I feel like an utter failure right now

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I've been talking to this girl for like 3 weeks and we went to the beach this week. She was in bed like resting, so I got in behind her in a sexual way. We pretty much slept with each other cuddled and in a sexual position. I kissed her neck a little, but that was it. I didn't think she would put out because she's a virgin and she was tired. I feel like I don't have any balls right now.
 

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Mate, you made a mistake, its in the past, the more you let it linger in your mind, the more it will have an impact in the future.

Embrace the mistake, learn from it and dont do it again. Next time do something about it.
 

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I dont see any epic fail in here, most of us did much more worse.

Just try to do better next time.
 

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alright, I do need to forget about, but she forgot something so she's coming back over tonight. It will just bring it back up
 

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When i'm in bed with a girl I just rub my boner on her... All the same things you were doing, just with a boner. You should try it sometime... she can't ignore it forever... I'll just start out hugging and cuddling, let her feel the heat, then go for a boob and it's all over.
 

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While not coming across like a total horn dog. You just have to do the minimum to make sure she can feel it. Sometimes i'll just give a "accidental" poke with a muffled oops to get the point across. Maybe adjust it a little.. lay it on her thigh (if you're spooning), you know, to get it out of the way and give yourself room for the spooning? After all she's beautiful and you can't help feeling that way. It's like playing a game of ignore the massive erection in bed between us that you have to play very poorly...

If this girl is even remotely interested in sexing you, you will have one down pat.
 

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ahh, I'll remember that. I just hope I get a second chance
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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I have to say I don't understand you Americans. It's like this thing you do when you dance. What's it called again? Grinding? I just don't get how pressing your penis into a girl is ever going to help your chances. You do stuff like that, yet you're scared to just try and kiss the girl? Come on. How does that work?
 

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Don't be so hard on youself JPlaya, I know how you feel but don't let it break you, instead try and learn from this, and any other experience, when I look back at all the AFCtotheMAX things I did looking back at last autumn I shouldn't be able to look myself in the mirror but instead I take it as if:

"Well certainly I've performed badly but hey I'm a stronger person now so that won't happen"
 

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AlexDP said:
I have to say I don't understand you Americans. It's like this thing you do when you dance. What's it called again? Grinding? I just don't get how pressing your penis into a girl is ever going to help your chances. You do stuff like that, yet you're scared to just try and kiss the girl? Come on. How does that work?
Having an erection on a dance floor with a stranger is very different from having one in bed with a girl you are just getting intimate with. I have experienced situations where a girl will kind of curl up in fetal to nap after some partying, not really in a sexual mood at all then you start this creepish shoulder kissing hoping she turns around and addresses you and all you get is snoring. I have always had better results being a little more aggressive and honest with the situation. Anyways girls like SPINE TINGLING SEX not a romantic soft kissing session that ended in a gentle caring lay. I'll save the slow kissing for her when she's horny. I'll make sure she's awake, let her feel the heat of my stiff cawk on her lower back. If I don't get a reaction, i'll calm down and go to sleep then. Don't be a wimp having a boner is not rape. Men get boners, women know men have no control over our erections. A girl in your bed should only feel flattered and maybe a little horny. If this is not what is happening then your going down a dead end... and a dead lay too. lol! One thing for sure is that she knows exactly what is going on with the boner method, shoulder kissing is... well... kissing her shoulder.
 

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SgtSplacker said:
Having an erection on a dance floor with a stranger is very different from having one in bed with a girl you are just getting intimate with. I have experienced situations where a girl will kind of curl up in fetal to nap after some partying, not really in a sexual mood at all then you start this creepish shoulder kissing hoping she turns around and addresses you and all you get is snoring. I have always had better results being a little more aggressive and honest with the situation. Anyways girls like SPINE TINGLING SEX not a romantic soft kissing session that ended in a gentle caring lay. I'll save the slow kissing for her when she's horny. I'll make sure she's awake, let her feel the heat of my stiff cawk on her lower back. If I don't get a reaction, i'll calm down and go to sleep then. Don't be a wimp having a boner is not rape. Men get boners, women know men have no control over our erections. A girl in your bed should only feel flattered and maybe a little horny. If this is not what is happening then your going down a dead end... and a dead lay too. lol! One thing for sure is that she knows exactly what is going on with the boner method, shoulder kissing is... well... kissing her shoulder.
Yeah, but I'm not talking about slow shoulder kissing..
 

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You don't need to discuss it with her at all. I would just assume that she "forgot" something so she could get to see you again. It happens all the time, girls forget or leave things as an excuse. That means she is into you. Who cares if you didn't f*ck her straight away, it's not that big of a deal. It probably made her think about f*cking you after. girls are like that, you planted the seed of...em planting your seed and she marinates on that and after a while she probably wants to seal the deal. You just have to chill out, have some wine with her, start kissing her and move things to sex. YOU DO NOT AT ALL HAVE TO ADDRESS THE OTHER NIGHT! She may even be thinking about how much of a tease / challenge you were for getting her all turned on and then stopping, and she wants revenge sex!!!! If you bring it up, she'll switch to "Wait a minute, you mean you were SCARED??? oh god I'M THE ONE WHO IS SUPPOSED TO BE UNSURE, NOT YOU..what a turn off!!!" - Why even open up the possibility of that happening at all?
 

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Thanks, If I look at it from that perspective than it makes the situation better. Also how do I get my second chance at banging her lol
 

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I've heard worse. I've done worse.

Just let it go. forgetting about this and moving on with your life is the best thing that is for you.

You live and you learn. Don't stress over this. So ordered.

Case closed. Treat yourself to a movie or a basketball game.
 

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SgtSplacker said:
When i'm in bed with a girl I just rub my boner on her... All the same things you were doing, just with a boner. You should try it sometime... she can't ignore it forever... I'll just start out hugging and cuddling, let her feel the heat, then go for a boob and it's all over.
Dude thats funny as ****e! Definitely going to start poking my chicks back tonight :crackup:
 

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Just remember that your a young guy and that you must learn from your experiences. Keep this in your head and you will be golden.

A couple months ago I messed up with a dime piece broad because I talked to "smart" with her and it seemed from the outside that I was just flashing my intelligence. This girl was 28 years old, was in the army, had money and was one of the baddest broads I have seen. I know I messed up but I learned from it.

Last week I had this video vixen in my crib. She was so freaking thick and fine! Props to my homeboy for putting me on but she stopped messing with me because my apartment was dirty (the outside area like the kitchen... even though my room is spotless). After I heard this I just charged it to the game. I cleaned up all my roommates mess and even bought a new trash can. I charged it to the game and now I know not to room with dirty slobs.

It is all a learning experience. It is a game man, just have fun with it.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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