I Can't Get ONE Date

[Mike32ct]

Most women prefer social circle. They want to date or F a "friend of a friend."

They are only open to cold approach if the guy is really exceptional

It doesn't mean you can't cold approach. Just understand that it's a slim odds game.

When you do cold approach (in a bar or club), take the interaction as far as you can THAT NIGHT whether it's a makeout or ONS. After the booze and fun party vibe wears off, odds are she won't want to know you the next day.

 

[The Bat]

i honestly dont see where or when the best place is to find quality women?

Somebody already answered it and I will re-iterate....SOCIAL CIRCLE is the best venue/outlet/spot/etc to pick up women.

You know the old saying, "Is it better to have 1 great friend or 10 acquaintances?"....well I generally think that having a "great friend" is better but when it comes to meeting women, having an army of acquaintances is the ticket to spinning many, many plates.

I'll admit, it's kinda tough to have a big social circle if you have very limited interactions with people around your age at work. That's why things like livingsocial and rec sports leagues are the best places to make friends in this day and age.

However, benefits when it comes to meeting women are amazing. It is easier that way because you're not a complete stranger to them. Some random guy at a bar or at a supermarket, a woman doesn't know if he is secretly a pedophile or a serial killer or whatever...with a guy from her social circle, in her mind she thinks you're at least not a wanted criminal or don't torture baby seals in your spare time.

Although, all the gaming tactics that apply to cold approaches still apply to meeting women from the social circle.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

IOI's:

*When you talk to these girls, are you waiting for them to ask you your name, or are you just giving it to them? If they ask, they're interested.

*How long are you talking to these girls before you go in for the number? More importantly, are you asking for it or are they OFFERING it to you w/o you having to ask? If you're doing and saying the right things they'll usually just give it to you.

*Are they asking you about yourself? When you open them up you have to ask about them, but are they trying to keep the convo going with you, or does it seem like you're doing all the work? If they like you, they should be asking all sorts of questions.

*When you ask for the number (if they haven't given it to you), are they hesitant, or scrambling right away for a pen? The quickness with which they're willing to give you the number will help you better determine if (a) they like you, (b) will give you a REAL number, and (c) won't flake if you call them.

You're thinking about it too much, but it's really, REALLY not that hard to get a girl's number - so long as the situation isn't forced. Real talk: I was at a show taping yesterday, standing in line with a hot chick waiting to get in. I did a side-comment (i.e. a comment that's not necessarily directed towards her, but said out loud in case she has interest and want to jump in).

I think I said something like, "man, they didn't tell me about the whole 'don't bring cell phones' thing." Yes, THIS was my opener - and she responded "yeah, they didn't tell me about it either." Next thing I know we're in a conversation where:

*She asked me about myself
*She asked MY name first
*She got into a story about how her short hair is sometimes long, then pulled out a business card with her face on it - as well as her phone number, facebook name and email address - to show me and keep (i.e. GAVE ME THE NUMBER W/O ME ASKING)

And all of this was within the span of 10 minutes!

Again, it can't feel like a forced convo - women sniff these out all day, and if you're awkward then the situation is awkward, and she won't want to give you ANY info, let alone go on a date with you.

 

[drift king]

Somebody already answered it and I will re-iterate....SOCIAL CIRCLE is the best venue/outlet/spot/etc to pick up women.

You know the old saying, "Is it better to have 1 great friend or 10 acquaintances?"....well I generally think that having a "great friend" is better but when it comes to meeting women, having an army of acquaintances is the ticket to spinning many, many plates.

I'll admit, it's kinda tough to have a big social circle if you have very limited interactions with people around your age at work. That's why things like livingsocial and rec sports leagues are the best places to make friends in this day and age.

However, benefits when it comes to meeting women are amazing. It is easier that way because you're not a complete stranger to them. Some random guy at a bar or at a supermarket, a woman doesn't know if he is secretly a pedophile or a serial killer or whatever...with a guy from her social circle, in her mind she thinks you're at least not a wanted criminal or don't torture baby seals in your spare time.

Although, all the gaming tactics that apply to cold approaches still apply to meeting women from the social circle.

but building a social circle is really difficult because 1)lot of guys will not want to share the girls they know (they're in short supply as it is friends wise) and 2)most girls will not want to introduce you to their gfs.. reason being? when they go out to a bar or whatever they want an army of guys around them for the ego boost and attention.

have you know of a hot girl who has lots of female friends or just a few with an army of orbiters?

secondly these so called female friends want you to come out to pay for their night out i.e. get a table with the other guys so they get a free night out.

realistically building such a social circle in this day and age if you haven't grown up with them or went to school/college with makes it inifinitely impossible that's why all of us are cold approaching.

 

[Kbomb]

Ask yourself this question. Do you truly love yourself and genuinely accept who you are? If the answer is yes to both of them, then women will come flocking to you the moment you come to that realization.

THIS

 

[scholarjan]

but building a social circle is really difficult because 1)lot of guys will not want to share the girls they know (they're in short supply as it is friends wise) and 2)most girls will not want to introduce you to their gfs.. reason being? when they go out to a bar or whatever they want an army of guys around them for the ego boost and attention.

have you know of a hot girl who has lots of female friends or just a few with an army of orbiters?

secondly these so called female friends want you to come out to pay for their night out i.e. get a table with the other guys so they get a free night out.

realistically building such a social circle in this day and age if you haven't grown up with them or went to school/college with makes it inifinitely impossible that's why all of us are cold approaching.

First of all you have to cold approach in the first place in order to make some friends as well lol. Cold approach to later warm approach?