I can't eat like I used to - any advice?

[Cassone]

My [now ex] girlfriend of 4 years and I have been having problems for the past 3-4 weeks and just recently ended it. During those weeks, I have found it very difficult to eat like I used to and it is affecting my weight. I've lost about 10 pounds in that amount of time!

I try to eat, but when I start eating I get full very, very quickly. Once I get this full feeling, even chewing any more food makes me feel like vomiting. But I know I am not really full because I will be able to eat again in an hour or so.

I am not sitting around moping about our breakup, instead I am hanging out with friends all the time and going out "sarging" to meet and pickup new girls. The problem, however, still persists.

A side effect of this is that I cannot workout, play sports, or exercise properly. I simply do not have enough energy; I get burnt out and light headed very easily.

I am 6'1" and weighed 175lbs at my peak. Before this started, I weighed about 168lbs and now I'm down to about 158lbs. I would like to start eating a ton again so that I have the nutrition and energy to build my muscles back and hopefully get up to 180-185lbs.

Any suggestions on how I can eliminate this feeling and start consuming a lot of food like I used to?

Thanks!

 

[DJDamage]

Sounds like you are depressed. Depression as a result of break up can lead to loss of appetite.

The best way to do so is jump right back to the routine of things. You said you stopped working out because you are burned out?! well I suggest that even if you are tired to at least try working out for a bit. This should kick start your body and it would demand a greater quantity of food. You should also start to increase the amount of meals you have in a day but in smaller portions. Don't stop eating when you feel full but stop when you feel a little bit more hungry and then eat another meal 2-3 hours later.

 

[KontrollerX]

DJDamage is probably right but it still can't hurt to see a doctor to rule out a physical cause.

If none can be found the regular doctor might prescribe you anti depressents or refer you to a psychiatrist or counselor at which point you can ask them to first try regular therapy with you before taking any anti depressants if you hate drugs of any kind as much as I do.

 

[mrRuckus]

"...a new Duke University study that showed exercise, yes exercise, is just as effective a cure for depression as Paxil and Zoloft. So ask your doctor if getting off your ass is right for you!" - Bill Maher

 

[Quiksilver]

Stress and high blood pressure my friend. There's a series of biochemical responses in your body(insulin, cortisol, etc) that can do strange things including loss of appetite.

You're in a transition period right now, and your mind and body--whether you are aware of it or not--is trying to adapt.

I had a pretty rough summer with a lot of change, guess what? I put on 20lbs in like 2 months. With the help of workouts, atleast not ALL of it was fat

 

[I-tallionStallion]

The best way to elimate this feeling you are having is this....deal with the pain, don't try to escape it, recover, and then grab your balls like a man and eat dammit.

Don't work so hard trying to get another girl, relax, live your life, concentrate on yourself and family. By you trying to get other girls, failure will only make it worse.

DO guy $hit...do things you love, discover or learn something new. One of my favorite hobbies is 'urban exploring'...i live in NJ and there are abandoned mental hospitals, caves, nursing homes, that me and my friends conquer and explore late at night. Let me tell you, its fun...just um...don't get caught like some of my idiot friends.

 

[Cassone]

Well, I think it was just a time and coping issue. I was never sulking or anything, but the loss was always in the back of my head.

I feel a hell of a lot better now, have started working out again, continued hanging out with friends, have continued meeting new girls, and can now eat to a normal full feeling without the sick-to-my-stomach feeling.

I can't yet eat like I used to, probably because it has been a while and my body has adjusted, but I am slowly working my way back up to get it used to large amounts of food again.

Thanks for the replies!