I did what I could not do.

[Bunk 040]

Originally posted by LikRetsam
An eye for an eye I guess. Revenge in your blood too or do you just like to hold grudges?

That last sentence just dismissed any attention or respect I would have towards your opinion because it is a simple retaliation for a thread of yours where I flamed you. For that I appologize and hope it can be put behind us. I too have that same nature.

Alright dude, first off I don't know you so why the hell would I want revenge.

I honestly don't recall you flaming me and if you did then, **** you This was no personal attack because I wouldn't do that stuff on a message board that's why I hardly read responses after I post, so I won't get into a flame war as you call it.

But to the point: Everybody that agreed with this post has to realize....I really forgot what the post was about and don't feel like reading all that ****.....but whatever tension you feel from me can be squashed from this point on and that goes to everybody.

 

[Oxide]

anybody else say "what the ****" when they read this?

Lol, i guess some people love to think too much, shiet i do this from time to time as well.


Lik, from what i've understood : you thought u were a DJ, then u became an ass, then you lost everything, and let go of everything to find love? well..that's great.


The thing with this site that really bothers me is..... it doesnt work for 99% of the people here.


A newbie comes here and learns this. Becomes smarter, and a little jerkier *thanks to pook for making half of newbies a$$holes*

after that fails, the guy believes he went through "afc-*******-X ZONE" phase, where you either revert to AFC or become smarter and level up (hah!) to what you believe is DJ level.


Once you are there, you believe you are the sh1t. You are the king.... but during this time you still havent had one LTR. (another reason why this happens is becuase this site is def not LTR guide).


So once you FINALLY get bored/or you do not suceed with many chicks, and just find that one that does return your calls, you go "DAMN, IM SO GOOD I FOUND ONE!"

As the time progresses, you try to pull "great DJ moves" on her, but that either "a. MAkes her dump you" or B. makes you realizie that it is kind of silly to be pulling this crap on the girl you care about".


Once you realize you dont really need to enforce these DJ rules, you let go, and then YOU THINK if she dumps you THAT IS BECAUSE YOU WERENT A DJ. Now this is just silly. I used to think this... god damn, i used to preach to MOTU this, sorry bro.


The reason you loose everything is not becuase you are not a DJ, it is becuase you are not a MAN. That is right, you are still a boy, with some DJ ideas you think make you a MAN. strip the ideas, and you are scared sh1tless....

and there you are. You have a choice. Continue to blame the loneliness on "DJ skills, or the lack of them" or REALIZE that you were never what you thought u were.


The path to a man is long and hard, with many obsticles that are faced daily.

Fukk, im scared myself, hold my hand and lets climb these stairs.

 

[LikRetsam]

Originally posted by Oxide
The reason you loose everything is not becuase you are not a DJ, it is becuase you are not a MAN. That is right, you are still a boy, with some DJ ideas you think make you a MAN. strip the ideas, and you are scared sh1tless....

It's not a problem that I'm a boy... cause she's just a girl.

Oxide... I was a natural DJ in the chicks category. When I got in the relationship, 2 days later it hit me hard that all the stuff this site preaches ain't gonna work there and so I dropped it. But what happened is I picked up on it subconsciously and started pulling that stuff out of the hat.

So once you FINALLY get bored/or you do not suceed with many chicks, and just find that one that does return your calls, you go "DAMN, IM SO GOOD I FOUND ONE!"

It's wrong to assume. If you read my last few personnal posts you would know that it was never like that. I had chicks in front of me like a buffet. I then decided to look for a quality meal in that cheap restaurant.

and there you are. You have a choice. Continue to blame the loneliness on "DJ skills, or the lack of them" or REALIZE that you were never what you thought u were.

I knew where I was and it was where I wanted to be. Respected by everyone. I gave respect to everyone. I was the life of the party when I felt like it and had a different girl by my side at each hour of the day. I was truly and extremly happy. But I unfortunatly let go of that, not by choice, and it screwed me over. I lost respect for people and they lost it in me.

Lik

 

[Oxide]

OK, so what happened. why did you let go?
i dont see a person dropping everything and becoming totally opposite. human nature doesnt work that way. either you never were what you thought, or you made others make decisions for you.

 

[LikRetsam]

Originally posted by Oxide
OK, so what happened. why did you let go?
i dont see a person dropping everything and becoming totally opposite. human nature doesnt work that way. either you never were what you thought, or you made others make decisions for you.

I was driving down a road and slowly curved into the wrong lane and it started taking me somewhere I didn't want to go. So I basically... got back on track... On the same old road but in a new lane.

I let go of my faults, of my previous beliefs. Sure not all of them, but some, little by little.

 

[Sammo]

Whoa, what an adventure. Everyone wants to get from A to B, they think that B will make them happy, because at B, they are muscular, they are the ladies man, they have a cool car, everyone likes them. But there is something they dont understand, once they get to B, they will want to get to C, as humans we will never be satisfied.

This fact can either depress you or inspire you. (Eat it or throw it away).

So what is there to do? Keep chasing the next letter of course, you will NEVER have complete satisfaction with what you have, but you CAN have complete satisfaction with what you have accomplished.

"Every man die's, but how many men really live?

Congrats Lik, you are one of few people that actually live.

For every good and new thing you got you had to go through something hard, this is how life works. You will NEVER discover new land without consenting to lose sight of the shore, for a very long time.

Also, fellas, what's all this talk of "journey", none of you will experience what Lik has, and he will never experience what you have, dont try to follow his footsteps, make your own, come to your own realisations.

This site is here to take you to the next letter, to help you find new lands, just keep living YOUR LIFE.

 

[Need-2-B-Pimpin]

Look back on your experiences and smile...you've learned quite a bit. This is without a doubt the deepest post I've read in a long time. I admire you for being man enough to spew it all out with honesty, DJ and non-DJ aspects and learn from it, and hopefully some of us will do the same. Good luck finding yourself.

You might want to try reading Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig. It's a lot about finding oneself, great book.

Oh! And Sammo, I think the trip from A to B is what matters most...it's not the goals. There's a great thread by BBB about self-improvement relating to that which I bumped up a week or so ago, you might want to read my bump.