I dont understand it, i do not mind sitting at home by myself

[jbbrain]

newman,

I love those types of girls. It's crazy how rare they are though, don't you find?

I find myself rarely blown away by most women. Simply bcause I havent met many who have exuded such confidence, reverence and overall positive energy for life.

I met one 2 summers ago in Barcelona. A german chick from Nurnberg. I look forward to seeing her again soon.

Don't ask me why, girls like that IMPRESS ME.

 

[prosemont]

Originally posted by NewMan
I used to be like that - happy to just sit at home alone...

Then I meet a girl who had so much energy and charisma.

She was the total opposite of me - she lived for today - had experienced so many other things in life - she had this love for life and living.

It was strange - but I envied her - her experiences, her life, her beauty - how she had this magnatism about her, and how people were just drawn to her.

After meeting her and being around her, I vowed to go out there and experience life.

Now, whilst I enjoy spending time alone I've taken it upon myself to go out there and live life - meet new people - and experience as much as I can....

I, too, agree with this philosophy. ^

YOU WILL HAVE AN ETERNITY TO BE ALONE ROTTING IN YOUR CASKET. GET OUT THERE AND EXPERIENCE ALL LIFE HAS TO OFFER NOW!!!! LIFE IS SHORT. DO NOT STAY COMFORTABLE. DO NOT GET COMPLACENT. TAKE A HUGE BITE OUT OF LIFE. NOW. MAKE IT URGENT BECAUSE IT IS.

Okay, I'm done with the caps.

 

[Player_Supreme]

I enjoy it every now and then too...no big deal. It's when that's all you want to do then you've got a problem.

If your feeling unmotivated towards human contact then seek some help...it's hard to tell if your depressed or not...some folks could have mild forms of it..what ever the hell depressed is...one of those new dis' eases.

 

[NewMan]

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newman,

I love those types of girls. It's crazy how rare they are though, don't you find?

I find myself rarely blown away by most women. Simply bcause I havent met many who have exuded such confidence, reverence and overall positive energy for life.

I met one 2 summers ago in Barcelona. A german chick from Nurnberg. I look forward to seeing her again soon.

Don't ask me why, girls like that IMPRESS ME.

**********************


Yes they are very RARE....

I have only yet to meet 2 - my ex, and one other girl that works in my building.

It's intoxicating - being around these women that have such a taste for life and living.

They want to try everything, experience new things - it's amazing.

I love the fact that she used to come to me with suggestions on crazy things to do. I would say something just as part of a conversation - example - "I've always wanted to fly a plane, I wanted to be a pilot when I was younger" .....

She'd take that and would organise for me to actually fly a plane - but she'd get so excited by the fact that I had a desire to do this - that it was almost as if it was her lifetime desire.

Women like this are far and few between.

Most of the women I've recently been dating are a shallow shell compared to this.

I need a woman who will inspire me....

Ahhh, rant over.

 

[Virtú]

I know that there's an unwritten rule against bumping up ancient threads, but this one really speaks to me.

This thread reflects my situation exactly: I am a quiet, introverted guy whose life is in no way unpleasant, much less painful. I enjoy the undemanding nature of a quiet and solitary life - I feel free when I am alone. However, when I look at my life with an objective eye, I can see that it is empty.

Then I look at the life of the DJ, or a specific passage from Nietzsche that escapes me at the moment; both are full of energy and activity, drive and passion, a liberation of the powerful forces deep inside Man - all utterly alien, but at the same time compelling.
In short, I see in the DJ lifestyle all of the things that my current life lacks completely.

Thus I find myself wanting more out of life, but not needing more. There is a certain amount of desire to improve myself and start living the DJ lifestyle, but no pressure to follow through. And it is that lack of pressure that is the biggest obstacle to my success.

I am ashamed to admit it, but I could leave this site forever and still live a satisfying life. When I acknowledge this possibility, it disgusts me, but an hour later, when I am busied with some irrelevant chore, the disgust and refusal to resign myself to that merely satisfying life is all but forgotten.

To anyone who reads this thread and my post, what must I do about this awkward situation? How can I rouse myself from a stagnant middle ground of a life and force myself into the violent bliss of the DJ lifestyle?

 

[Virtú]

Bump

 

[thefonz]

Thus I find myself wanting more out of life, but not needing more. There is a certain amount of desire to improve myself and start living the DJ lifestyle, but no pressure to follow through. And it is that lack of pressure that is the biggest obstacle to my success.

DJ Bootcamp my man....enlist

 

[PoloBlue]

I enjoy being alone and keeping to myself, if I never find a woman it's really not a big deal to me, less responsibility, no kids to worry about, more freedom to do as you please, etc.

plus over 60% of the marriages these days end up in divorce anyways, it's too risky, Im not interested in having children, so there is no real reason to ever get married.

plus when a man gets divorced the woman get half of everything and the man also ends up paying child support until the kids are 18.

a man doesnt need a woman to be happy and content

 

[ScrewIt]

i know how you feel, i admit i am like this most of the time.

i have friends, but why bother calling them to join you in doing something that they would not consider?? honestly im sick of this kind of attitude.

for the most part, i enjoy watching dvds, games, billiards, conventions, events, by myself. I'm not gonna sit around all day waiting to do something with someone. if i wanna do it, ill go do it.

