I can smell it in the air..Not good..

[rtrev64]

Something happend Monday..before that, she was all over me and man we just had and been having fun but just this past Monday she went stealth on my ass..we talked at 1:30pm that Monday -1-10-11 but not after that. we been at least texting each other saying goodnight before that Monday.

Tuesday till today just one word responses, not answering some questions she jumped on before. so I am baffled..I know, just dont contact her, dump her and move on..

We had plans for her to stay over for the night, I got a text from her, saying she is very tired, she stayed up late taking her mom to her moms friends and she is just absolutley tired..she said when we get a opportunity, we will have fun but thinking bout the short one word responses Im not confident if there will be a opportunity..

So if I no contact her she will think im a child pouting and just blow me off.. How should I respond? something happend that Monday, we guys have that "gut" feeling and my gut is flipping but I want to know so I can put this issue to rest..one way or the other..
How should I respond to get a answer? truth or not..Is this the "I need space" she just saying it not verbally?, she backing off?

I dont want to over react but I dont want it to just go by the way side and not do nothing.. Im not gonna try and save anything, I want to know the truth so I can move on..

another lesson I learned.. when women say-I will be upfront and tell you when something is bugging me or she decided to move on..

Forget bout it.. you just gonna have to figure that out on your own, they will not tell you..you gotta figure it out..They enjoy seeing a man twist in the wind..

 

[cordoncordon]

Something happend Monday..before that, she was all over me and man we just had and been having fun but just this past Monday she went stealth on my ass..we talked at 1:30pm that Monday -1-10-11 but not after that. we been at least texting each other saying goodnight before that Monday.

Tuesday till today just one word responses, not answering some questions she jumped on before. so I am baffled..I know, just dont contact her, dump her and move on..

We had plans for her to stay over for the night, I got a text from her, saying she is very tired, she stayed up late taking her mom to her moms friends and she is just absolutley tired..she said when we get a opportunity, we will have fun but thinking bout the short one word responses Im not confident if there will be a opportunity..

So if I no contact her she will think im a child pouting and just blow me off.. How should I respond? something happend that Monday, we guys have that "gut" feeling and my gut is flipping but I want to know so I can put this issue to rest..one way or the other..
How should I respond to get a answer? truth or not..Is this the "I need space" she just saying it not verbally?, she backing off?

I dont want to over react but I dont want it to just go by the way side and not do nothing.. Im not gonna try and save anything, I want to know the truth so I can move on..

another lesson I learned.. when women say-I will be upfront and tell you when something is bugging me or she decided to move on..

Forget bout it.. you just gonna have to figure that out on your own, they will not tell you..you gotta figure it out..They enjoy seeing a man twist in the wind..

I would simply not text or call her for a few days. If she has interest, she knows that her behavior has changed and she will take the initiative to call or text you. There is nothing to be gained by you continuing to text her, hinting around that you know something is wrong. Just go on with your wonderful life, having a great time (as far as she knows) and that nothing going on bothers you in the least. Trust me, that is the only way to win in this kind of situation.

Now, if this was a LTR? I would give a little bit different advice. But since you two are basically just starting to hang out, the nonchalant mode is the way to go here.

 

[Bible_Belt]

we talked at 1:30pm that Monday -1-10-11 but not after that. we been at least texting each other saying goodnight before that Monday.


Eight hours without a text! Oh the horror!

You've been codependent, clingy, and too available. It's confusing in that such behavior actually works sometimes, at least at first. And it can be fun, once again at least at first. But it always backfires. You end up running through the relationship on fast forward. Instead of being with her for months - until you get bored, you'll end up being with her for days...until she gets bored.

Maybe she got another guy; maybe she just got her period. Regardless, the problem is that you care too much. Codependency is usually the product of not being happy while single. Ask yourself if you are really happy with your life without a woman, and if the answer is no, then ironically enough, you will have problems with women.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Have you banged her yet? Have you even kissed her? How long has she been all over you? 'splain please!

Plans to stay over the night? Has she done that before? Were you two implying you'd be having sex for the first time?

 

[synergy1]

We had plans for her to stay over for the night, I got a text from her, saying she is very tired, she stayed up late taking her mom to her moms friends and she is just absolutley tired..she said when we get a opportunity, we will have fun but thinking bout the short one word responses Im not confident if there will be a opportunity..

Does this pass the Brad Pitt test? (The brad pitt test for those who don't know is simple; would a chick with a chance to date brad pitt use this excuse? If you think its absurd, than she fails the test). Talking to a mothers friend making her too tired to do ____? I don't buy it.

I am guilty of blowing off a chick much like this one blew you off. I really wasn't feeling it so when she contacted me , I told her i'd get back to her and never really did. its kind of a **** move on my part, but I have been laying low for the past few weeks and don't feel like dating/anything.

Id say your window has come and gone, but who knows. Suggest you start exploring other options ...

