I can't believe this happened...

[Kerpal]

Short version: Met HOT older woman on the internet, made out, earlier in the evening she said she wanted to have sex but later she seemed to lose interest, but said she would call me later in the week.

Long version:

I met this 31 year old black woman on Craigslist (I responded to her ad) who said she was just looking for a "friends with benefits" situation. We met at a bookstore and I couldn't believe how hot this woman was, she looked even better in person than she did in her pictures.

So we talked for a while at the cafe at the bookstore and then went to a restaurant in her car. At the restaurant she kept getting more and more sexual and was asking me tons of sexual questions and telling me about her favorite positions and etc. When we got the check she said she wanted to go back to my place. She knew I was nervous and kept saying "don't be nervous, there's no reason to be" and stuff like that.

So we got in her car and she took me back to where my car was parked and pulled into a spot and we were talking and all of a sudden she said "kiss me" and we started kissing. It was amazing, I've only kissed one other girl before this and she didn't kiss anything like this. She tasted SOOO good and the way she was rubbing my tongue with hers was incredible. She started rubbing my **** and I was rubbing her ***** and kissing her neck, shoulder and stomach, and she took my other hand and put it on her tit and eventually I pushed her bra out of the way and sucked her nipple.

She was talking dirty to me and everything and asked if she could see my "hard, throbbing ****" (yes, she actually said that) but I didn't want to take it out because we were sitting in a parking lot even though we were off in the far corner of the lot. So then she asked me to tell her what I wanted to do to her, and I just froze up. I know, it's stupid, but I was completely stunned. I just couldn't believe this was happening. I've only been with 1 girl in my life, it was only a few times, and it was 3 1/2 years ago. I had had NO contact with any woman since then, no kissing, nothing.

So anyway I totally froze up and just kept kissing her and I think that's when the mood changed. I know if a woman is in the mood and you **** up and she "loses" it, you're probably not getting any. It seemed like she "lost" it there, she seemed a little impatient with how shy I was. And she even told me that she had "lost it".

So eventually she said she wanted to see me later in the week instead and wasn't comfortable having sex with me that night and asked for my number and she put it in her phone. Then I left and she waved to me as we were pulling out of the parking lot.

Anyway she kept saying stuff like "don't worry, I'm definitely going to call you, I really want to see you again" and stuff like that but I definitely blew it in the car. She didn't want to give me her number and didn't want me to come to her place yet, because she said she didn't know me well enough yet. And she kept saying stuff like "OMG, you're so young!" and seemed really wary about my "experience level".

I can't believe this happened. In fact I'm actually starting to wonder if it was just a dream. But it did. Even if she doesn't call me, I'm really happy because this has given me a huge confidence boost because after 3.5 years I had started thinking no woman found me attractive. And not only did she find me attractive, but she was HOT! She turned every guy's head at the cafe and at the restaurant we went to. People were clearly wondering what the hell this hot black woman was doing with this younger white guy.

So anyway, do you guys think she'll call me? I really hope she does but I kind of doubt it. Also I'm really nervous about what will happen if she decides she does want to have sex with me. She clearly has WAY more experience and I told her I've been with 2 girls even though I've only really been with one, and I didn't tell her it was 3.5 years ago. I'm hoping that I can "fake it till I make it". Also do you think her being black and me being white makes any difference? She didn't seem to care at all and told me she's more attracted to white guys than black guys.

And finally, I just want to say to any guy reading this who hasn't started working out yet, START WORKING OUT! I can't stress enough how much it has changed my life. It's the best feeling in the world to have a hot woman rubbing your body and telling you how attractive she thinks you are. Go to Health and Fitness section and read "where to start" and apply it. It will be the best thing you've ever done for yourself.

 

[Rashad]

Yeah, you totally killed the mood. Lack of confidence killed it actually. My ex gf used to do this and i would actually STOP having sex with her mid thrust...it turned me off that much...Before you say im crazy, think of a girl who is too nervous to perform oral.

Confidence during sex, is a must. Or you may as well jerk off. Next time, if there is one, make a decision. Tell her you want to do what she wants..whatever. But say something. You will just have to learn from this and move forward. I have been with black girls..they can be very fun! But you gotta be the MAN she asked for in that ad.

Dont be a flat squirrel....aka, one that couldnt tell whether to go left or right.

 

[Kerpal]

Yeah, I totally blew it but I just couldn't believe it was happening. It was like sensory overload. I hope she calls me, she's actually really cool as well as being hot as hell. And now that I know she found me attractive, I feel like I can be a lot more confident around her.

 

[Rashad]

Keep in mind she is not looking for an emotional basketcase OR outlet. You are a tool...if a girl wants a "buddy" she is not going to need you to try and give her a lifetime story about your past relationship experience or lack thereof. She wants mystery and a guy who she doesnt NEED to know. Just fun. So be fun and simple. Tell her you didnt get much sleep or whatever and make a ****y sexual comment about what your going to do to her.

 

[Kerpal]

Well when we were at the restaurant she kept asking me about the girls I've been with and things like that. And when we met she kept talking about how discreet she wanted to be, but then she took me to this restaurant with a lot of people and then said something about maybe going out next time we meet. I think she might be confused about what she wants.

 

[Who is John Gault?]

Not to be mean or anything, but i highly doubt you will hear from this woman again unless she is really desperate. You killed the mood and you showed your lack of experience... all you had to say was i wana lick your **** and stick my fingers in your pie hole and you would've been fvcking her. Now she thinks you're a virgin. If she can't find any better d1ck by the end of the week she will call you.

 

[iqqi]

Text her with this:

"Want to be my teacher?"

Then before she can respond, text her "Lesson One: Making the kitty purr"

If she is that horny, she will most likely respond to that innuendo. She will also get off on the power trip.

This has the potential to be very kinky.

 

[Kerpal]

Not to be mean or anything, but i highly doubt you will hear from this woman again unless she is really desperate. You killed the mood and you showed your lack of experience... all you had to say was i wana lick your **** and stick my fingers in your pie hole and you would've been fvcking her. Now she thinks you're a virgin. If she can't find any better d1ck by the end of the week she will call you.

Well she knows that I don't have a lot of experience. I told her at the restaurant. I did say stuff like that, it just took me a few minutes to get "warmed up" because I was practically in shock.

I don't have her number, but she has mine. I just have her email. I don't think I'm gonna contact her at all, if she calls me great, if not whatever, I haven't lost anything. It's a win-win for me either way

 

[district_line]

This chicks a DUDE.

 

[Kerpal]

OK, she just called me. But she didn't really say anything, she just told me how her day was and asked what I did today. And then she was like "OK, I just thought I'd call and see how you were" or something. What the hell? I thought this chick just wanted to ****, but now she's calling me to talk like girls would do to me in high school. Not that I mind, she's cool and everything but I think she's confused about what she wants... I don't think she was calling to see if I wanted to **** tonight, because she doesn't seem like the type of person that would call and wait for me to ask if she wants to get together, if she wanted to have sex she would just say it. And she said she wanted to see me on Friday night anyway.

Also, when she called me her number came up as "Private" on my caller ID. I'm pretty sure she did something so I couldn't see her number, she didn't want to give it to me last night, maybe she's afraid I'm going to get too attached to her or something? (She also didn't want me to know where she lived). But if that's true why is she calling me "just to talk"? Do you think she's afraid SHE is going to get attached to ME? That would be pretty crazy.

I wish we didn't have to play these games...