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This is exactly why Men need plates, we need options so it's easier for us to move on since women are so fickle these days.
 

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This is exactly why Men need plates, we need options so it's easier for us to move on since women are so fickle these days.
Women have always been fickle ("flighty") - to whit, I present a song written in the 19th Century about the dating scene during the Renaissance Period:

 

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Women have always been fickle
Hey, I know that song from Gilligan's Island.

I remember even my mother told me that women were fickle. A little early Red Pill training, that. Lol.
 

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Damn bruh chill out lol.......

It's apart of the game, don't feel bad about yourself, it's happens to the best of the best.
You gotta be a lil tougher than that bro lol.

Life is full of disappointments and bad unfortunate things, you gone break down everytime something doesn't go your way ?
That's not how a grown man conducts himself.

A few months ago I had a woman I was dealing with on a casual/sexually level and she was allll over me, as if she was obsessed with me, then out of nowhere she disappeared, literally in thin air, whenever I would shoot her a lil text I would get late responses and dry text, what did I do?

I shrugged my shoulders and went on about my life, I enjoyed the attention and sex while it lasted and then it came to a end as all things do.

Now I'm fvcking someone else and haven't thought twice about her.

Again, it's apart of the game, as a man, I let women come and go as they wish, I suggest you learn to do the same.

I've always said men these days are not tough enough to deal with these fickle and ruthless women of today, only the strong survive.

Your young as hell and have plenty of more life experiences, good and bad,

TOUGHEN UP LIL BRUH......Good luck and keep your head up!
 

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The worst part is these women just move on quickly.
They aren’t happy though. I see their reactions everyday. They’re miserable, most are dunks and or pill poppers or on the verge of mental collapse.
 

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Damn bruh chill out lol.......

It's apart of the game, don't feel bad about yourself, it's happens to the best of the best.
You gotta be a lil tougher than that bro lol.

Life is full of disappointments and bad unfortunate things, you gone break down everytime something doesn't go your way ?
That's not how a grown man conducts himself.

A few months ago I had a woman I was dealing with on a casual/sexually level and she was allll over me, as if she was obsessed with me, then out of nowhere she disappeared, literally in thin air, whenever I would shoot her a lil text I would get late responses and dry text, what did I do?

I shrugged my shoulders and went on about my life, I enjoyed the attention and sex while it lasted and then it came to a end as all things do.

Now I'm fvcking someone else and haven't thought twice about her.

Again, it's apart of the game, as a man, I let women come and go as they wish, I suggest you learn to do the same.

I've always said men these days are not tough enough to deal with these fickle and ruthless women of today, only the strong survive.

Your young as hell and have plenty of more life experiences, good and bad,

TOUGHEN UP LIL BRUH......Good luck and keep your head up!
Thanks man, I think it's just tough for me bc I was raised to believe that women are sugar and spice and everything nice yknow. If I was taught their true nature I'm sure i'd handle it much better.
 

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They aren’t happy though. I see their reactions everyday. They’re miserable, most are dunks and or pill poppers or on the verge of mental collapse.
There's a psychologist I watch on youtube and he says that are women are mental to some degree lol
 

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I shrugged my shoulders and went on about my life, I enjoyed the attention and sex while it lasted and then it came to a end as all things do.

Now I'm fvcking someone else and haven't thought twice about her.

Again, it's apart of the game, as a man, I let women come and go as they wish, I suggest you learn to do the same.

I've always said men these days are not tough enough to deal with these fickle and ruthless women of today, only the strong survive.
Well said sir. If a man lets himself be bothered by the whimsical ways of women, he won’t have a very happy life (whether in a relationship or not). As a side effect, this indifference is a massive turn on for women.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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So I dated a girl last year and every date was great. We made out and she seemed to really like me. She was just average looking but I was thrilled to be dating her. And then out of the blue she pretty much just ghosted me. I didn't do anything to scare her off. It really sucked bc I really liked her. Even though I'm average looking I don't have much confidence with women bc on tinder and IG the only girls who liked me were either ugly or overweight.

I'm not really sure how to proceed. I feel like these days the best course of action would be to just plate women but I dont really enjoy that. I used to think I wanted to hook up with lots of women but after doing it twice it felt like I was just using their body to masturbate. I'd really like to be in a relationship but women have so many options I feel like it could all just end at any random moment. I don't want to give up but its a lot of work just to find a girl and then its depressing af when she just leaves for no reason.

She is average looking and not even would be one of your first choices if you had more options. Don't act like you are above spinning plates when you clearly have no options.

If she isn't among your top initial choices she should never be taken seriously in the first place OP. How does a man even continue to muster up the desire to continue having sex with "an average looking woman after a few weeks? Serious question.

Why did you like this girl? Tell us one good thing about her please.

If you are young, you should be spinning plates until you finally land a top choice.
 

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Happens to all of us. Hell, it's so frequent for me that I've become numb to it. Not in a depressed emo way but more like, well, now I find this sh1t hilarious and have nothing to lose.

Expect more troll behavior from me, ladies. I'm this close to dropping a "nice t1ts" on my next date just for the lulz.

