I can't believe she said this...

[thirdtimescharm]

If you pass out after a slam-bang-marathon-fvckfest, sleep with one eye open. She'll slip away to check your cell for who you've been talking to.

Karma, the woman herself told me to sleep with one eye open. But oddly, she also said (a different conversation) that she would -never- sneak peek at my email. Totally inconsistent, but we've had a number of slam-bang-marathon-fvckfests since my last post. She's quite willing and I dig it.

 

[Scars]

If you can ignore the age difference for just a second..

My last (BPD) ex once told me, "I don't care if you cheat on me, as long as she is prettier than me."

That relationship ended in RUINS.

As the others said, tread carefully.

-Scars

 

[thirdtimescharm]

I'll ignore the age difference gladly for sound advice. But do tell, what constitutes "RUINS" for a 21 year old? Us old farts gots to know!

 

[Scars]

I'll ignore the age difference gladly for sound advice. But do tell, what constitutes "RUINS" for a 21 year old? Us old farts gots to know!

Well aside from the constant fighting and emotionally abusive behavior here's some of the main things I encountered all within a 1 year and 2 month relationship:

- She claimed my boss molested her.

- She punched me in the face during an argument.

- She got pregnant with "my" (still don't really know for sure) baby and talked me into paying for her abortion. Then would constantly bring up the "trauma of losing her own baby" to gain sympathy from me and detour me away from her bad behavior.

- She slept with several of my friends.

- She emotionally black mailed me, got a lot of my peers to believe I was abusive to her when it was completely the opposite.

- She put a hole in my bedroom wall during one of our fights because she was "angry".

Looking back now I put up with a lot of intolerable behavior, and staying with her was not very alpha/DJ at all. But these BPD woman can get a strong grip of your nuts sometimes. All in all, it was a HUGE learning experience and has developed me into the person I am today. It just sucks I had to endure all that crap. But at the same time, I realize it could had been a lot worst. At least I didn't marry her!

-Scars

 

[thirdtimescharm]

you got it Big Dawg!



as long as your tapping that Arse...and getting it your way...play along.

Well done!

All good so far. She hasn't displayed any negative behavior around me or my friends (she has met a few already) and is very eager to meet more of them, hang out, and get crazy between the sheets. The woman just wants to have fun right now, and we are in sync. She makes no demands, doesn't expect me to pay for everything, and is totally willing to do anything I suggest.

As it happens, she may also be moving out of the state due to a job offer. (News just in: She did not get the job)

Is it all just a dream?

 

[thirdtimescharm]

Well aside from the constant fighting and emotionally abusive behavior here's some of the main things I encountered all within a 1 year and 2 month relationship:

- She claimed my boss molested her.

- She punched me in the face during an argument.

- She got pregnant with "my" (still don't really know for sure) baby and talked me into paying for her abortion. Then would constantly bring up the "trauma of losing her own baby" to gain sympathy from me and detour me away from her bad behavior.

- She slept with several of my friends.

- She emotionally black mailed me, got a lot of my peers to believe I was abusive to her when it was completely the opposite.

- She put a hole in my bedroom wall during one of our fights because she was "angry".

Looking back now I put up with a lot of intolerable behavior, and staying with her was not very alpha/DJ at all. But these BPD woman can get a strong grip of your nuts sometimes. All in all, it was a HUGE learning experience and has developed me into the person I am today. It just sucks I had to endure all that crap. But at the same time, I realize it could had been a lot worst. At least I didn't marry her!

-Scars

Scars-

I didn't encounter that level of drama in two marriages, and my first wife was bi-polar. I have to say I did feel a little of your kind of drama when dating a 27 year old earlier this year, but I've got good radar for that sort of thing now. Hopefully you know when to start running from BPD's now too.

 

[supremacy]

Well aside from the constant fighting and emotionally abusive behavior here's some of the main things I encountered all within a 1 year and 2 month relationship:

- She claimed my boss molested her.

- She punched me in the face during an argument.

- She got pregnant with "my" (still don't really know for sure) baby and talked me into paying for her abortion. Then would constantly bring up the "trauma of losing her own baby" to gain sympathy from me and detour me away from her bad behavior.

- She slept with several of my friends.

- She emotionally black mailed me, got a lot of my peers to believe I was abusive to her when it was completely the opposite.

- She put a hole in my bedroom wall during one of our fights because she was "angry".

Looking back now I put up with a lot of intolerable behavior, and staying with her was not very alpha/DJ at all. But these BPD woman can get a strong grip of your nuts sometimes. All in all, it was a HUGE learning experience and has developed me into the person I am today. It just sucks I had to endure all that crap. But at the same time, I realize it could had been a lot worst. At least I didn't marry her!

-Scars

Yeaaaaaa that is BPD all over!! I went all that **** and more with my ex who was clinically diagnosed with BPD.

She used to tell me for 2 years everyday (100 times everyday, no joke, sleep with me everyday too) how much she loves me and hates her prisoner ex drug baron boyfriend of hers (who was with her sister for 15 years before but manipulated her when she was low) and that she was a victim of his violent and manipulative traits.

So I stuck by her through thick and thin, putting myself on the line for her, took all of his **** and her ****........she was abusive towards me when she had a drink and I mean this chick could punch like no-one! He used to harass her 200 times a day from prison with phone-calls and letters everyday......I put up with it all and believe her.

The day she knows he is coming out, she tells me she needs time.
3 months later I get back together with her, I found out she was ****ing him and letting him sleep over:rockon:

The thing is, I learned so much from this experience that it has shaped me into the man I am today, and I am grateful for that. Yea it hurts to think I was such a naive mug for taking that disrespectful crap but we all do it - the difference is I will never do it again, whereas some people walk into the same trap their whole lives.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

I'm not quite sure where my original post became a BPD thread, but here's something else my woman said, which probably should become a thread of its own, titled "Things you want your woman to say (even though nothing they say really matters)..."

We were sitting on the couch watching a TV show. We started kissing, and it got me excited. We had just come in from a street fair, all sweaty and tired, and I told her about my excitement and asked her if she wanted to get down to it at "any time." I went on and said that just because I was hard, it didn't mean I always wanted to, but just wanted to know how she felt. Her response:

"Lover...anytime...anywhere."

Nuff' said.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

Tapped out after I found a job and she expected me to worship her on weekends. I didn't have time to dote on her and she said "don't you miss me?" and when I couldn't answer that in the affirmative, it didn't take long for me to find some more local plates who were less demanding of my free time. Fun while it lasted!