I dont get it

[phillyb]

so i had been seeing this chick for about a month. She came on really strong from the get go. I told myself to not get too involved, but... I did. NOt too extreme however. Never said i love you or something stupid as that. At any rate i could tell something was wrong. She calls me up and says she needs alone time. I say cool i'll just get up with you next week and we'll do something. No, she says, you can see me anytime you want, then she suggests we get together and watch a move that evening. cool i say, just gimme a call when you get through with your alone time and well hook up. Never heard from her. The next day i wanted to see her and we had dinner together. she says she's been stressed lately, finally breaks down and says she needs break from relationships. BUT, i still want to see you she says more than once. Can i still call you she asks. Yes i say. Two days later she sends me an IM saying she has been thinking about me alot. Then she says and this i really cant grasp, " I really do feel like i was falling for you and that scared me"..... WTF? Anyway I have't heard from her since, I e-mailed her about a week and 1/2 ago like a jackass.... no reply. I havent and wont call her.

What do you think? I guess i was another victim of the rebound! AWESOME!!!
heres to the next ex!!!!


As far as my dating life goes, Im learning from this....

 

[Pimp-sicle]

DO NOT waste your time on silly girls who just need a ego boost. You were obiviously the rebound. She needed someone to boost her self-confidence back up and you did that with all your @ss-kissing and being available for her on HER TIME. Now she's done and ready to go wh-ore around again and she's telling you that.

Don't believe that line about her "falling for you and it scaring her", that's bullshyt. That's her cop-out to get out from what she had with you.

Move on, get drunk with your boys and go meet new girls.


PIMP

 

[phillyb]

yup

Thanks pimp. The sad thing is.... I could see this happening from the beggining. Warning signs all over. Talked about her ex more than a couple of times. Anyway, thats what really hurts, I didnt listen to my inner voice. I even asked her early on if she was on the rebound strait up. Oh well.... the force is strong with this one.......but Im not a DJ .....yet.


Philly

 

[Legend]

keep everything cool with her and just disappear for a lil bit...you never know what the future holds for ya. I bet if you ignore her for a while and she doesnt find a new chump, shell be crawling back to you throwing her self into your bed.

Dont sweat her she sounds mental anyway

 

[NaturallySelected]

I wonder if it was just a similar instance to this:

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=54418

Where the girl says some weird crap and then it turns out she is actually still interested. How long between when she said "I tought I was falling for you" and when you sent her an e-mail? What did you say in the e-mail? This is crucial because she still wanted to see you earlier in your post . It might be that she WAS falling for you, but still in love with her ex. HE took her back and now you're history. Don't call her. I did this and 4 months later I heard from her, and she is still with her BF but I still got to play with her front bum .

Let me know some more info.

 

[phillyb]

There was 1 week in between the time she said that and when i emailed her. Also she is the one that brought up the relationship card, and also said when she broke up with me " you know, we could be married in a couple of years, you just never know". ANYHOO- in the email, I told her that we were moving very fast and everything happens for reasons. I also made it clear that i still wanted to see her, and wasnt writing off any relationship with her, but at the same time i I also made it obvious that she will have to make the next move (Im not sulking and wasting energy on her anymore)
I feel I did this in a good way, not saying goodbye forever, but also not waiting around ya know?

That's been about three weeks ago now, I miss her still, but I'll be just fine with or without her.
philly