I cheated on my girlfriend

[Gold Heart]

My friend threw a party because his parents are out of state for the weekend.

He has a huge house and eventually we all started dancing. I talked to every girl I layed my eyes on, trying to hone my conversation skills and by the time I got into the dancing as well, I got sandwiched and the girl behind me was trying to unzip my pants and I grab her hand, and turn my head to see her to yell over the music, "It's so ironic that you were just talking to me about how all guys want from you is sex!" And I winked at her. Got a big laugh, and a pinch on my ass. Then the girl in front of me started dancing alone since it seemed as if I was more into the one behind me. The girl behind me - We ended up making out and then taking it to another level in the bathroom.

After we got out, I went back to dancing and one of them, about a 9 asked me to dance and I flipped it, saying "What ever happened to the GUYS making the first move?" I got the classic jaw drop and punch on the arm. She probably never had someone say that to her before in her life. We danced and we ended up making out, and a lot of sensual touching in the corner.

I had a blast, getting some email and numbers, dances and more, lol but as you can see, I cheated on my girlfriend, who is taking a vacation out of state!

I had fun, I have no regrets, but some her friends were at the party too. Some people know that I got laid in the bathroom, and what if her friends snitch? Any advice? Thanks fellas.

 

[Gold Heart]

10 months, and during that time, she's seen me go from a recovering AFC to a motha fukin bad azz.

Anybody know any excuses to help me cut clean from this situation?

 

[AC/DC]

You reap what you sow.

Sorry.

 

[eba]

You are so pimp, kid. You are an inspiration to all aspiring-DJs.

I agree wif my nigg Gig that the relationship is over if she finds out. But then again you won't have to worry about cheating on her anymore and you can hook up with all those other women you got the phone numbers from.

 

[Dizzy]

Originally posted by eba
wif my nigg

Shoot yourself, people like you are what makes america bad.

 

[eba]

Originally posted by Dizzy
Shoot yourself, people like you are what makes america bad.

Thanks man. I love you too.

 

[blinkin_winkin]

Originally posted by Dizzy
Shoot yourself, people like you are what makes america bad.

Or... is it the people who feel they are so holier than thou that they can judge others so severely.

Back to the thread's purpose... you did great Gold Heart. It would have been great if you didn't have a girlfriend. I've never had this happen to me before so I can't give you great advice. If you don't tell her and she finds it then it's definitely over.

 

[PiHiPlaya]

Ok, cheating on your girlfriend=NOT COOL

Never do that, that isn't don juanism... that's just playin. AND ANY OF YOU THAT THINK THAT BEING A DON JUAN IS ABOUT PLAYING AS MANY "B1TCHEZ" YOU CAN LAY YOUR HANDS ON CAN LEAVE THE BOARD NOW CUZ THAT IS STRAIT UP DISRESPECTFUL AND WE DON'T NEED YOU HERE.

I congratulate you on getting the girls... but you shoulda known when to draw the line dude.

SO not cool.

 

[kevbo]

dude, i just spent and overnight trip surrounded by hot choir chicks. you think i even TRIED to do anything? no. i have respect for my gf. instead, i spent my time makin more friends.

 

[Vincent]

Well it is bad to cheat on your gf,

If you get the tip of the day, then you prob got the on from Aug 5, which tells you to

Pursue and date more than one woman at a time.

They explain that you don't know what you want so try a variety. Your not married yet, enjoy your time.

So its good and bad that you did it. More good though

 

[Gold Heart]

Originally posted by PiHiPlaya
Ok, cheating on your girlfriend=NOT COOL

Never do that, that isn't don juanism... that's just playin. AND ANY OF YOU THAT THINK THAT BEING A DON JUAN IS ABOUT PLAYING AS MANY "B1TCHEZ" YOU CAN LAY YOUR HANDS ON CAN LEAVE THE BOARD NOW CUZ THAT IS STRAIT UP DISRESPECTFUL AND WE DON'T NEED YOU HERE.

I congratulate you on getting the girls... but you shoulda known when to draw the line dude.

SO not cool.

True, you seem like you're judging me though and that's not even how I looked at it, and that's not how I perceive don juanism either, so if that's what you were thinking, then no.

I went out to have fun and to make my conversational skills better and meet new people. But I met a little more of some certain girls than what I expected if you can follow with what I'm saying

I got caught up in the moment, and at the time I was up for it. You can't control how you feel and I can accept the consequences. If she leaves, then I earned it. If there's a chance to avoid it, then I say avoid it. It's like robbing a bank. They all run and almost always get caught because they do it over and over again. But if you escape and never do it again, then you're a rich man. It's a bad comparison, but hey.

Bump. Thanks for all the replies I've gotten so far.

 

[MoAF]

Originally posted by Gold Heart
10 months, and during that time, she's seen me go from a recovering AFC to a motha fukin bad azz.

Anybody know any excuses to help me cut clean from this situation?

Well have you been exclusive the whole 10 months? If you've been seing other ppl the whole time [plz say you have] then its no big deal, just shrug it off.

But alas... you are in HS, and the girl probably talked you into bein exclusive. That means you are in trouble... I would bring it up like this: 10 months is a long time, were both in our sexual prime, its foolish to get hurt by something that means nothing, ect ect ect.

