Moving Parts.
There's more moving parts to life than simply the explanation of logic. The basic formula created here is...
Intend to PU Hot chicks = zero results/nervousness.
Go with flow = tons of hot chicks/lack of preparation.
Positive Intention and Mental Projection.
I agree with what you said...more often then not, the girl you desire presents herself in uncanncy circumstances. Just yesterday, I was dropping some money off at a bank I haven't been to in almost a year and every teller was hot. I was startled, to a degree, and was trying contemplate WHAT I could do to engage them. Then I realized THEY work there, and that a bank is not a roving circus so that I could visit more frequently and SEE if it was worth pursuing with any of them.
I find when I drive with a 'specific outcome' it doesn't have. It's as if, forcing life's will recoils on you. Life, is a feminine force. The more you push on her, the more she pushes back. If you give into her, succumb to her will and retain your balance, you win. Think of it like stressing out in a volatile river. The more you thrash about, the more you bring about your own demise. However, if you take the shape and sensation and 'flow' of the water, you can more easily work within its great power because you're not struggling against it.
This is why it's always important to be prepared in life. AND, to never feel bad about excusing yourself for it. So what, you're not ready? Thank the good spirit for presenting you with this opportunity. It's your chance to shine. Show the world what you can do. Odds are good that alignment of opportunities won't happen. SO TAKE IT!
Lucky = Hard Work + PreParedness
The harder you've worked on yourself, and the more prepared/collected you are, the more you will get 'lucky' like this. See, the bloke you refer to who might meet one decent woman ACCEPTS what only comes his way through PURE CHANCE. In love, YOU GET LUCKY. Make no mistake about it.
All the guys here GET lucky, because they've worked OH SO hard for months, years even, and one day, under just the right circumstances, BOOM IT HAPPENS. They find a great girl. The difference between active and passive guys is LUCK versus CHANCE. As we defined LUCK, most guys here will GET LUCKIER. They will meet more potential women, know how to approach to land the 'sale', and close more 'sales'. On the other hand, the chump who only LET'S things happen, and never takes the OPPORTUNITY presented them only gets what he has always gotten.
This works to your advantage...
If you're thinking this meeting is LUCKY, or INOPPORTUNE, or WHATEVER...what must she be thinking?
Leverage that. Consider how random it is that it occurred. Women love that. It's called serendipity. Chance encounters (or in our case Luck Encounters), turn her on. Women don't like contrived meetings, with excessive plans, which is why the only women you typically find online are those so totally burnt out from dating, they' reserved themselves to the EASY WAY. In reality, they don't want some planned/arranged encounter. They want the NIGHT in SHINING armor to save them, and you do this by BEING RANDOM, UNPREDICTABLE, and CHANCE (or LUCKY).
Use that as an opener...state the 'chance' of a situation to her and see what happens. She's thinking it. Let her know it. How dreamy?!
I wrote about this before, but it falls on deaf ears...
Expectations are MEANT TO be let down. How often does any of us go into a situation and have it come completely different than we expected?
If it was public speaking and we were nervous, we did awesome.
If we go the mall for clothes, we find 10 hb 10's.
If you think you're going the corner store for food, you end up cleaning the whole place out, going to the bar, or running into yet, another girl.
Why does life do this?
TO TEST YOU.
The only life that is easy is the life of the strong soul who has overcome. His life is not easy in reality, but appears relatively so because of his strength.
Seriously. There's more at work than some logical forumla. THIS formula is called LIFE, and it builds you up or breaks you down based on what it presents. Think about it...
What kind of test would it be, if you knew in advance what situation would arise?
That's akin to schools saying, OK...here's the answer sheet, we've jumbled the answer order, but you can have the sheet with you at the test.
Life would not be a very candid tester if it was able to test you and give advanced notice. Only in the illogical word does control seem to exist. Even in the most 'controlled situations' does such planning exist, and they're very often called laboratories where participants are either OBSERVERS or INTERACTORS. Think about it, you can' be both in life. One or the other, bud.
In a lab, the scientist sets the interaction motion. He puts the participants together and sees what happens, BUT HE DOES not get involved in the outcome or influence the system IN ANYWAY. On the other hand, were he to do so, he COULD no longer be an observer. He'd be interacting with it, and his bias towards a SPECIFIC goal TAINTS the whole system.
Same in life. Guys wonder why they 'think' too much, why the can't 'do it naturally,' or 'why it's not fun' (I do sense alot of pain on these boards, mostly because 99.9% of you are still so outcome driven). That's because they still try to be both OBSERVER and INTERACTOR. They want to get an outcome THEY DESIRE (sex, gf, date, etc), but they're THINKING about what they're doing as if they're making notes for the journal. Might as well have a camera tape you, and allow you to CRITIQUE later, than to try and taint the experiment by not being 100% invested in the moment.
And probably the other one is...
If I created world, every situation would be ironic. If you were preparing for something, I'd throw you a curve ball to see how you handled that. Most people want neat bags, single-serving sized portions, predictable events (whoda think of a Tsunami whipping out 200,000+?). They want control. It's the ego. It wants comfort. It's to be protected. And coddled. It wants to sleep in late, and be rich at the same time. It wants hot chicks with no work. It wants great jobs, w/out education or effort. It's entitled by the essence of being.
Fight against. Your best victories will be when you least expect it. The soldiers who received the metals in battle assumed death more than life, and in the end, they were rewarded a medal.
One last point on that....
A childhood friend of my family is a Marine fighting in IRAQ. For the longest time of his life, he desired to be a fighter. Part of it was aggression. Part of it was the seduction of the "marines." He fulfilled that duty @ 18 when he finished high school and entered.
Just recently he was sent to IRAQ, was interviewed for his valor, and received many medals for his courage. His name is Jay, and what he did goes beyond human comprehension. While policing a neighborhood in IRAQ which they were stationed at for some time, sudden enemy fire and RPG's sprang out, pinning his troop of 30 down. Much like a scene from Black Hawk down, they were being pursued by insurgents, who had no other end by death for them and my friend. At some point in the interaction, it was realized that death was imminent for someone, or all of them, if something extraordinary wasn't done.
At that moment, and I quote...my friend said:
"I figured someone would die, why not me? I might as well bite the bullet now. I was the leader, and if we didn't make a move, all of us would die. So I did what I knew to be done. I grabbed the RPG and a battle rifle and proceeded to take out the gunners pinning us down in the jeeps who had the .50 calibers guns, shredding the walls and buildings. I positioned myself right in enemy fire and took out both positions with the RPG. Quickly I switched the battle rifle and took down a few more. That enabled my troops the freedom to attack now, as the gun fire was diminished."
It was described as a "rambo-like" event, that shocked my whole city of over 100,000. It could have gone either way. Here, a 21 year old kid, take 2 rpgs, blows out 2 enemy strongholds, THEN resumes fighting, and gets awared medals. In a moment of life when it was completey unexpected, he was made a hero, both home-town and to his troops. Everytime I regail the story, I get chills, because its so eerily close to home, yet so inspiring.
A-Unit
