I believe my girlfriend is cheating, please give some advice

colby01

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Hello I'm new to this forum, found it while looking up deception detectors. I am in need for some advice, please help.

I have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend now for 10 months. The past couple months now her behavior has changed, She used to call me a lot, text me frequently, reply back to my texts/calls. Now she doesn't call me as much and/or text me. Sometimes it will be an entire day until she gets back to me. One day I called and texted her and she didn't communicate back to me later that night. Just recently she told me, she doesn't take emotional, and mentally attach to men.

Night one I had class and got out early she said to me to text her when I got out. I did so and no reply what so ever. I figured she was busy so I waited a couple of hours and text/called her back still no reply.. Its around 11:00 I decide to go over to her house to see if she is there. When I get there she is not there and doesn't show up till hour and a half later and texts me saying that she just woke up and tried to call me but her phone kept hanging up.( which her phone has been acting up)

What upset me the most was she clearly lied to me because I saw her get out of her car and walk inside your house with the same clothes I saw her in earlier that day. I confronted her about the lie and she told me she went to go get Jack in the Box and came right back. If that was the case why did it take her an hour and half to get fast food in the clothes I saw her in earlier that day. It is unusual of her to get all dressed up to go get something to eat, she does not do that. I also did not see any food in her hands.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I want to now if I'm over reacting or if she really is cheating on me.
 

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Yes she is likely cheating. And yes you are over reacting.

Find the book of pool on this site. Read it and ignore her for a couple days.

Ten months, not married, no kids?

Cheat or suspected = bail!!!
 

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I am a divorce single father, she has no kids and has never been married. Should I confront them about cheating and ask them face to face?
 

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colby01 said:
I am a divorce single father, she has no kids and has never been married. Should I confront them about cheating and ask them face to face?
why would you want to do that? Do you like drama? Just bow out gracefully. The cheating thing doesn't even matter, she's lost interest
 

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Dear Colby,
All good advice,can't be sure she is cheating but she has definitely lost interest...So start spinning Plates so you can bale out on your own conditions!
 

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Lost interest for sure. She's doing the typical fade away stuff disinterested/cheating women do. Like the gents above me said, just bow out gracefully. No need to justify your decision, you just need to adhere to it.

Read the piece Warrior74 linked to Rollo's blog. It's a good one and will set you in the right direction.

And this part you wrote: "Just recently she told me, she doesn't take emotional, and mentally attach to men."

If I understand what you typed correctly, this is a big red flag. She's giving you a heads up about her intentions.

Time for you to go ghost and never talk to her again.
 

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When she lands whoever she's interested in, you will likely get the LJBFs. The best thing you could do for yourself right now is end the anguish you're feeling by breaking up with her and go NC. This is only going to get worse and drag on. When you break up, do it with class. Don't give specifics, just tell her she's not quite what you're looking for and good luck. Then really NC!

Sorry OP, I know this sh1t hurts.

It's rough as a single father as you have little disposable time to concentrate on more than one. As a result, it's easy to allow this one person to become far too important in your life.

I'm also a single father. The best advice I can give is only date women very local and make them fit into your life routine. The more you go out of your way for a woman, the less time you have for your own priorities.

SH
 
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The past couple months now her behavior has changed, She used to call me a lot, text me frequently, reply back to my texts/calls. Now she doesn't call me as much and/or text me. Sometimes it will be an entire day until she gets back to me. One day I called and texted her and she didn't communicate back to me later that night.

Op same happened to few years back. She wasn't cheating at that time, but she was working on it. Once she got what she was after, it was over. Dump her!
 
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