I feel like im Viper

[we all eat food]

Here is my life story. I've been living in a quiet suburban town in New York. I'm a white guy with no friends. Well.. not exactly, it's not that simple. Let me start from the beginning.

In gradeschool before cliches come in I through I was pretty well off. I had some freinds, we had a pretty big group and we hung out at lunch.. nothing much else, went to eachother's house only for birthdays and **** like that. We weren't the smartest kids in school but we were pretty smart.

In middle school some **** was beginning. Like the popular kids groups were starting to form, then the skaters, and blah blah blah. The group got smaller, people forgot eachother, same ****. I started looking out for my education so I could keep above a 3.5 gpa. I still had some of the same friends. Namely 3 really good ones.

The group I was in was pretty much what you would call the "rejects". Those people in highschool that are nerdy and ugly, and whatnot, who talk about video games and play Magic: The Gathering.

About my 3 good friends. We had our disagreements but we stayed pretty good friends throughout middle school and whatnot. We didn't really meet eachother that much after school, but that was alright because I didn't really care.

And then highschool happen, and I lost all 3 of my friends. Over summer while I was on vacation, one of my friends moved to Canada. The other friend, the SMART one, an asian, decided to join the "Asian group" as he likes to call it. They hang out, call eachother, go to eachothers houses like it's nothing, go to the movies, their group has girls, ect. Why wouldn't he ditch me? My 3rd friend managed to get a girlfriend somehow (to tell you the truth, alot of people make fun of him behind his back calling him ugly), so he spends most of his time with her. They have been going out for 2 years now and still haven't broken up.

Right now, I don't really have any friends.

I sit at a table of rejects. Even I want to call them rejects because most of the time I hate them. They are nerds that really bug me, and they hate me, but they are too much of pussies to tell me to go hang out somewhere else. As soon as I finish lunch I walk around the school or do my homework. Why do they bug me? Most of them talk about nerdy mmorpgs, Halo 2, how well they did on their tests, about how much homework they have to do today at lunch, boring **** like that. None of us have ever had a girlfriend, and most of them, like me have never even TOUCHED a girl in any romantic way. No holding hands, no hug, NOTHING. I hate it.

So I'm sitting here thinking about my life. I have no friends. One moved to canada. The other hangs out with his girlfriend. And the other friend DITCHED me (I don't blame him, but he still jokes about it, and doesn't realize it hurts me feeling when he's like "LOL dude, I ditched you guys because you don't have any girls in your group) to hang out with Asians, and he's having a really good time.

For example, see my schedule: Go to school, come home, do homework, play on the PC/go to LWS. And weekends are usually do homework and eat, go on PC.

His schedule is hanging out with his friends after school, going to a CAFE or going to someone's house, or playing tennis. Doing homework, then talking to them on the phone. On the weekends they usually see a movie or go to someone's house to play HALO 2.

I know what you are thinking, "This guy sits with people who he hates and people who hate him, his friends ditched him, he's never had a girlfriend, he's 16, HE SHOULD JOIN A CLUB OR SPORT TO GET NEW FRIENDS!"

I've done it. Freshman year I knew how I had no social/love life. Sophmore year I told myself "This year it's going to be different".

I looked at the sports befores school started: Tennis, no I can't join that because my Asian friend and all of his Asian Group play that. I couldn't stand being there.

Football: I tried out, found out how horrible I was at that, so next sport.

Wrestling: Yeah! Finally a sport I like. I joined, and I made it into JV beating 4 other guys. So I'm doing that. Sport check, next clubs.

Clubs are something to do at Lunch. Something to do so I don't have to deal with the losers. I join a bunch of clubs.

So, now what? I get with people with similar interests, so maybe magic happens and I become their friend? Wrong.

I've yet to make ONE friend. People who act pretty cool to me at the clubs or wrestling I looked for at lunch and tried to talk to them, but they look at me, and I know that they are thinking "What the **** are you doing here?". I tried to be more agressive too, like saying "Do you want to hang out at blah blah blah" but they always say "No.. I'm busy". And I know they are lying because they say it in a tone that almost resembles "eeew".

So what do I do now? I never had a girlfriend, I have no friends, what the **** kind of loser am I? Do I even deserve to live?

sorry guys for the Emo rant there, but i justed had to let it out since im feeling very depressed

 

[True Wolf]

I've been there before. What did i do? I got the fvck over it, searched myself till i found out wtf was wrong with me, and FIXED it. If i can, so can you. From what you wrote it seems to me that you haven't even looked at the DJ bible. So do yourself a favor and browse it. I recommend the boost section.

 

[i am me]

Hey man, you seem like a good guy...you know the situation, you at least recognize your social standing, and you don't seem like a bad person in general. What would I recommend you do? I would try to find friends that are "cooler" than the "Asian Group." Your friend doesn't take you along to his new group of friends, so find a group that would be considered "higher up". What do you have to lose? Most of the time, "cool" people are just as nice as uncool people (it's just that they're more intimdating). That's what I'd recommend. Good luck with that and tell us how it goes.

 

[Patrick124]

I suggest getting a sense of humor.
and lifting.
Lifting increases self-esteem/confidence AND looks. and i shows girls you have dedication towards something.
With a sense of humor you'll make a good atmosphere aroudn yourself, creating friends.
To improve your humor..i suggest listening to a buncha comedians/standup and whatnot. Dane Cook is a personal favorite. and Mitch Hedberg[RIP].
theres a lto of other stuff to be done. read he bible. and take others advice as well.
and for the record: I was you 2 years ago.

