I don't get this behavior (Fifth date field report)

[sosuave213]

When I was in bed with the girl, she was wearing pearl panties.

She grinded on my leg and proceeded to *** in just literally one minute. She cried afterwards telling me we shouldn't have gotten this far, I don't do this with anyone...yeah, we've heard it all before. We didn't have sex but came quite close multiple times.

I wasn't too smooth about it. Afterwards I wanked it while she was lying next to me. She was proceeding to get friskier and even showed me her tit but then I came. She facepalmed and it was then that I knew I ****ed up. (oops)

So we talked some more, i.e. two steps forward and one step back. I didn't even want it anymore but after talking for what I realized was a while (10 minutes?) I made a move and we got frisky again. She said "We shouldn't do this, I'm ovulating and you came already." (once again, oops!)

I asked her if she wanted me to put a condom on, per the Dicarlo escalation manual. She said "I don't know..." Not sure what the best response was but when I went to get the condom she already had doubts. So the farthest we got was third base as I was able to finger her for a while; she grabbed my **** and grinded it against her ***** lips but when I tried to go in she was like "no", and she did that multiple times. This girl has exceptional self-control and kept negging me about me not having any, which was partly true...

I dropped her off home. She picked up the rose I gave her as mentioned in https://www.sosuave.com/romance/openme.htm. It worked like a charm and she called me "creative, but not too creative - just perfect." She said that as she's from the Balkans and I wrote "Open me" in English rather than her native language.

Many times while we were in bed she mentioned that it'd be the last time we would be seeing each other. I highly doubt that. She cooked a nice pasta and chicken meal for me before I showed her to the bedroom. Freaking delicious. She said that stuff since she's just testing me as I came off a bit strong and gave off the relationship vibe, but this time I gave off the Chad vibe. She's more carnal now rather than in her head; we'll see how things progress.

So..how the hell was she able to wear those damn panties the whole time and show all that resistance? what the ****. I'm bamboozled by that.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

So when you cumm, she facepalmed. This is selfish behavior.

To answer your question, many religious women practice sexual transmutation and the panties could've been an example of that.

This chick has significant compliance issues. Not good.

In my last post about this girl, I suggested that the sex better be worth it. Does she show signs of actual sexual intercourse being "worth it?"

 

[BillyPilgrim]

....and this is happening while she's ovulating. She's not horny enough to give you a bj? This is starting to look like a Chinese May Day parade.

 

[sosuave213]

@BillyPilgrim You missed the point. I wasn't supposed to *** because she was edging towards giving me a bj...literally. Her face was getting closer and closer. I just couldn't contain myself.

But, yeah. We dry humped multiple times. She was enjoying it a lot. Moaning in ecstasy, submission, letting me be the dominant man and ravish her...I just came too early bro.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

My 2 cents...

At this point I would soft next her meaning she has to initiate all the calls and texts from here on out and no more dates. If she calls just invite her over to watch a movie and attempt to seal the deal.

 

[Bingo-Player]

@BillyPilgrim

But, yeah. We dry humped multiple times. She was enjoying it a lot. Moaning in ecstasy, submission, letting me be the dominant man and ravish her...I just came too early bro.

Two words ive highlighted in red there confirm to me you are in her frame and not the other way around

This. behaviour on the 5th date is quite frankly bizarre , your both late 20's this is something you'd expect to hear from a pair of 16 year old kids exploring each other in their parents spare bedroom

She grinded on my leg and proceeded to *** in just literally one minute. She cried afterwards telling me we shouldn't have gotten this far, I don't do this with anyone...

I have absolutely no idea what the fvck this is again weird

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OP this girl sounds like a headache I would proceed with extreme caution or you are going to end up being her lap dog

 

[sosuave213]

My 2 cents...

At this point I would soft next her meaning she has to initiate all the calls and texts from here on out and no more dates. If she calls just invite her over to watch a movie and attempt to seal the deal.

She's always been the one to initiate it. in fact she's initiated contact 80% of the time... But I'm all for the just hanging out at my place.

 

[tightgrp]

It's hard to read this and not lose respect.

 

[member160292]

Why does she keep saying it's the last time you guys see each other?

 

[Dr.Suave]

Sounds like she leads, you follow. Her way or the highway. Instead of asking her if you should put a condom on, just do it, dont ask her.

 

[MtmVaott]

This is the same girl that asked you what you want her to dress on one of the first dates, and you told her.
That was highlighted because it tells she likes to be submissive. Since she's at the end of her 20s, she certainly has experienced being the submissive woman with a previous guy.

Now compare that to your actions and the dynamics between you two in this 5th (?) date.
My take is that she really likes how you make her feel, but is not attracted to you and that's not enough for her. She literally told you.

If I'd be in your situation I had acted like you. I want to point out that you got great advice so on in the threads, very valuable.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She isn't that interested in you and knows sex isn't going to happen.

I summed up everything you wrote in one sentence.

 

[MtmVaott]

So when you cumm, she facepalmed. This is selfish behavior.

I think she acts so rude because she is disappointed and frustrated because she actually likes OP and wants more, but OP is not ready yet.

 

[devilkingx2]

When I was in bed with the girl, she was wearing pearl panties.

This detail makes it sound like you are writing erotica, no offense.

She grinded on my leg and proceeded to *** in just literally one minute. She cried afterwards telling me we shouldn't have gotten this far, I don't do this with anyone...yeah, we've heard it all before. We didn't have sex but came quite close multiple times.

If a girl cried after doing something sexual with me I'd either be terrified or disturbed, either way it would kill my boner. That's a pretty big red flag that either she has huge issues or a husband.

So we talked some more, i.e. two steps forward and one step back. I didn't even want it anymore but after talking for what I realized was a while (10 minutes?) I made a move and we got frisky again. She said "We shouldn't do this, I'm ovulating and you came already." (once again, oops!)

I asked her if she wanted me to put a condom on, per the Dicarlo escalation manual. She said "I don't know..." Not sure what the best response was but when I went to get the condom she already had doubts. So the farthest we got was third base as I was able to finger her for a while; she grabbed my **** and grinded it against her ***** lips but when I tried to go in she was like "no", and she did that multiple times. This girl has exceptional self-control and kept negging me about me not having any, which was partly true...

In my opinion things are progressing really slowly for a girl who's over the age of 18 unless she's a religious virgin or something.

However there's no need to next as long as you aren't:
1. Exclusive
2. Spending a lot of money
3. Becoming overly invested in her

Getting laid on the 6th date is still getting laid.