I don't drink.

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Thread title. It's somewhat a problem because if someone is throwing a party and I'm not drinking then people will be wondering what the heck is wrong with me. I have never had alcohol in my life nor do I plan to no matter how much people pressure me. I still want to be able to have fun and get some girls but I refuse to drink (it interferes with one of my life goals and may be detrimental towards it). I just don't want to be left out or third-wheeling crap at social events. All people do nowdays are drink or do drugs to have fun and no one wants to actually do STUFF anymore, like play soccer or go ice skating or laser tagging or any of that fun stuff. Any advice?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Any advice?

I don't drink either. (used to, not any more) It's never been a problem. If you don't mind nobody else will.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

Thread title. It's somewhat a problem because if someone is throwing a party and I'm not drinking then people will be wondering what the heck is wrong with me. I have never had alcohol in my life nor do I plan to no matter how much people pressure me. I still want to be able to have fun and get some girls but I refuse to drink (it interferes with one of my life goals and may be detrimental towards it). I just don't want to be left out or third-wheeling crap at social events. All people do nowdays are drink or do drugs to have fun and no one wants to actually do STUFF anymore, like play soccer or go ice skating or laser tagging or any of that fun stuff. Any advice?

Just stay with it man. Good on you. Not drinking at your age is so rare it speaks to real character. And I think it speaks to a mental strength. Not all people who drink are weak, but most people who are weak drink. So heavy drinking can definitely be an indicator of somebody who is not headstrong.

You don't have to miss the parties. You'll have less friends to be sure, but you'll still have some. I may drink about 4 times a year. When I went out for my b-day with my three main dudes 2 of them didn't drink at all. Trust me the good friends won't mind if you drink a root beer.

 

[gonewiththefire]

Thread title. It's somewhat a problem because if someone is throwing a party and I'm not drinking then people will be wondering what the heck is wrong with me. I have never had alcohol in my life nor do I plan to no matter how much people pressure me. I still want to be able to have fun and get some girls but I refuse to drink (it interferes with one of my life goals and may be detrimental towards it). I just don't want to be left out or third-wheeling crap at social events. All people do nowdays are drink or do drugs to have fun and no one wants to actually do STUFF anymore, like play soccer or go ice skating or laser tagging or any of that fun stuff. Any advice?

As taiyuu says, if you make a big deal about it yourself, it will appear that people are doing that too (even though they don't really care).

I read in an article exactly about this. I remember that it said; "Question is, what kind of energy are you bringing? Not what is ok and what is not ok"

I let go of the judgment and actually became more free and had more fun in parties where I didn't drink. (of course it sometimes slips but it doesn't change the importance of this little reframe)

 

[Von]

Keep it like that.

It will bring quality people, quality women, focused man.

You'll be healthy with a good sex life.

Here: I am quiting alcohol + coffee, never did drugs

 

[BeExcellent]

Good for you. Go to the parties, be social & have fun anyway. Have a soda or take some bottled water. You'll get a reputation after awhile that you are cool but you don't "party".

People actually have a ton of respect for that, even though you may not hear it directly.

Try not to be judgemental about the choices other people make. This is more the problem I perceive from the OP.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I don't drink either

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Just stay with it man. Good on you. Not drinking at your age is so rare it speaks to real character. And I think it speaks to a mental strength. Not all people who drink are weak, but most people who are weak drink. So heavy drinking can definitely be an indicator of somebody who is not headstrong.

You don't have to miss the parties. You'll have less friends to be sure, but you'll still have some. I may drink about 4 times a year. When I went out for my b-day with my three main dudes 2 of them didn't drink at all. Trust me the good friends won't mind if you drink a root beer.

Thanks. I mean I have been tempted a few times but never really got interested enough to do it.
Thanks I mean I never really got too interested

As taiyuu says, if you make a big deal about it yourself, it will appear that people are doing that too (even though they don't really care).

I read in an article exactly about this. I remember that it said; "Question is, what kind of energy are you bringing? Not what is ok and what is not ok"

I let go of the judgment and actually became more free and had more fun in parties where I didn't drink. (of course it sometimes slips but it doesn't change the importance of this little reframe)

I see what you and him both mean. I never really looked at it like that but it is a good point.

Good for you. Go to the parties, be social & have fun anyway. Have a soda or take some bottled water. You'll get a reputation after awhile that you are cool but you don't "party".

People actually have a ton of respect for that, even though you may not hear it directly.

Try not to be judgemental about the choices other people make. This is more the problem I perceive from the OP.

