I cheated

[perseverance]

Call me sceptical and a total moron, but I stopped believing the story after this sentence:-

"I go to the hospital and get stitches. I was sedated and lost alot of blood so I was totally gone... "

I have had to go to hospital once or twice with alcohol related injuries, nothing quite as serious as yours and the nurses/doctors refused to treat me because I had consumed alcohol. They simply tried their best to bandage me up and let me sleep it before assessing me in the morning.

I find it hard to believe that they would give a drunkard stitches and would sedate you when you are wasted, I also fail to see how you could have been sedated, had stitches, been totally wasted and then headed back to the party where you managed to cheat all in the same night/morning.

If your story is true, and this did actually happen, then if you live by the sword, you must be prepared to die by the sword. If you want to remain with her, then I would keep this to yourself and carry on as normal. If you want out of the relationship or feel like acting on your moral conscience, then tell her, but either way make your decision based on what YOU think is best, not what others tell you is best.

 

[Razor Sharp]

Don't mean to sound patronizing here but dude, you are 22 years old. At this age you have no business getting serious with anyone. You are not capable of having a "meaningful romantic relationship" because you haven't really lived yet. This is the time to be selfish and get as much experience as you can. You should be partying, f*cking up and doing stupid irresponsible things while you can be forgiven for them. I swear youth is wasted on the young!

Personally, I prefer to be honest if I am questioned point blank about cheating. It's just less effort/energy to maintain illusions or keep track of alibis. Plus I feel like sneaking around is a weak/beta thing to do. If you really have confidence and dominance over women, they honestly will not mind sharing you if that means getting to keep you in their lives for just a little longer.

With that said I try to keep things discreet. My policy is don't ask, don't tell and I certainly don't volunteer that info for a girl I've only been seeing for a couple of months (virgin or not). She hasn't earned the right to exclusivity so why come out of pocket?

My advice: Stop acting like you are married and pretending this is more serious than it really is. Enjoy being young because it's over before you realize it.

 

[Darth_Qurashi]

hey man, i'm gonna go against a lot of ppl, but i'll just tell you my opinion and why, and maybe i'm wrong but I think you should just tell her. just be honest. I just think it's a **** move to lie, you should never lie. you said it yourself, it was a mistake, so own up to it, accept it and just tell her. And then you tell her that you're sorry. She can decide if she wants to stay with you or not.

If she still want's to be with you, she'll stay with you. if not, then well you learned your lesson.

I just don't think it's very alpha to lie and hide secrets. that's what you do when ur scared of how the other person is gonna react. don't be afraid bro. Be confident, no one is perfect, so you don't have to pretend to be the perfect bf for your gf, if you make mistakes, then admit it, and try harder next time.

Besides you can't really trust anyone not to tell.

hope it helped.