I feel pathetic, embarassed, and weak. Premature ejaculation is KILLING my game!

[eaglez1177]

I dont even know what to say right now cuz I feel so fvcking ****ty. You can give me all the advice you want, but I've seriously tried EVERYTHING to last longer than 30 seconds when having sex. Its just impossible for me and I honestly believe that im gonna be stuck with this burden for the rest of my life.

I've done Kegels for nearly SIX MONTHS and nothing has changed. I've tried thicker condoms, ejaculating/masturbating beforehand, thrusting extremely slow, trying to concentrate my mind on other things, drunken sex, high sex, NOTHING FVCKING WORKS.

Im fvck buddies with this girl and I pretty much lost that fvck buddy status today cuz of my horrible fvcking case of premature ejaculation. She pretty much told me how it isnt fair for her and how I never finish and can never hold it in. She told me how shes given me numerous opportunities to try and fix it but its not working. Then to top it all off, she said, "sorry but your just really bad at fvcking and I cant keep going on like this so I think its best we just give up".

I've had sex many times with a few different girls, and all have given me the same look, expression, and words when they see that I've blown my load after fifteen seconds. I cant even describe how bad I feel after I see their reactions. I feel like I have a really great game when it comes to women, but I can NEVER fvcking finish the deal. Whenever it comes down to the best part (sex), I always wind up lasting under a minute, and then I just feel like everything I did up until that point was all for nothing.

This whole thing is KILLING my confidence, and its just getting me into a mindset where i've come to believe that I'll never be able to fix this problem, and im gonna be stuck being the worst person in the world when it comes to having sex. Im only 18 years old too, so WHAT THE FVCK am I gonna do when im in my twenties? Those are gonna be the busiest years of my life when it comes to sex, and my game is gonna be seriously destroyed by the thought of this huge problem in my mind.

I really dont know what to do at this point.

 

[Warrior74]

How many rounds do you go with these girls? I tend to bust quick in a new girl the first time, but I make up for it on the second and third rounds with some oral thrown in between rounds while I recharge.

Do you jerk off to porn? When you jerk off are you in a hurry? You may be training yourself to respond to sexual stimulation with quickly ejaculating. If you do jerk off, try prolonging it as long as possible before you come. In essence reprogramming your response to stimulation.

If fixing it yourself is not working seek professional help. Find a sex therapist. Get the problem fixed, its your life and nobody can fix it but you. Good luck.

 

[MisterMcGee]

Papercut on your penis head makes sex last forever.
lol

 

[Captain]

I've you've been doing kegels perfectly correctly for nearly 6 months, you should be a sexual god, so either you haven't been doing them right, or this is all in your head.

If you can't last longer, after you cvm the first time, go down on her, get it back up, and go again.

If you struggle to get it back up, tell her to help you get it back up again in a playful way. You need to act as if you aren't turned on enough, and you need her to give you a helping hand or two.

Start with lots of foreplay and oral. Give her an orgasm before you even start having sex.

 

[eaglez1177]

How many rounds do you go with these girls? I tend to bust quick in a new girl the first time, but I make up for it on the second and third rounds with some oral thrown in between rounds while I recharge.

Do you jerk off to porn? When you jerk off are you in a hurry? You may be training yourself to respond to sexual stimulation with quickly ejaculating. If you do jerk off, try prolonging it as long as possible before you come. In essence reprogramming your response to stimulation.

If fixing it yourself is not working seek professional help. Find a sex therapist. Get the problem fixed, its your life and nobody can fix it but you. Good luck.

Now that you mention it, yes I do jerk off to porn, and its usually just to cvm as quick as possible.

And I know for a fact that i've been doing the kegels right.

And for me, if I have a lot of foreplay and oral, I completely lose my erection cuz the ONLY way it can be kept up is if shes giving me head. So while im busy fingering her or eating her out, my d*ck is like the farthest thing from an erection cuz I just dont get turned on by doing that stuff.

 

[Juice09]

Bro, I'm not gonna lie, it sounds like you've got a serious problem on your hands. You've tried everything in the book and it hasn't helped. It could be a serious medical issue.

