I broke up with him over text

[Kjill]

Out of anger when someone(4th person actually) told me that I'm his side girl and he's still with his so-called ex. They have a child together.

I told the reason over text and I was actually asking if it's true...but he can't be contacted over phone.
Text is our main channel of communication. I wanted to call him but he always ignore my calls....

I texted him asking about the truth...
Is it right for me to even expect an explanation? He's a shady person in general...even his relatives no little about him

 

[Bokanovsky]

I am afraid you are on the wrong forum. This is a site for men to discuss their interactions with women. If you're looking for "emotional support" after breaking up with your ex, there's a million other sites that are more suited for that purpose.

 

[Kjill]

Nope, I'm looking for an opinion from a guys perspective if this ever happen.

Like what would you do given the circumstance?
Would you go NC?
For how long?
Would you answer the questions thrown at?
Would you give closure?
Would you just move on?

 

[RangerMIke]

For me I really don't care if a woman breaks things off with me over text. I usually just respond with "OK" and leave it at that. But you can't control what other people do only what you do and how you respond to their actions. Personally I would never break up over text or voice mail because it doesn't really feel like a breakup.

Ask yourself if you would mind if this happened to you and you will have your answer.

How is he going to respond? I don't know because I don't know him. If he's swallowed the Red Pill you won't hear from him again unless you reach out to him first. If he hasn't he'll contact you again.

 

[Kjill]

So in your case, you would still reply?

What's the red pill? I don't get it...

We're in a LDR that's why if I can't call him, I resort to text messaging.

 

[dk1990S111]

Ill just offer my opinion but if hes so shady why do you care? Good sign that this would be time to move on...

 

[Harry Wilmington]

"Red Pill" - it's a Matrix reference: in the movie, Neo is given the choice of one of two pills to take. The "Red Pill" is the one that causes him to see reality as it really is and not the way he's seen it this whole time. In reference to dating: a guy that's able to see how the dating game REALLY works and learns how to use that knowledge to his advantage has, in effect, taken the "red pill."

SOOOO... if he's taken the "red pill," he knows the best course of action is to NOT respond to you, which will, in turn, cause YOU to do all the work of getting him back. As for the whole "break up via text" thing: for one, it doesn't matter how you did the break up, it was always going to suck. And two, I've gotten broken up with a girl via text before, and my response was the same: "Ok." Like, in my view if you want to leave, it means I'm not making you happy in some way and everyone has the right to be with someone who makes them happy. With that said, I know a lot of girls use the whole "break up" tactic as a means of getting the guy to realize what he's losing and come back to her begging for another chance. I imagine this is what was going through your head when you did this (or maybe not) and that would have worked... on another GIRL. However, guys are more direct and you would have been better off saying you wanted to talk about an issue that was bothering you vs. going into full on "break up" mode.

 

[mangotot]

How do you know the 4th person is telling you the truth? Anyway, this is a totally inappropriate forums for you to pose such questions. This is largely a support group for IT guys who have problems getting involved with women.

Look at your situation in a positive light: at least you have no problems meeting the opposite sex. If you and this guy do separate, another guy is around the corner.

 

[logicallefty]

OP, tell your ex to make an account on this site and let us help him get over you really quick. We will have him laid within the week and within two weeks he won't even remember a thing about you. Being the kind man that he is, you would want that for him, wouldn't you?

 

[countwoofoolah]

Out of anger when someone(4th person actually) told me that I'm his side girl and he's still with his so-called ex. They have a child together.

I told the reason over text and I was actually asking if it's true...but he can't be contacted over phone.
Text is our main channel of communication. I wanted to call him but he always ignore my calls....

I texted him asking about the truth...
Is it right for me to even expect an explanation? He's a shady person in general...even his relatives no little about him

I dont post alot due to me being a dumbass in the past...

BUT WTF is up with all the woman on a mans forum ??

Colour me crazy but someything just doesnt ring right with this

 

[Yorkex]

Here is an advice I will give my sister.
Never get involved when you know or feel like he stays in contact with his ex girl or wife.Plus they have a child together ...never a good sign.

Just find a new man or learn to focus and love your self ...the next guy will come along.

If you are young , learn from this and learn to love yourself.

 

[Maximus Rex]

No Pics, It Didn't Happen

Out of anger when someone(4th person actually) told me that I'm his side girl and he's still with his so-called ex. They have a child together.

I told the reason over text and I was actually asking if it's true...but he can't be contacted over phone.
Text is our main channel of communication. I wanted to call him but he always ignore my calls....

I texted him asking about the truth...
Is it right for me to even expect an explanation? He's a shady person in general...even his relatives no little about him

We need photo confirmation that you're actually a chick.

 

[mangotot]

The OP could be a troll with nothing better to do.

 

[mugatts]

I am afraid you are on the wrong forum. This is a site for men to discuss their interactions with women. If you're looking for "emotional support" after breaking up with your ex, there's a million other sites that are more suited for that purpose.

She could be interested in both men and women.

 

[mugatts]

Based on what you have shared, it is obvious this guy is not interested and his actions speak very clearly. Do yourself a favour and lose his number, he's not expecting any explanation from you. Find a gentleman who is single and available without all that baby mama drama instead of a texting buddy who sounds like a loser.

 

[VladPatton]

Dith'thread'gon'be'good!

 

[SmooveMooves]

MMen posing as women, seems to be the popular troll around here recently.

Moderators please, this is a Man's Dating Tips website. Please get rid of these 'chicks.'