I dont care and no motivation to do anything!

[ScrewIt]

Honestly i dont know whats wrong with me these past few weeks. My friends i barely talk to or call anymore. And all my school work as been average work, most are projects anyway. It's like i do the minimum to fulfill that B grade...usually cause i wait till the last minute to do it. A lot of the projects i get are very tedious, not hard but time consuming (another reason to procrastinate).

I can understand that my friends think im busy. But actually im not really. I feel more distant from them than i normally do. I've reached a point that i dont care about keeping in contact or hanging out. Maybe cause i know we wind up doing nothing or the same stuff. my main routines has mostly been school --> home (not much work lately cause of jewish holidays (my boss is jew))
I know i should look for another job and get my act straight, but i'm honestly stuck in a rut and have no desire to get out of it. I feel almost as if im a zombie.
I see so many different hot girls on campus all the time, i could care less...im serious.

I've taken an interest in martial arts, but even my schedule wont allow time for that (not this semester anyway). Which is driving me nuts.

Im actually in a school club, we're doing our first fundraiser next week (in addition to signing up ppl). I will be involved thankfully because i want to...i know it's not going to be exciting, but just something that i can do support the club.

I've reached a point where i can socialize with anyone, even strangers that it doesnt bother me. because of the realization that i know that nothing will come out of it, cause everyone's got their own **** to do. They dont care and neither do i, mainly cause it'll just be another person to greet. I mean sure im happy and have a blast talking with people, it really makes my day. But i could care less even if i didnt.

I strangely feel content at the moment, i've no goals and no real challenges (the tedious work from school doesnt even come close). My one true love of pool since h.s., i've come to not care about anymore these past couple weeks.

I just wanna know wtf is up with me?

 

[quest]

Originally posted by ScrewIt
Honestly i dont know whats wrong with me these past few weeks. My friends i barely talk to or call anymore. And all my school work as been average work, most are projects anyway. It's like i do the minimum to fulfill that B grade...usually cause i wait till the last minute to do it. A lot of the projects i get are very tedious, not hard but time consuming (another reason to procrastinate).

I can understand that my friends think im busy. But actually im not really. I feel more distant from them than i normally do. I've reached a point that i dont care about keeping in contact or hanging out. Maybe cause i know we wind up doing nothing or the same stuff. my main routines has mostly been school --> home (not much work lately cause of jewish holidays (my boss is jew))
I know i should look for another job and get my act straight, but i'm honestly stuck in a rut and have no desire to get out of it. I feel almost as if im a zombie.
I see so many different hot girls on campus all the time, i could care less...im serious.

I've taken an interest in martial arts, but even my schedule wont allow time for that (not this semester anyway). Which is driving me nuts.

Im actually in a school club, we're doing our first fundraiser next week (in addition to signing up ppl). I will be involved thankfully because i want to...i know it's not going to be exciting, but just something that i can do support the club.

I've reached a point where i can socialize with anyone, even strangers that it doesnt bother me. because of the realization that i know that nothing will come out of it, cause everyone's got their own **** to do. They dont care and neither do i, mainly cause it'll just be another person to greet. I mean sure im happy and have a blast talking with people, it really makes my day. But i could care less even if i didnt.

I strangely feel content at the moment, i've no goals and no real challenges (the tedious work from school doesnt even come close). My one true love of pool since h.s., i've come to not care about anymore these past couple weeks.

I just wanna know wtf is up with me?

my guess is you're making excuses.

What are you doing with this extra home time?

video games is my guess.

I can tell ya this much, remove internet/cable tv/video games and you'll get so bored that you'll actually do things that you enjoy. as opposed to doing things that don't bore you..

I recently moved house and had no internet/cable TV because of it (i got rid of all my video games LONG ago) I found myself doing things which were rarer. Homework before I HAD to do it. Jogging. Sun baking.

I had to do something...

Internet/TV/Video Games are so easy to use to cure boredom without actually having fun, that they cause a rut.

 

[ScrewIt]

Re: Re: I dont care and no motivation to do anything!

Originally posted by quest

Internet/TV/Video Games are so easy to use to cure boredom without actually having fun, that they cause a rut.

Actually out of the whole week i usually use tv only for 3hrs mostly.

I think it might be the computer, ive given up gaming a long time ago. Mostly im using hte computer for web surfing, music, and class projects...oh and porn too.
But you're probably right about putting time into that. But hey old habits die hard.

God damn i want those kung fu lessons!

 

[quest]

I can waste a hole day basically hanging around sosuave.com
chatting to friends on msn
wanking....etc.

and i always feel like **** afterwoods..

very important to just go and do something else..



got a dog? go take her/him for a walk. a long walk.

take your mp3 player/discman and listen to music. not the most recent stuff you're enjoying, but something that you used to love and listen to alot when you did feel motivated..

i'm not saying this will cure you, but you'll feel better and be on the right track.

