I don't know what to do anymore..(Ex issue)

[vagrant]

I know I should have put this in the No contact thread but I wanted a strong focus on this issue. It's not a "I hate my life" thread.

My ex texted me tonight.

Ex: Random but uhh i just smelled ur scent on my sheet idk i think if it was just me anyhow it kind made me miss u a little bit. i hope ur doin good btw. goodnight.

I love this girl to death. The only reason we broke up was because I cheated on her. We were together for almost 4 years. The last day before we even broke up was perfect. We've always have until I messed up. She was my first girlfriend and I always wondered what it would be like to be with another girl. God gave me my wish and it turned out I don't really want to be with any other girl anymore. She was all I needed. I'm sure she feels the same way, but not entirely that's why I made this thread.

Does this text message tells me she really misses me and she still cares or like what's been said that it's a woman's way to attempt another painful come back on me or that she wants to know if I still care to gain back her dignity?

Women have their own words or so I heard and I'm not very good at translating what women are really saying. Can someone please break my situation down for me?

What do I do? I want her but I don't want to beg her back. She left and dumped me and if she wants to be with me again I expect her to crawl back to me, but I'm scared it'll never happen. I know afc is running all throughout my blood right now.

Ugh!!!..getting girls are easy, but getting the right one is not. I know I can find other better girls but I want to take care of this girl for life. At the same time I just don't want to expect anything because it'll be my downfall in the end. UGH!!!

 

[arutha]

4 years is a long time, and with such a shocking end of course she is going to miss you. I don't know details of the breakup so it is a bit hard to say, but it could still be salvagable if you wanted it. How long have you been no contact? More than a week?

Could be worth suggesting that you two meet up for coffee and a little chat to see if she would get back with you. I firmly believe that proper long term relationships do have a different dynamic to what is normally preached here and you can afford to be a little bit softer and show a bit more emotion, you just need to remember to remain a confident man. And hell if she decides not to get back with you, well its over anyway.

She is probably not going to come crawling back for you cheating on her, you need to tell her that you made a mistake and it won't happen again. And of course it will take a while to redevelop trust.

But firstly think about whether you really do want it back, or if you are just in shock and were used to it. You will get over her if you move on to other girls and leave her behind, you have already shown you wanted to play around a bit and experience other women. Do you truly want it back?

 

[KontrollerX]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155594

Just follow Dan's guide to the letter and she'll be all over you.

And no I don't care that "YOU" fvcked up.

Who gives a sh!t? Honestly...

All I care about is what works not apologizing to some broad.

Apologies don't fix anything with women anyway, only mindfvcking them and winning games with them does as THAT is what is most important to ALL of them be they the gutter bar skank or the so called "good girl".

THAT my friend is what WORKS!

She's contacting you again so you can chumpishly run after her begging for her back into your life, then when you do that as your guilt is motivating you to do as some form of apology her ego will be gratified and she'll move on.

So do what Dan's guide says as it is the way to win this and get her back on your team if thats what you want.

Also just an end note...

If she was the mythical "quality woman" and wifey material she would not be contacting you again after you cheated on her.

Stick a fork in you, you'd be done.

She like all women gets off on being cheated on and treated like trash with jerk/player behavior like this.

The reason is because women love to be in the "chase him" mode and the "prove yourself to him" mode.

It gives them tasty drama to feel truly alive over as well a goal to fight for which of course is to conquer you.

 

[vagrant]

I honestly and truthfully want her back. I have not been with tons of women but it doesn't take a lot for me to know where she stands. All I can think of is me and her going to this and that and doing this and that like we've always been. Relationship is a team and we had a good one and I hate and somehow understand that she couldn't pick me up when I stumbled and fell on the ground.

Everyday I read and learn something new and it shifts my belief in every direction. The no contact thread teaches me not to call and text back yet my feelings tell me to text back. No contact does make sense but at the same time I feel it would only make her really go away forever.

Right after the break up I cried, I begged, I did all kinds of crazy things. Eventually another guy came along and I'm guessing she slept with him. The thought of it is enough for me to say you know what it's over.

She was actually the one who started cutting contact as soon as she found the guy and we didn't talk for 3 months and now she's been calling and texting and I'm new to the situation so I don't really know what's up.

I really do feel like moving on whenever I think of her doing crazy sh*t with other guys but at the same time I'm still hoping. Ugh f*ck!

"stop focusing on finding the right woman. focus on being the right man". I love this quote and that's what I've been trying to do.

Anyhow. I met her when she was 15, she's 19 now, turning 20 soon. I'm turning 23 soon. I know I'm not ready to settle down but when I do I want to do it with this girl. She's absolutely gorgeous and I have no problem at all being with her only. Her personality is really awesome. I want her to be part of my family and I want to be part of hers.

Anyways, I just wanted to know what her text message really was as I feel there's something more than the message. Ugh I don't know..Also if I should reply..ugh!..

Alright, back to moving on..

 

[vagrant]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155594

Just follow Dan's guide to the letter and she'll be all over you.

And no I don't care that "YOU" fvcked up.

Who gives a sh!t? Honestly...

All I care about is what works not apologizing to some broad.

Apologies don't fix anything with women anyway, only mindfvcking them and winning games with them does as THAT is what is most important to ALL of them be they the gutter bar skank or the so called "good girl".

THAT my friend is what WORKS!

She's contacting you again so you can chumpishly run after her begging for her back into your life, then when you do that as your guilt is motivating you to do as some form of apology her ego will be gratified and she'll move on.

So do what Dan's guide says as it is the way to win this and get her back on your team if thats what you want.

Also just an end note...

If she was the mythical "quality woman" and wifey material she would not be contacting you again after you cheated on her.

Stick a fork in you, you'd be done.

She like all women gets off on being cheated on and treated like trash with jerk/player behavior like this.

The reason is because women love to be in the "chase him" mode and the "prove yourself to him" mode.

It gives them tasty drama to feel truly alive over as well a goal to fight for which of course is to conquer you.

I have a feeling I should stick with that.

About her being this crazy girl because she still contacts me, I will not agree. I cheated and I'm not going to explain myself all I know is it's something I'll never do again and she knows that by heart. I know that by heart. I learned my lesson.

The thing is she's young and she's using the opportunity to meet up with other guys. I have a feeling she's growing up faster than I thought and she knows it's not worth it. I know how powerful the media is and how easily she can be transformed but I know she's starting to realize things and one of them is the thought of losing me.

I know it's crazy but a relationship is really very complex.

I guess this is thread close. I'm going back to no contact mode. She knows where I live and if she wants me she can knock all day I'm not chasing her because she's been with another guy already.

Sad but I' moving on trying hard not to hope she comes back..