I remember over the summre one of my new friends asked why i never call.
#1 what i like to do, he doesnt
#2 i cant think of something similar we both could do other than the usual shyt, movies, grabbing food to eat.
#3 when i think of something to do, he'll make excuses as he always does.

when he thinks of stuff to do ill usually go, but i dont need him to have fun. But many times i'll agree to go do something he suggests as i try to be a good friend.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

I don´t mind being alone at all.

 

[penguin]

I don't mind social things every now and then.... a good big party is nice too, but alone time is a wonderful thing to me too. Especialy when I can't sleep, and everyone else is in bed/out for the night etc. and I just walk into the backyard, pull up a chair and listen to the sweet sound of not much. There's something peaceful about it hearing barely anything except the trees blowing in the wind at night..... (if that came out as trying to sound meaningful.... it ain't lol)

 

[The Foul Pole]

Originally posted by Virtú
I know that there's an unwritten rule against bumping up ancient threads, but this one really speaks to me.

This thread reflects my situation exactly: I am a quiet, introverted guy whose life is in no way unpleasant, much less painful. I enjoy the undemanding nature of a quiet and solitary life - I feel free when I am alone. However, when I look at my life with an objective eye, I can see that it is empty.

Then I look at the life of the DJ, or a specific passage from Nietzsche that escapes me at the moment; both are full of energy and activity, drive and passion, a liberation of the powerful forces deep inside Man - all utterly alien, but at the same time compelling.
In short, I see in the DJ lifestyle all of the things that my current life lacks completely.

Thus I find myself wanting more out of life, but not needing more. There is a certain amount of desire to improve myself and start living the DJ lifestyle, but no pressure to follow through. And it is that lack of pressure that is the biggest obstacle to my success.

I am ashamed to admit it, but I could leave this site forever and still live a satisfying life. When I acknowledge this possibility, it disgusts me, but an hour later, when I am busied with some irrelevant chore, the disgust and refusal to resign myself to that merely satisfying life is all but forgotten.

To anyone who reads this thread and my post, what must I do about this awkward situation? How can I rouse myself from a stagnant middle ground of a life and force myself into the violent bliss of the DJ lifestyle?

I am in the exact same situation as this also. Almost to the tee. I've realized that where I am in my stage of life I can remain pretty happy possibly for the rest of my life. There's really nothing bad to say about my current situation. In my mind I've basically accomplished everything I wanted to do (materially speaking). I have all the toys I need, I have my dream car, I have hobbies, I have interests, I have a house, and a decent income. I mean, what's left right?

One thing I realized is that there is one area in my life I need to get under control, and that is the social aspect. Especially around women. You just need to want to do this. That is motivation enough. Don't downplay what you've already accomplished. Use it to your advantage. Just think to yourself how much better a person you will be if you tackle this issue. There's absolutely nothing wrong with the way you are right now, but think of how much better you CAN be, and WILL be afterwards.

To be quite honest I think getting this under control will be the greatest accomplishment I've ever done. I can only compare it to a lifelong smoker finally quitting, finally doing the best thing possible for himself. How you can possibly deny yourself something like that?

I also find being alone is the optimal time to physce yourself up.
Sure it's fine watching a flick alone on a Friday night, but wouldn't it be better if you had that option plus a few others every Friday night? You know, this porn would be better with a chick around. I might like to actually go out and learn to dance. Drinking alone can be pretty pathetic sometimes.

Guys are great at solving problems. We invent problems and find solutions. I have a problem in my life that I want solved. And if this is the most important thing to me right now (which it is), then why should I do nothing about it? I owe it to myself, and you owe it to yourself to do something.

ps - please ignore the changes from first-person to third-person my writing. I talk to myself alot about this kind of stuff.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Welcome to my world. I didn't have many friends while i was growing up and in middle school so I learned to find fun in solitude.

Out of the friends I made in high school and college I almost never call any of them except for returning calls. That used to bother them until I explained that I could always find things to do alone.

I actually have only two like-minded friends, brothers, but they're too busy earning their PhDs so I get to see them only two or three times a year, and even then I don't call them.

I gave up trying to subscribe the rest of my friends to my interests. Our get togethers have become just same old stuff, house chillin', bar drinking, bowling, billiards, movies or walking around the city on a chilly night looking for a warm Cafe' to sit.

Not finding things to do alone ruins my mood but that's rare. I've quite a few hobbies that keep me busy. I've a number of programming projects aside from work and I also play piano, guitar and study music theory. However, when opportunity comes, social interaction is #1 priority on my list.

My comfort in solitude is my biggest roadblock in meeting women since I loathe going to bars and clubs alone and most of my friends are in LTRs.

 

[WeakMenNeverRise]

When I first read the title of this thread I was like oh gosh, this is another one of those I hate women threads. Upon reading it though I was like wow, this guy kind of sounds like me. I mean I don't mind going out, but with people I tend to have this FCK It attitude. I have really good friends as well but if tomorrow one was to say, I never wanna talk to you again it wouldn't really bother me to much. As for females, I'm 23, and the only interest I have in them is physical. I have never had a serious girlfriend, but have had my share of females and I'm starting to think that women emotionally don't do anything for me. NOW DON'T BE A SIMP. THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT I LIKE GUYS, come on. But its starting to seem that the concept of being emotionally attracted to a woman is just not part of my personality. Is this strange, or do some of yall feel the same way.