I can lose my virginity ... but I need your help FAST

[ZeQ]

ok, I'll make this long story short.

I organized a lil get together for my birthday at my work (a restaurant) and a female friend of mine brought a friend of hers (Let's call her the target) to supper yesterday. She was really into me (unless I'm imiginating it). All I wanted is to get with this chick, sex wasn't my priority - but since it was my birthday, I had to divide my attention evenly, so I couldn't pay too much time and energy on her (bad move). My best friend was there and I already told him to back off before he got there but the target seemed to be as interested with him too (since I wasn't making any moves). He told me to do something or else he will, because he sensed she was really horny and to top it off, another friend of mine pressured me to 'hit it' with her.

I initially just wanted to get with her but all that sex talk threw me off focus and I panic. Now I don't have her number, she's leaving on friday and I'm busy all week.

but I can get it from the female friend who brought her.

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

It's not like me, I usually do all the asking myself but I messed up.

She's only in town until friday though - so I don't have much time and I will be very busy.

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

 

[Mizer]

Seems as if this is a lost cause, my friend. Any attempt now will only bring up the question-

Why in the hell didn't he make his move at the party?

Going after her now will seem so unnatural and sort of punkish. Whereas if you had done it at the party it would have showed that you have some guts and goes after what you want when you see it.

Well, let this be a lesson, man.

JUMP ON THEM IMMEDIATELY. DON'T THINK ABOUT IT!

The more you hesitate the more intimidated you will become and the more you will hesitate (vicious circle). the next thing you know, everyone would have gone home.

Just trust yourself and the fact that you will know what to say and how to react. Don't let the approach be the challenge. You will have enough of a task on your hand getting her into bed so let the approach be the easy part.

More than any thing, have fun no matter what happens.


Mizer

 

[ZeQ]

lost cause?

f*ck!!!

She really seemed into me...

at the end of the night (cuz things kinda went wrong) she looked dissapointed, but I talked to my friend like - we can still make it up next weekend and the target said to call. (her or them ... I forgot) but she had a big smile... I guess that was like her last card.

 

[REDblueOI]

Originally posted by Mizer
Seems as if this is a lost cause, my friend. Any attempt now will only bring up the question-

Why in the hell didn't he make his move at the party?

Going after her now will seem so unnatural and sort of punkish. Whereas if you had done it at the party it would have showed that you have some guts and goes after what you want when you see it.

Well, let this be a lesson, man.

JUMP ON THEM IMMEDIATELY. DON'T THINK ABOUT IT!

The more you hesitate the more intimidated you will become and the more you will hesitate (vicious circle). the next thing you know, everyone would have gone home.

Just trust yourself and the fact that you will know what to say and how to react. Don't let the approach be the challenge. You will have enough of a task on your hand getting her into bed so let the approach be the easy part.

More than any thing, have fun no matter what happens.


Mizer

Man, you've got one of the worst attitudes I've ever seen, every post describes how nothing good will ever happen, just shut up.

Z, babe, how many AFC's walk the street with steady girlfriends? Quite a few. So, if you pull an AFC move its not the end of the world, at least you have the BALLS to do something. Get her # from your friend, and get your **** taken care of.

If you just sit on your ass dissapointed your chance of success is less than 1% [hey, theres always some kinda chance]... but if you pick up the phone and flex your testicals you've got a shot @ this girl. A small shot, cuz ya did **** up @ the party, but a shot none the less. And isn't that worth getting a girls # from a friend your never going to c again?

 

[Pecker]

I have bones to pick with a few of you.

ZeQ, I personally would have lost interest if this girl's interest is THAT easy to get that she liked your friend too. She could be really easy, and yes, casual sex is fun but do you want to lose your virginity to a skankie girl? Rule of thumb: if it feels a little TOO Easy getting her into bed...it's cuz SHE'S a little too easy. Sounds simple and obvious, kinda Yogi Berra-ish. I wouldn't fight or fret ove a slutty girl, is all I'm saying. Knowing that this girl is probably not top quality, not giving her your full attention is not a mistake.

That being said, Mizer is right. You're given a window of opportunity and once that window slams shut there's little you can do to open it again. An opportunist would have talked to her at first, applied minor kino, and raised the stakes according to her reciprocity.