All jokes aside, you learn to stop taking dating and women seriously over time. Dating is designed by women for women. Perhaps I'm a bit too cynical, but it does feel like we are now pro-women/anti-men in the states. As a man, it just feels like we can't really express ourselves honestly anymore without being villainized. You're either a little *****, or a narcissist and not a human experiencing a wide range of emotions. I wonder if this is one of many things contributing to the skyrocketing suicide rates for men.

That is where the value of this site comes from me. After some deep and careful reflection, I realized I was prioritizing this pursuit too much, detrimental to my mental and spiritual health. I became so fed up and frustrated with the games and rejections that I hunkered down and began putting in work in my career and hobbies. As a result, I have a strong routine now and feel at peace. I wake up every day looking forward to killing whatever goals I have set for myself. Women would downright ruin this for me right now.

One of my biggest problems was believing that a woman desired to be a part of a man's journey and collaborate with him to help us evolve into the best versions of ourselves. Took me a while to acknowledge how ridiculous that mindset was. I clearly watched too much T.V as a kid

As Cindy Lauper once said, "Girls just wanna have fun," - which is why I now look at them the same way I look at something I shouldn't be indulging in too much but would be fun for a night or two, i.e., pot, drinking, etc.

Long-term commitment? Fughedaboutit.
Great post. I’m in much the same boat as you...super focussed on my goals and enjoying the freedom of single life. Any women along the way are just garnish on an already tasty steak.
 

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So I dated a girl last year and every date was great. We made out and she seemed to really like me. She was just average looking but I was thrilled to be dating her. And then out of the blue she pretty much just ghosted me. I didn't do anything to scare her off. It really sucked bc I really liked her. Even though I'm average looking I don't have much confidence with women bc on tinder and IG the only girls who liked me were either ugly or overweight.

I'm not really sure how to proceed. I feel like these days the best course of action would be to just plate women but I dont really enjoy that. I used to think I wanted to hook up with lots of women but after doing it twice it felt like I was just using their body to masturbate. I'd really like to be in a relationship but women have so many options I feel like it could all just end at any random moment. I don't want to give up but its a lot of work just to find a girl and then its depressing af when she just leaves for no reason.
Get good at talking to all sorts of women, anywhere and everywhere. It turns you into a pick-me up artist instead of a pick up artist. You will learn there is abundance and you can make all sorts of womens days. It pays off too. I've charmed a woman and a year later I can tell they are just waiting for more.
 

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Women have lots of options with men. The primary method they use to choose is how much he makes the \/ag tingle. You could be in great with a woman, a 9.9 to her. But if a 10 comes along, your out for "tonight". But tomorrow if he's not available, your back in. This is how it works. Once you understand this it becomes much easier to digest.
 

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So I dated a girl last year and every date was great. We made out and she seemed to really like me. She was just average looking but I was thrilled to be dating her. And then out of the blue she pretty much just ghosted me. I didn't do anything to scare her off. It really sucked bc I really liked her. Even though I'm average looking I don't have much confidence with women bc on tinder and IG the only girls who liked me were either ugly or overweight.

I'm not really sure how to proceed. I feel like these days the best course of action would be to just plate women but I dont really enjoy that. I used to think I wanted to hook up with lots of women but after doing it twice it felt like I was just using their body to masturbate. I'd really like to be in a relationship but women have so many options I feel like it could all just end at any random moment. I don't want to give up but its a lot of work just to find a girl and then its depressing af when she just leaves for no reason.
Sorry to hear that man! I can understand that feeling and I think almost every guy will experience it in life.

In my experience, when a woman ghost its probably because she is dating another guy. Hypergamy in action.

If you're feeling bad about it I would suggest to leave her as soon as possible and focus on other plates. Don't be like me and fall in love with a woman thats not into you like you were to her. You end up feeling worse.

I have a hard time learning to deal with how women are behaving nowsdays. I prefer to stay with only one girl at time and I know how hard it can be. With time you start to accept and you dont feel like that. Just dont expect much of women. Value the ones who shows high interest, but if it doesnt work just move on.
 

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This is why they say "She was never yours, it was just your turn". It's also a self-fullfilling prophecy, the more you fear it, the more it's going to happen because you radiate fear of losing her. If you're scared to lose her, you will lose her. Stop being scared of things, fear is the worst advisor.
 

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In 2022 where women have multiple multiple options, probably not even caring for half of them, were all easily replaceable. That's why I don't get the treating someone like trash in hopes they'll stay with you, when the woman will get sick of your constant Bs, her friends and family will advise to her that you're a huge red flag and bad partner, and there "1000's of other men that could treat her better" which isn't a lie.
 

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That is where the value of this site comes from me. After some deep and careful reflection, I realized I was prioritizing this pursuit too much, detrimental to my mental and spiritual health. I became so fed up and frustrated with the games and rejections that I hunkered down and began putting in work in my career and hobbies. As a result, I have a strong routine now and feel at peace. I wake up every day looking forward to killing whatever goals I have set for myself. Women would downright ruin this for me right now.
CareerCopeMaxxing & HobbyCopeMaxxing

BTW, I've been doing the latter, but took an early out for the former - it's very hard to stay motivated to WageSlaveMax when there is no poon. :mad:

It's a meme:
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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