 

[wordism]

lol the TV and porn will be death of you...I only watch TV for sports.. maybe 1 football game a week, and I catch some of the world series.. eventhough I hate baseball I have to represent Astros!

anywho I feel ya about your friends.. I just go out with my friends on Saturday. I spend the rest of my days solo going to school or working on stuff. I just feel hanging out is a waste of time.. I use Saturdays and sometimes Fridays as my break days. I don't know what made me this way, but it seems money made me not give a **** about anything else. I havent even really called girls at less its around 11pm or 12am. I haven't chilled with a girl in about 3 weeks. I could get some ***** tommorow if I wanted to, but money is all that is on my mind. With school I'm like damn cause the homework can be so damn time consuming.. I'm only 19 and haven't had much of a social life, and just when clubs were starting to get addicting.. I stopped going. Well only on saturdays.. its like all me and my friends have to do.
I'm starting to forget.. that this is Don Juan site, and I'm not a Don Juan.. so I need some motivation also but to be a Don Juan! I haven't pulled or attempted to pull any females in about a week

 

[Badmannaz]

astros suck

 

[guitaronfire411]

Stop making excuses. Then stop glorifying the fact that you're speeding back into an AFC. Then go out there and accomplish something.

"Nothing becomes of nothing."

 

[ScrewIt]

you're right, i am making excuses.

In the past and even now, if i wanted something bad enough i'd go for it regardless of the obstacles.

You say go out there and accomplish something. as of late, truth is i have no goals or motivation to accomplish anything. The biggest problem i see now is im trapped in a routine and im content with it. When i started college 3 yrs ago i had a lot of go-getter type personality, a lot of goals and motivation, i went for it and completed it. Funny thing is im the opposite now.

The only recent interest i've taken up is martial arts, but since i work during the day and take pm/weekend classes, it conflicts with my schedule.

 

[wordism]

Originally posted by Badmannaz
astros suck

yea they do

 

[spider_007]

take a vacation and get out of that place for few days..

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

Sometimes people have to hit bottom to rise up again. I allow people to do as they will and suffer, and when they desire to suffer no more, they are motivated, and start to challenge their own spirit.

Without BEING you, I cannot address what it is that ails you. However, you are 21, and probably defunct from dealing with college. College life is quite topsy turvy; always being uprooted to begin a new semester, never really get a job during school unless you stay in the area year round or get fin. aid, friends coming and going, women coming and going, amidst all the booze, it blends. For most anyways.

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Normally people lack ambition or goals because they're so impressed upon by people to actually do something. At a young age, parents practically push us into motivation and movement, since the theory is, kids won't do it alone. Then, schools do it, too. So do employers, etc.

Until you take the time to revel in your passion, everything else is for naught. Many nights I've gone out and wasted them, I've gone out to visit my bro at his college, drank a ton, and gone to bed late. Why? The pain of suffering. The fact of swinging from balance. Sometimes it sucks to be so straight edge, you go the opposite direction and realize how dumb it is.

Shyt, batman did it in Batman Begins. He dropped so low so he could experience low life and have an inner view of how THAT world worked. Again, movie, but the analogy applies. Many people do it. Most people who are wealthy, did it because they were poor and hated it (i.e. Warren Buffett). Those who are successful sometimes do so out of Ego or Revenge, and then later they've gathered momentum to move beyond.

Some guys came here for women or about women, hoping to get that bytchy X back, only to be enlightened to the fact better women exist. Still others went the gym hoping to lose a few pounds, and built a magnificent body of work. Whatever it is, what begins as pain eventually becomes pleasure. It's weird how that works.

I wouldn't stress it, because when a person finds their passion, they go off like a rocket. Those who don't, give up on finding and relegate themselves to mediocrity, to plodding along, to never doing better, to it "always being somebody else," to just producing enough.

I think that type of committment works. To me, even when I've bought a book, or a program, or tinkered, or gone out, I never say "i'm done, this is perect", because perfection is a momentary thing, if ever achieved. Perfection is a photograph, a moment captured then gone. That's all one can hope for. Amidst chaos great things are built.

Alot of people will say "what do you hope to attain" but to me, it's the natural course of life. Whenever I played Role Playings Game when I was younger, I used to just LEVEL my guy up to the high h3ll. He'd be super powerful, just for the hell of it. Made no sense, boring, waste of time, but the goal of ultimate dominance and power was fun. The intricate dedication to an end goal was great. Blazing a path in anything is wonderful.

If you look around and everybody is doing it, go find something else to do. If the public knows, it's old to me.

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First, stop thinking there's anything wrong with you.

Second, realize and listen to what this is saying to you. It's your inner spirit saying "you've got more talent and ability than this, you've gotten complacent, time to find something to do and now."

These feelings aren't bad, since they're like an early warning system for life. If we didn't have them, we'd get hit by the truck of time and not do anything. We'd easily sit playing games, watching tv, accumulating fat, instead of doing what our deepest heart's desire is.



A-Unit

 

[Gonzalo]

Well, you were motivated enough to come and post two pages on "motivation". Just channel that energy.

 

[Visceral]

I've heard from many people that motivation isn't anything more complicated than wanting something enough to suffer for it.

If you're like me, you either don't know what you want or have spent most of your life trying to not want anything.

People like us tend to have either: a very dim view of the odds of great success; are scared away by the demands of pursuit; or just don't want to be disturbed by desire.

The first one probably results from a guy looking too far into the future, and letting the distance between it and where he is right now discourage him. Face it, you'll never go straight to the top in one day, nobody can ... the people who reach the top just don't even think about this fact.

The second one, I'm sorry to say, there isn't much you can do about it. If change is hard, then progress is even harder. Whatever you do will probably end up being the hardest thing you ever do, if only because you're not numb to it. This is where wanting comes into play; you have to want something so much that you'll do anything to get it ... there's no other way.

The third one is the tricky one; I'd say that it's the behavior of someone who actually finds mediocrity preferable to greatness simply because it's easier, or the people that cultivate apathy in order to cope with their miserable lot in life. The only suggestion I can give you is to see a psychologist.