And anyone who says DJing isn't about bedding as many women as you so desire, obviously doesn't know who the **** Don Juan was, lol! You did fine buddy, don't worry about the slack your getting. Drop me a line on AIM, your my kinda fela... moafoi

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by MoAF
And anyone who says DJing isn't about bedding as many women as you so desire, obviously doesn't know who the **** Don Juan was, lol!

Damn, that was by far the most superficial statement ive heard here. If being a dj was about having sex with girls then why would it preach self improvement so much? Maybe thats all its about for some people but others might not see it the same way.

 

[Da Game]

People should use the skills in a way that makes them happy. Relax, people.

 

[WingS]

Originally posted by PiHiPlaya
Ok, cheating on your girlfriend=NOT COOL

Never do that, that isn't don juanism... that's just playin. AND ANY OF YOU THAT THINK THAT BEING A DON JUAN IS ABOUT PLAYING AS MANY "B1TCHEZ" YOU CAN LAY YOUR HANDS ON CAN LEAVE THE BOARD NOW CUZ THAT IS STRAIT UP DISRESPECTFUL AND WE DON'T NEED YOU HERE.

I congratulate you on getting the girls... but you shoulda known when to draw the line dude.

SO not cool.

it all depends on the relationship

she could be cheating on HIM while SHE is out of town...and anyway supposing they broke up then he would missed out on having got laid by two hot chicks...anyway what happened to "one-itis"

 

[Gold Heart]

Originally posted by WingS
it all depends on the relationship

she could be cheating on HIM while SHE is out of town...and anyway supposing they broke up then he would missed out on having got laid by two hot chicks...anyway what happened to "one-itis"

Hell yeah

Originally posted by Da Game
People should use the skills in a way that makes them happy. Relax, people.

Couldn't have said it better.

She's coming back early this week, I'm not sure when yet. Her friends'll probably snitch since they're all close but let's all just hope for the best.

 

[drixsa]

its like this:

being a DJ has somewhat of a multiple definition.

some say its about hooking up with as many girls that you want to and some say it is about gettin the LTR.

and in a sense those are both right b/c a don juan does what he wants to do.

Gold Heart: Anybody know any excuses to help me cut clean from this situation?

this isnt what a DJ does. he doesnt make excuses. if he makes a mistake he handles it like a man. you obviously do not want to be with your girl that much if you cheated on her. i dont wanna hear "i was drunk" etc. those are all excuses. thats what seperates us we have the power to not be controled by our little head.

eba: You are so pimp, kid. You are an inspiration to all aspiring-DJs.

complete opposite. dont worry bout him, you need to worry bout YOU. listen to yourself you sound like a fool.

PiHiPlaya: Ok, cheating on your girlfriend=NOT COOL...Never do that, that isn't don juanism... that's just playin. AND ANY OF YOU THAT THINK THAT BEING A DON JUAN IS ABOUT PLAYING AS MANY "B1TCHEZ" YOU CAN LAY YOUR HANDS ON CAN LEAVE THE BOARD NOW CUZ THAT IS STRAIT UP DISRESPECTFUL AND WE DON'T NEED YOU HERE.

i have mixed feelings on cheating on your girlfriend. if you decide to give your word( that in its simplist terms: you wont have sexual contact with anyone else) then i think tha you should honor your word. yes you can date many woman but thats just it you are dating them not going out with them exclusively.

kevbo: dude, i just spent and overnight trip surrounded by hot choir chicks. you think i even TRIED to do anything? no. i have respect for my gf. instead, i spent my time makin more friends.

No. you have respect for yourself and you also made the best of your situation. nice job.


just know that if you are honest you will get dumped.

if she finds out later youll get dumped

regardless shell think you are an a-hole

this is why i do not date exclusively

 

[misunderstood??]

I'd just play it cool. When she gets back, tell her at the first good moment. You want to be one of the first people to tell her, bring it up like it isn't a huge deal, being honest and telling her instead of trying to hide it will speak volumes of you. Tell her something like:

"I went to ____'s party and I enjoyed myself. I met a bunch of people and things went a lil' far with the some of the girls I met. I ended up kissing a girl and I had sex with one also. I'm not particularily proud of what I did but I wanted to be the one to let you know and I don't want to make excuses for my actions, I did what I did."

You don't want to beg forgiveness or act as if you did something horribly wrong, act like it was just something that happened and can't be changed. See how she deals with it, continue to talk to her about it for like 5 more mins to address any of her urgent concerns then tell her you two should talk about it later after you two have both had some time to put some thought into it so neither will say anything they'd want to take back. Talk to her about it a few days after this initial discussion. Continue to act like you did nothing terribly wrong and that your actions can't be reversed. Be firm, if she can't deal with it be prepared to end things, remember there's always more fish in the sea. If she seems to be reasonable about it and calm and collected also then odds are you could fix things up, just continue to talk to her and see what happens. Please remember though, you can't change what happened so don't regret it, accept it, be strong and good luck!

 

[Gold Heart]

^ Thanks misunderstood, that's the best reply I've gotten so far.

 

[Solja J]

Just buy her a 4 million dollar ring like Kobe