Now if you want this girl, she sure as hel1 isn't gonna be as obvious in her signals, and you'll have to begin a long and drawn-out pursuit that'll just bore her. She wanted magic on your birthday, not hesitation.

Red, step into reality please. If you think Mizer is negative by realistically assessing the damages of a mistake, you are deluded. The fact is that even the best DJ is probably only successful 40 percent of the time at most. This is a finesse game, and everything counts. It's not that "nothing good will ever happen" but more like "sh!t happens" and a lot. No biggie, so he'll learn.

 

[Adr3nalin]

dude, it's simple...
just always remember, nothing is wierd, wrong, or bad, unless you believe it. It's not so much what you say as it is how you say it. You can make anything sound as if it was planned so long as you say it or do it with confidence.

call her, tell her that she seemed kinda cool at the party, and that you'd like to get together to hang out with her before she leaves.

it's that simple.

 

[MrNiceGuy]

If she's leaving town anyway then you've got nothing to lose as its unlikely you'd ever see her again, this is your last chance, go for it, the only person you can lose face with is 'the target' and like I said she's not going to be around anyway.

Of course all that is easier said than done, but its the logical conclusion anyhow, just a shame we all let emotions get in the way too much sometimes.

 

[ZeQ]

I hve to go to work now so I can't call my friend today but there's a club that's hot on wednesday night ... should I call my friend N tell her to bring the target with em and go with my best friend?

 

[Mizer]

Man, you've got one of the worst attitudes I've ever seen, every post describes how nothing good will ever happen, just shut up.

Listen here, BOY, I've been dating women since you was in pampers. So you should just shut up and learn something and maybe by the time you are out of highschool you will learn how to handle these situations and not submit to delusions.

I ain't about sugar coating any thing. Djing is the school of hard knocks. Get over it.

If someone post seeking advice, they will get advice from across the board. It is up to the seeker to decide what advice he will take. But when I was 20 year-old man, I didn't take advice from adolescents in the women department. Once you have lived another sixteen years, dated countless numbers of women (you can't be too far along unless you are a Wilt Chamberlain), maybe you will understand this paragraph and my orginal post.

The guy must move from making a big AFC move to bagging the woman by Friday plus she switched interest from him to his buddy.......

I stand by my original post. His free time will be better spent putting his efforts towards another.

Thanks, Peck.

Mizer

 

[C-A]

Originally posted by ZeQ
I hve to go to work now so I can't call my friend today but there's a club that's hot on wednesday night ... should I call my friend N tell her to bring the target with em and go with my best friend?

Tell your friend to bring the target and think about maximazing your chances. You have nothing to loose!

 

[Trapspringer]

Why are you guys getting Z fixated on chasing down this one chic who is leaving his town in three days in order to lose his virginity just because she showed him a twinkle in her eye at his party?

I agree with with Mizer and Pecker. There has to be some women who are willing to lay him in his own town.

 

[ZeQ]

to be honest ... the 'lose my virginity' in the title was just to attract ppl's attention because I am short on time and I know alot of threads gets ignored.

I just want to get with this girl. I'm happy if I get to kiss her. The reason why I emphasize on this so much, it is because I am very picky and girls that attracts me are rare. This one is good in my book. It's too bad she's leaving so early, because if it wasn't for that I wouldn't post a thread here and would of just get over my mistakes and walk from there.

I just talked to my friend who said she was a 'ho' and he said - nan, she's not really. He just wanted me to get laid.

so ... should I call my friend tomorow and get her number? It's totally AFC but I guess I don't have a choice do I? If I want to see her again there is no other way ... is there?

 

[Frosty]

Well, considering your deception, this thread deserves to swiftly take its trip down the bowels of sosuave.com.

 

[ZeQ]

deception?

no way. I didn't want to get with a 'ho' anyways. This is get'N better. Puts off a lot of pressure.

 

[ZeQ]

nobody else has something to add?

yes I screwed up once but does that means that I only get one chance per girl?

 

[Kwah]

Unfortunately, most of the time Yes. You may pull it off, but why not go for that friend of hers that seemed interested in you too?