KingofHearts
Don Juan
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Its interesting to me that there is very little material out there on this...
What are some things to consider when dealing with a girl that is head over heels for you? How about several of them?
I care about them to an extent. I enjoy having some female company to join me in things I like to do. I believe I treat them well and they tell me I do so. But I'm not in love with them the same way they are for me. After being married and going through that experience, I have no interest in getting serious again anytime soon. There is way too much stuff to conquer out in the world, I love my alone time way too much right now to devote myself to a woman.
I don't string them along. There is nothing in this post I haven't said to a really interested girl. And yet they still hold on for dear life fearing that I will disappear someday without warning. They make promises to me and offer me the world. They are always on their best behavior and they dress to impress. They dream about some future with me while fully understanding that a future with me is not guaranteed.
And so, my question is what do you do when dealing with really interested girls and want to keep them around without making commitments? It always bums me out when I have to break it to a girl that I don't love her back or that I don't dream of marrying her. I go silent or play it off when they tell me they wish I could say I love you back. I turn down sex sometimes just because its not worth the trouble of losing my 8 hours sleep. I'm not even afraid to lose them really. I'm just looking for other ways to approach this compared to what I've been doing.
Yep, these are the kinds of "problems" I deal with now that I've been applying stuff I learned from Sosuave
Definitely nothing to complain about. Nevertheless, this has been on my mind for a while and I would like to see some discussion on it. Thanks!
What are some things to consider when dealing with a girl that is head over heels for you? How about several of them?
I care about them to an extent. I enjoy having some female company to join me in things I like to do. I believe I treat them well and they tell me I do so. But I'm not in love with them the same way they are for me. After being married and going through that experience, I have no interest in getting serious again anytime soon. There is way too much stuff to conquer out in the world, I love my alone time way too much right now to devote myself to a woman.
I don't string them along. There is nothing in this post I haven't said to a really interested girl. And yet they still hold on for dear life fearing that I will disappear someday without warning. They make promises to me and offer me the world. They are always on their best behavior and they dress to impress. They dream about some future with me while fully understanding that a future with me is not guaranteed.
And so, my question is what do you do when dealing with really interested girls and want to keep them around without making commitments? It always bums me out when I have to break it to a girl that I don't love her back or that I don't dream of marrying her. I go silent or play it off when they tell me they wish I could say I love you back. I turn down sex sometimes just because its not worth the trouble of losing my 8 hours sleep. I'm not even afraid to lose them really. I'm just looking for other ways to approach this compared to what I've been doing.
Yep, these are the kinds of "problems" I deal with now that I've been applying stuff I learned from Sosuave
Definitely nothing to complain about. Nevertheless, this has been on my mind for a while and I would like to see some discussion on it. Thanks!