 

[wazza]

surf, you'll fall in love with the ocean in such a way that everything else that bugs you won't mean sh!t, you WILL meet cool, mellow people in the water, make friends and things will start to improve, trust me on that one, also start hanging with people who are not from your school, you can't imagine how much of a boost to your popularity that will be, and you can start fresh with them, hope that helps

 

[MetalFortress]

uhh, I suggest not being a racist bastard.

 

[Canibus27]

That sucks dude, I see alot of kids in your type of situation at my school. I'd suggest making one friend, and then you will get to know his friends, then so on and so on. The "popular" crowd is just like anybody else, so maybe even offer then some help in school, just don't care, what do you have to lose? Be aggressive, talk to people in class, suck up to them if that helps them like you better.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
uhh, I suggest not being a racist bastard.

Care to elaborate...

 

[i am me]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
uhh, I suggest not being a racist bastard.

How was he being racist? His asian friend called his friends the "asian group"

 

[MetalFortress]

"I looked at the sports befores school started: Tennis, no I can't join that because my Asian friend and all of his Asian Group play that. I couldn't stand being there."

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
uhh, I suggest not being a racist bastard.

If most people in the group are Asian, it's not being racist, dumbass, it's simply a fact.

 

[taiwanesedude227]

Lol, yeah I am in a similar situation to you. Except I am in an asian group, minus the girls and the fun.

 

[Patrick124]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
"I looked at the sports befores school started: Tennis, no I can't join that because my Asian friend and all of his Asian Group play that. I couldn't stand being there."

he doesn't want to be around his friend who ditched him to go hangotu with girls. and if your friend ditched you permanently to go chillw ith othe rpeople,a nd TOLD you he was done with you, woudl u want to hangout with him and his group?lol

 

[taiwanesedude227]

I've yet to make ONE friend. People who act pretty cool to me at the clubs or wrestling I looked for at lunch and tried to talk to them, but they look at me, and I know that they are thinking "What the **** are you doing here?". I tried to be more agressive too, like saying "Do you want to hang out at blah blah blah" but they always say "No.. I'm busy". And I know they are lying because they say it in a tone that almost resembles "eeew".

I have the exact same problem. It's hard to just start making friends now when everyone already has their own lives. If anyone overcame this problem, please explain how you did so.

 

[Inquire]

this dude is telling us his life story. i dont believe him, he talked to me on aim and he says he live in new york. now he's sayin he lives in california. sigh, dont trust him guys, he just messin around wit u guys, a troll as some would say.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by Inquire
this dude is telling us his life story. i dont believe him, he talked to me on aim and he says he live in new york. now he's sayin he lives in california. sigh, dont trust him guys, he just messin around wit u guys, a troll as some would say.

Youre right. This is that dude that talked to chicks in a beavis and butthead voice. Will someone PLEASE ban him!

 

[Holland]

Mmm. I think you should start getting a life. I mean. School is pretty much your life. You don't do anything else (PC doesn't count). So start getting a life, find hobby's you like.
Sure I hang out with people at my school, but I wouldn't call them my friends. My friends are people who I hang out with and have fun with in my spare time. And all of my friends are on different schools.

 

[Nexxus]

the title is so funny

anyways nothing's gonna happen unless you do something about it....

 

[we all eat food]

ok, look this is my situation EXACTLy, no bull****ting, the beggininng post were just stuff to joke around and now im serious.
I feel like im stuck and i cant get out. So please help mwah

 

[Wee]

Two tips. More outgoing and sense of humor.

I used to be in your situation in middle school. I sat with kids that I knew were nerdy. They were my friends too though. All along they were all blissfully unaware of their status, but I (who was naturally the leader, or nerd KING as I like to call it) longed to be more popular.

Then I joined a swim team... No one there knew me and I was alright at swimming so making new friends wasn't too hard. I was funny and got a little more outgoing and made 1 really good and cool friend. Then I met all his friends. Around the same time I started reading David DeAngelo's newsletter. I learned C&F and used it on my cool friend's friends. One of them became my girlfriend. My confidence shot up (very important) and she got me clothes (lookin' good is important, it don't matter if you are ugly but like keep what you are wearin' nice) and **** like that.

Then I got cancer.. a minor setback.. A year later I started in the middle of highschool freshman year. This was my chance to change a bit. I acted a little different. I was funnier in class and ditched my nerdy sh*t with a more bad boy attitude (still maintaing my gradse). I could get people to laugh. I could talk to them alright. It was all gooood.

Sophmore year started and I still wasn't top dog. I was a little more confident though, so I decided to make some more big changes. I talked to everyone in all of my classes. I made lotsa jokes the first day of school to give people a good impression of me. I was myself around everyone so the boring people without a sense of humor (the people that hated me ) go weeded out. I formed a set of friends. At lunch I have to alternate tables I sit at because I don't want any group of people to miss out on basking in the warm glow that is my presence. Just smile a lot. I'm friend's with some ugly dudes because they are funny and fun to hang out with. Find people that like you for you and be you. Not some quiet guy that sits in the corner not talking to anyone. Be loud, outgoing, and kewl.