 

[BBbardot]

We had plans for her to stay over for the night, I got a text from her, saying she is very tired, she stayed up late taking her mom to her moms friends and she is just absolutley tired..she said when we get a opportunity, we will have fun but thinking bout the short one word responses Im not confident if there will be a opportunity..

Does this pass the Brad Pitt test? (The brad pitt test for those who don't know is simple; would a chick with a chance to date brad pitt use this excuse? If you think its absurd, than she fails the test). Talking to a mothers friend making her too tired to do ____? I don't buy it.

I am guilty of blowing off a chick much like this one blew you off. I really wasn't feeling it so when she contacted me , I told her i'd get back to her and never really did. its kind of a **** move on my part, but I have been laying low for the past few weeks and don't feel like dating/anything.

yes... i mean just chill, it's not like she makes up excuses systematically right? ( or does she?).
Maybe she likes you and want to be at her best when she sees you ( and sleep with you)
and this would apply for brad bit too, especially for brad pit. I mean try to always assume " the girl likes me"(at least until you have real concrete reasons to doubt it). If you always take the paranoid street you will have to force yourself playing it cool anyway. IF the action you're going to take is the same, you might as well put yourself in a state of mind where you don't worry and are confident..

 

[Diaforetikos]

I need more info as Gangster was iterating. I don't have much to go off of, so my advice is gonna be very general and basic.

Depending on how long you've known her and how good of a relationship you've had with her, you could tackle this from many angles.

If you guys are getting closer, and you've known her for a while, I say, have fun with it, meaning you should call her up, talk like nothing is weird, but be fun. Nobody wants to talk to a boring drab. Be a little goofy and funny. I don't know your personality, so do what works for you. But then you say, "Hey, whats up with all the one word text beezy?? Huh, HUH??!!"

She won't know what to say, but laugh and play it off, forcing her to go back to texting regular. If she is still doing it. Bust her out on it over a PHONE CALL!! NOT A TEXT!!! She needs to hear your voice. It puts her on the spot and she has to respond quickly without being socially awkward.

And if she is still being dumb, drop her a**.




If you guys aren't close, then do what everyone else said. Chill out. Don't communicate with her much and see where her interest stands. If you don't like what you see, move on.

Hope that helped. Good Luck mate.

 

[Ease]

On monday she got gangbanged by 3 guys.

Sorry to break it to you.

 

[JLW]

On monday she got gangbanged by 3 guys.

Sorry to break it to you.

This.

 

[rtrev64]

Have you banged her yet? Have you even kissed her? How long has she been all over you? 'splain please!

Plans to stay over the night? Has she done that before? Were you two implying you'd be having sex for the first time?

LOL.. I banged her so many times...at least 8 times..

 

[rtrev64]

Ok.. to update as of 1/13/11..

I recieved plenty of texts from her basically telling me she felt our relationship was moving to fast and she is not used to this type of relationship. she has been single for 2 years and likes it that way (although she bought up reltionship many times) She said she would not promise me that she would stay only with me (meaning, she gonna spread the legs)..She also stated we can be friends and have sex too.. (**** buddy)..Im ok with that now.. Im looking for a ltr and I thought she might be the one.. So yeah, we can be FB but I wont see her in the same light as before.. also, she is on the rag..she also told me, not to have sex with anyone else while she is getting off the rag.. to wait..of course, I did not respond..

 

[terran2k]

that's what you get when you try to get into a relationship. Let the chics try to get you into it, instead of you trying to get them into it. It's a growing trend I see lately. guys just dying to give up their freedom.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Don't feel bad, there is a valuable lesson in every failure.

She has to drag you into it. I know we talk about cavemanning and that stuff works for me, but only for hookups, ONS, and FBs.

For you to enter a relationship with a woman she HAS to drag you into it, kicking and screaming. It's the only way she'll be happy, and you will be able to maintain your frame.

 

[cordoncordon]

Well, if you want a relationship with her, you know what you have to do. STOP initiating all contact with her. I mean no emails, no texts, nothing. If she texts you? Respond. But keep things light, cheerful, and short. No long text marathons about feelings or a "relationship". Act as if you are busy, even if you aren't. If she wants to hang out and sex, hang out with her maybe 1 out of every 2 times she asks. Not every time.

She will either fade away, or she will come onto you like an ant to a picnic. Either way, you win.

 

[Die Hard]

There you have it again, a guy who needs "closure". We need a sticky thread about this sickness...

 

[LuisGarcia10]

Similar has happened to me, ignore her. If you want a F*ck buddy fine but if you want anything more then don't even do that, you'll get jealous when she's with other guys etc.
Anyone who is said a woman needs to drag you into a relationship kicking and screaming- absoultely right. I met a girl on POF, had one date, she already is seeing me on wednesday, has asked to see me over the weekend and wants me to go out with her friends and her at the end of the month. Now can you imagine what the response would have been had I said any of that to her? I asked her out originally, said it would be nice to do it again, and she has done the rest.
I learnt this lesson the absolute hard way so I sympathise, just don't think this girl is different etc because none of them are.