sup im a 21 yo virgin who never kissed girl. saturday night this girl invited me over at like midnight. we stayed up the whole night talking but when we got close (lying down, touching, etc) i chickened out numerous times to make a move. Her words to me as i was leaving the next morning were "i like you" and as i got in my car i wanted to punch my face in for being such an afc and an all around pvssy. I've had an unbearable feeling of regret and borderline disgust with myself letting fear overwhelm me like that. I can't seem to think of nething else. all I can think of is how this girl must think im a total wous i can only hope i didnt scare her off completely. How do i get over this feeling of regret bc I cant stand it. what should i do about this girl?
i cant take this pain
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baddfishh40
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Use that feeling for motivation for future girls. You could probably wait a little while and get back with that girl too. Use your mistakes to your advantage.
h2o
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yo, you've been here for more than a year...
...anyway, maybe since you're still a virgin and haven't kissed a girl you're putting too much pressure on it? I hadn't really made out with a girl and still had my v-card when I found this site exactly around this time last year. Don't make a big deal out of it...
...seriously, just do it ...she doesn't know you're not experienced, so act like you are, and just do what you've seen in porn or movies or whatever
make eyecontact with her, then look at her lips ...she's bound to look down at her lips, and close her eyes, that's when you go for it... or, you can lightly put your finger to her chin, and she'll know it's coming
...about that girl ...just hang out with her again, since she's already said she "likes you" ...but make a move this time
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btw, only other thing I can think of is, are you attracted to the girl? or is she just a 'plain jane'? ...if you're not attracted to her, you might want to find someone you are attracted to, to have your first kiss with at least
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I think people put too much emphasis on this whole 'first' thing. I mean, the first time I kissed a girl was also the first time I got to third base, and it was when I was 17 years old and drunk at a party. She was hot and everything, but I didn't even really like this b*tch. I thought it would be like this huge AFC feeling of loss or something, but I didn't feel any different. Just kind of excited, I guess. Then when I lost my V card it wasn't that big a deal either.
I think people put too much emphasis on this whole 'first' thing. I mean, the first time I kissed a girl was also the first time I got to third base, and it was when I was 17 years old and drunk at a party. She was hot and everything, but I didn't even really like this b*tch. I thought it would be like this huge AFC feeling of loss or something, but I didn't feel any different. Just kind of excited, I guess. Then when I lost my V card it wasn't that big a deal either.
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
Didn't make a move??? WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU??????
You need to get beatin with a stick!!!!! :trouble: :trouble: :trouble:
You need to get beatin with a stick!!!!! :trouble: :trouble: :trouble:
BackToTheMack
Senior Don Juan
Errrrr so what do you want from us? do you want us to tell you that you are a pu*sy? OK
YOU ARE A F**KING PU*SY
Your layign there toagther and you dont have the balls to kiss her pftttttt. A your not even a man?
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There you go do you feel better now?
YOU ARE A F**KING PU*SY
Your layign there toagther and you dont have the balls to kiss her pftttttt. A your not even a man?
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There you go do you feel better now?
Hound_of_Love
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Identify the fear and deal with it.
What are you afraid of? Not being good at what you're going to do? Basically a fear of failure?
What are the consequences of failure here? She'll be disappointed? Worst case, she laughs in your face and leaves. So what, practice makes perfect. You can't expect to be good at stuff first go.
What are you afraid of? Not being good at what you're going to do? Basically a fear of failure?
What are the consequences of failure here? She'll be disappointed? Worst case, she laughs in your face and leaves. So what, practice makes perfect. You can't expect to be good at stuff first go.
Fake it till you make it. You're not experienced? Who the **** cares? She doesn't have to know that. My first sex, even though I was a virgin, I didn't let her think for one second that I was not in control. I faked it, and now I don't have to fake it anymore, ha.
Listen dude, you obviously have some kind of fear in dealing with this sorta situation, but whether its due to lack of experience or whatever is not the problem here.
Your saviour in this situation is courage.
Think about it. courage is largly misconcepted these days. A fearless warrior storming into battle is usually the first thing that comes to mind for most ppl. but of course this is not courage. (i know it seems like im getting off track here but bear with me).
If someone has no fear with the given situation then how can they show courage. they are not couragous.... just fearless.
This is your chance to show courage dude. If your scared of making a move with this chick but you go ahead and do it anyway in face of that fear, then you have shown true courage my friend. and let me tell you, thats a confidence booster and things will only get easier from there.
I wish the best of luck to you man.
Good luck.
Dave.
Your saviour in this situation is courage.
Think about it. courage is largly misconcepted these days. A fearless warrior storming into battle is usually the first thing that comes to mind for most ppl. but of course this is not courage. (i know it seems like im getting off track here but bear with me).
If someone has no fear with the given situation then how can they show courage. they are not couragous.... just fearless.
This is your chance to show courage dude. If your scared of making a move with this chick but you go ahead and do it anyway in face of that fear, then you have shown true courage my friend. and let me tell you, thats a confidence booster and things will only get easier from there.
I wish the best of luck to you man.
Good luck.
Dave.
It's really not a big deal. My first time went flawless. No mistakes at all and it felt fresh (a combination between good and new). Just make sure you know what to do and it's no big deal.
Remember that you're just another one of the millions of people who are making out that day.
Think of it as scoring a goal. Scoring the goal is easy, but creating the oppurtunity is a lot harder.
Remember that you're just another one of the millions of people who are making out that day.
Think of it as scoring a goal. Scoring the goal is easy, but creating the oppurtunity is a lot harder.
"I like you" at the end means "come over again and kiss me next time."
I doubt she's thinking you're a wuss. She's probably thinking "doesn't he like me? why not kiss me? am i ugly?"
it's okay to fail once but if you do it again you're a tool. <-- haha geez my gf always says i follow up a positive with a negative. I guess she's right
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Do what you fear most, and you will control your fear.
MidnightResistance
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Dude, you said "I LIKE YOU."
This means she wants you to come back another time.
I'm sure she's figured out you're a total noobie and she's happy to show you the ropes and probably keep you around for a while.
I suggest the next time you see her, just put your arms around her, tell her you really like her.
Apologise for being nervous before and she'll cut you A LOT of slack.
This is how it happened with my first GF. It was also the first time I got laid.
She KNOWS and she doesn't mind.
You'll be fine.
This means she wants you to come back another time.
I'm sure she's figured out you're a total noobie and she's happy to show you the ropes and probably keep you around for a while.
I suggest the next time you see her, just put your arms around her, tell her you really like her.
Apologise for being nervous before and she'll cut you A LOT of slack.
This is how it happened with my first GF. It was also the first time I got laid.
She KNOWS and she doesn't mind.
You'll be fine.
yo so i hung out w her last night and i finaly just askd if i could kiss her [pvssy move but improvement]so we were making out and i went for it all she said no 2marow night so ill b losin the v card 2night, thank u all for the kiks in the ass, and as usual, once i stood up to that queazy feeling of fear, i wonder wtf i was so scared of.
:woo:Not being harsh - but this doesn't ****ing matter. You made a mistake - just make sure it doesn't happen again.
At least you can get a girl in that position, unlike so many of the AFC's on these boards.
If it's any consolation she probably thinks its something she did that made you not do anything.
At least you can get a girl in that position, unlike so many of the AFC's on these boards.
If it's any consolation she probably thinks its something she did that made you not do anything.