I mean I'm not judgemental at all towards people (except towards progressives like #blacklivesmatter, feminists, LGBT, etc. I hate those people) because everyone has their reasons for doing what they do. I just become extremely ambivalent towards the type of people who tell me something like "ahhh come on dude just one time" or whatever because I don't know their true intentions. Some people are jealous of my will not to drink or because they believe I am too arrogant to drink while others may truly want me to have a good time.

 

[BeExcellent]

I just become extremely ambivalent towards the type of people who tell me something like "ahhh come on dude just one time"

OK fair enough. So you just smile and say, "No really, I'm cool." and move onto something else. What you'll find is that after a few times people who know you will tell others, "oh hey, he doesn't drink". So you will actually find this builds your social proof if you are laid back about it but matter-of-fact at the same time.

People will find you are cool enough to hang out but at the same time strong enough to keep to your values. This will cast you in a positive light.

 

[Ronaldo7]

People who drink are weak. They drown their pitiful sorrows in such a senseless activity.

They will break down so easily. Feel pity for them. They rupture their mental capability by needlessly delving themselves into degeneration.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I don't drink

I'm trying to be like you. Not all of us are that strong.

 

[MrWood]

i never was attracted to alcohol, I dont drink as a rule
I have however been a regular herb user for +35 years

herb it up?

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Drinking might be one of the most overrated "pleasures" of all time

 

[Serenity]

This will pass, eventually people stop caring about you not drinking and get used to it. You're still young at an age where many look at what everyone else is doing.

Don't think about what others might think of you not drinking. Don't give it attention, just say you don't want alchohol if anyone brings it up and change topic.

I drink at parties though, but I don't do it just to blend in socially or to get fvcked up. I just love craft beers, mostly for the tastes. There's a few wines that tastes amazing too, but I'm very picky about wines. Drinking booze or just a bunch of the same boring beer to get drunk is a waste of money and time, it's not fun being fvcked up waking up next morning feeling like you got hit in the head by a sledgehammer.

 

[Julian]

ive had my times where i dont drinm, for up to years on end. ive also drank weekly for a year as well.

i prefer the times where im mostly sober but i do love feeling fukked up and having no inhibitions and just letting the night get epic

 

[CMNILS87]

If you ask most people why they don't have money. Check their debit cards and you'll see they spends hundreds a month on going out to eat and alcohol at bars. If these people actually invested that money in their early 20's/30's......holy **** balls they'd have investments out the ass. Ignorance of the masses keeps them broke

 

[womensview]

Thread title. It's somewhat a problem because if someone is throwing a party and I'm not drinking then people will be wondering what the heck is wrong with me. I have never had alcohol in my life nor do I plan to no matter how much people pressure me. I still want to be able to have fun and get some girls but I refuse to drink (it interferes with one of my life goals and may be detrimental towards it). I just don't want to be left out or third-wheeling crap at social events. All people do nowdays are drink or do drugs to have fun and no one wants to actually do STUFF anymore, like play soccer or go ice skating or laser tagging or any of that fun stuff. Any advice?

Just tell them u cant risk getting a DUI with your career goals.

 

[thatfeel]

There are some VERY tall horses here.

Drinking is a great social activity. Bars are a waste of money. But having stuff stocked and on hand when you want to host or get a decent little buzz alone or with a pal, why not? Wine is one of the best bang for buck beverages you can get if you're just looking for the 'feels' and cabernet and pinot noir actually taste pretty decent. One whiskey-glass sized serving of wine on an empty stomach is enough for me to feel some sort of way. Don't mind it at all.

Though, I've definitely lost my taste for straight liquors like jack et al. They just make my stomach turn.

Anyway, if you go to a party, nothing wrong with having a light beer or two. Maybe you can see if they just have some wine? Nothing wrong with just not drinking either, I wouldn't think much into it. If you can resist the peer pressure then more power to ya.

 

[playa99]

If you don't want to drink then fair play, own it and be confident with it, it's a personal choice. I don't and never would do drugs, I know a helluva lot of people who do, but I wouldn't do it!

I know a couple of people who don't drink at all & it makes no difference to their social life. If anything it's beneficial in some ways as you develop genuine confidence whereas a lot of young dudes develop beer soaked confidence.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If you don't want to drink then fair play, own it and be confident with it, it's a personal choice. I don't and never would do drugs, I know a helluva lot of people who do, but I wouldn't do it!

I know a couple of people who don't drink at all & it makes no difference to their social life. If anything it's beneficial in some ways as you develop genuine confidence whereas a lot of young dudes develop beer soaked confidence.

And they gonna get "fat" too... If they are staving it off being active in the club or whatever right now, when they stop, they will keep drinking and get fat.