 

[eaglez1177]

Dude please dont fvcking scare me like that its not helping...is there even a legitimate medical condition for premature ejaculation? I mean its not like I have erectile dysfunction I can still get boners and sh*t

 

[MrVain]

masturbate till you feel like cumming, stop till you lose sensation, masturbate again till you get the cumming sensation, once again stop and start

this is called 'edging' you train your penis to *** when YOU want to ***, not when your body naturally cums, edge for 30mins-1hour 4-5 times a week, if you *** in 30 seconds when you have a tug then do that first and then have another session of edging.

hopefully you'll see some results, also how long do you hold your kegels for? and how many do you do?

 

[omkara]

Dude please dont fvcking scare me like that its not helping...is there even a legitimate medical condition for premature ejaculation? I mean its not like I have erectile dysfunction I can still get boners and sh*t

Based on what I've read (school textbooks), it's pretty much never a medical condition. It's more of a mental thing/inexperience. This occurs 99% of the time in people under 30, or 25 even. So don't worry, you'll get the hang of it. Also what Mr. Vain said is right. The 'edging' thing, or something similar, is one of the things that's typically recommended for this kind of problem. It's basically a matter of gaining some control over the whole process, when you want x to happen and when you want y to happen. If you get too aroused then just stop and wait for it to die down and start up again. The girl will be cool with it, because it will last longer for her.

 

[radiodude]

There should be no reason you aren't pleasing her beforehand either orally or otherwise BEFORE you have yours. Thats one quick solution right there.

Stimulate her ****/G-spot. Do what needs to be done to get her going and off.

THEN worry about yourself. Also, don't masterbate, especially to porn. That trains you to satisfy yourself quickly. It's also what causes the anxiety which fuels the problem

RELAX and enjoy the moment. Don't think overly erotic thoughts about whats going on between you and the girl. Think relaxed thoughts about what you're doing. Enjoy the prolonged stimulation. Go slower. Don't jackhammer like crazy.

You'll learn to get used to it after a while. Trust me.

 

[falcon814]

Here bro. Heres what i do everytime im with a new girl.

For some reason, during my first few times with a new girl i *** too early. Its all anxiety. Therefore, everytime i fcuk a new girl, I take Stamina RX (the other blue pill - can be bought online or any grocery store). And it helps me last longer and get more erections.

Use the pill a few times with the new girl and once u get comfortable with her you wont need the pill any more.

Give it a shot.

 

[Emperiorjack]

you could order some paxil online. It been shown to help people with premaure ejaculation. you'll start wishing you could get sooner while on that stuff.

 

[mothballs]

I agree with those saying you've trained yourself this way. You need to start taking more time to wack off... make it last 5 mins or 10 mins... get that down and you will at least have what it takes to last longer. There are desensitizing condoms out there that might help in the meantime.

I had this problem a couple times with the current GF since I had been out of the game for nearly a decade... I found that she'd give me so much foreplay that an orgasm was soon imminent shortly after I got hard... the first time with her I actually lasted about a minute, and that was with a pause to hold it back... I managed to regain composure though after a few times with her... and a week between the first couple and subsequent sessions. I took a look at what I had been doing during my decade long haiatus and why that might be negatively effecting me and I improved my "solo game" in that week of down time... the problem soon subsided after I worked on this.

Now that I'm completely back in the game I have no trouble getting hard and staying in a good 10-15 mins without trying. I can also say that with age my stamina has greatly improved... when I was 19 I was lucky to go for 5 mins, now that I'm 29 I have to actually make sure not to last too long or she gets on my case for teasing her.

 

[Vader]

Now that you mention it, yes I do jerk off to porn, and its usually just to cvm as quick as possible.

Any questions, your training yourself.......

 

[eaglez1177]

Hmm okay well im definitely going to try the "edging" method when it comes to masturbation...i shud definitely look into some pills tho, i mean that must be pretty easy to just pop in a pill before sex and then not have to worry bout anything

 

[MisterMcGee]

Yeah, cause pills work like magic. No side effects or anything. -.-

 

[falcon814]

everytime i took stamina rx - had no side effects.

When i tried viagra - i had a crazy runny nose and headache.

Cialist - runny nose and headache for about 2 days.