confidence, of which you are afraid(like speeches, talking to several people, starting conversations with strangers, talkign to girls, anything). that will harden you and will pay off.

not getting sad or serious when people tell you that you s*ck, that you have done something wrong or when there is a general arrogant attitude towards you makes you have an aura of charm around you

haha

I got over it by the next morning

and I've done quite a bit of fear defying stuff

I'll give some girls a shot