vazeh
Don Juan
hey guys, i recently stumbled upon this site and this is my first post. hopefully you can be helpful and hopefully mt post isnt too long...
i met some girl online about a year ago, and we talked once in a while and it was usually flirty since we both found each other attractive. a few months later she had a bf and we didnt talk as much, and if we did it was just chit chat. nothing flirty. and when they broke up a month ago it was like when we first started talking.
so we met up last 3 weeks ago. she lives 1h away from me and i drove to her house (fyi, she lives with her family) and we hung out for a bit and then went to dinner and then saw a movie. the whole night went went really well, but there was nothing physical until we said our goodbyes. i dropped her off at home and her family was asleep. she asked for a hug and as we were pulling away we started to kiss
i drove home thinking everything went really really well and figured something might come of this.
the next day we talked and she basically said shes not ready for a realtionship right now so we can just be friends cause she wants to focus on school and her relationship with God (fyi, shes very religious..and i am not). i was a bit upset considering she always led me on by saying flirty things since the first time we met. she said, shes like that with all her guy friends. she also said i was a good kisser and couldnt stop thinking of that kiss we had the first time we met. and if it means anything, i said the same in return.
so last week we decided to hang out again anyway, and we ate, minigolfed and then saw a movie. the whole time we were out that look on her face suggested that she wanted to kiss (as did i), but i wasnt exactly going to do that at a mini put place in front of 12 year olds. and plus she discussed how she wanted to just be friends (at least for now).
than we went to see a movie (oddly enough we saw "Just Friends"). we were early so we sat in the back of the theatre. and through our conversation we go to talk about tickeling and how you cant tickle yourself. so i tried to tickel her arm pit and she squirmed and grabbed my hand and held it...which i found odd considering SHE wanted to just be friends. so i played along, and we helf hand for the entire movie and i had my arm around her as well.
so afterwards i dropped her off at home and before she went in she wanted to discuss what happened. she said i thought we were going to be friends but we totally went back on what we had discussed. i said everything that happened that night seemed very mutual.
the whole time im trying to read her, cause she says lets just be friends and has a great time hanging with me, and shes really attracted to me but has a hard time resisting trying to kiss. she wants to date me but she also doesnt, and i could tell it was tearing her up trying to figure out what she wants. we couldnt talk for too long since she was expected home at a certain time so i offered to just walk her to her door and i would (jokingly said) only HUG her and no more and we did.
thats how that night ended. and at this point im not really sure what she really wants. i do really like her and im not really interested in being "just friends" so i dont konw what to really do at this point. our situation is that we both want to date but something inside of her is saying no, which it seems like its the thing whole religious thing.
a few days later we talked on the phone and i said if we're going to be just friends i wouldnt really want to hang out in person anymore since the temptation to be physical might iritate me and it would be hard to be "just friends". the next day she came online and she was pissed with one word answers and such. so i offered to call her and she told me how it was a mistake to meet cause now our relationship is messed and she doesnt come online often and we probably wont talk as much anymore. so i caved and said "fine lets get together sometime", and we're supposed to be meeting up next weekend.
its been killing me for a week to figure out whats going to happen. i dont want to be just friends!
(sorry for the LONG post!)
i met some girl online about a year ago, and we talked once in a while and it was usually flirty since we both found each other attractive. a few months later she had a bf and we didnt talk as much, and if we did it was just chit chat. nothing flirty. and when they broke up a month ago it was like when we first started talking.
so we met up last 3 weeks ago. she lives 1h away from me and i drove to her house (fyi, she lives with her family) and we hung out for a bit and then went to dinner and then saw a movie. the whole night went went really well, but there was nothing physical until we said our goodbyes. i dropped her off at home and her family was asleep. she asked for a hug and as we were pulling away we started to kiss
i drove home thinking everything went really really well and figured something might come of this.
the next day we talked and she basically said shes not ready for a realtionship right now so we can just be friends cause she wants to focus on school and her relationship with God (fyi, shes very religious..and i am not). i was a bit upset considering she always led me on by saying flirty things since the first time we met. she said, shes like that with all her guy friends. she also said i was a good kisser and couldnt stop thinking of that kiss we had the first time we met. and if it means anything, i said the same in return.
so last week we decided to hang out again anyway, and we ate, minigolfed and then saw a movie. the whole time we were out that look on her face suggested that she wanted to kiss (as did i), but i wasnt exactly going to do that at a mini put place in front of 12 year olds. and plus she discussed how she wanted to just be friends (at least for now).
than we went to see a movie (oddly enough we saw "Just Friends"). we were early so we sat in the back of the theatre. and through our conversation we go to talk about tickeling and how you cant tickle yourself. so i tried to tickel her arm pit and she squirmed and grabbed my hand and held it...which i found odd considering SHE wanted to just be friends. so i played along, and we helf hand for the entire movie and i had my arm around her as well.
so afterwards i dropped her off at home and before she went in she wanted to discuss what happened. she said i thought we were going to be friends but we totally went back on what we had discussed. i said everything that happened that night seemed very mutual.
the whole time im trying to read her, cause she says lets just be friends and has a great time hanging with me, and shes really attracted to me but has a hard time resisting trying to kiss. she wants to date me but she also doesnt, and i could tell it was tearing her up trying to figure out what she wants. we couldnt talk for too long since she was expected home at a certain time so i offered to just walk her to her door and i would (jokingly said) only HUG her and no more and we did.
thats how that night ended. and at this point im not really sure what she really wants. i do really like her and im not really interested in being "just friends" so i dont konw what to really do at this point. our situation is that we both want to date but something inside of her is saying no, which it seems like its the thing whole religious thing.
a few days later we talked on the phone and i said if we're going to be just friends i wouldnt really want to hang out in person anymore since the temptation to be physical might iritate me and it would be hard to be "just friends". the next day she came online and she was pissed with one word answers and such. so i offered to call her and she told me how it was a mistake to meet cause now our relationship is messed and she doesnt come online often and we probably wont talk as much anymore. so i caved and said "fine lets get together sometime", and we're supposed to be meeting up next weekend.
its been killing me for a week to figure out whats going to happen. i dont want to be just friends!
(sorry for the LONG post!)
