I believe I have found it!.......

[downfallofdisbelief]

Hey, I just had the MOST AMAZING female experience. My friends friend (if that makes sense) wanted to meet me cause were in a band together. I talked to her on the phone for like 2 hours last night (mostly about flirty b/s but I made sure to play my cards right). We made basic small talk about pretty light subjects. Tonight, I just talked to her for like an hour (we got into some really in depth conversations that were interesting so we had to keep goin . I know, your prolly saying that I should've cut off the convo early but I'm not dealing with a preppy pedistal queen and she's a really different girl so you'd understand if you met her. We have an INSANE amount of things in common (no not favorite color b/s but like real life experiences and personality similarities). I seriously have become In love with this chick but I've never really seen her but It's not important for me.

Anyways, I have a little problem, my best friend likes her but he's obviously making the wrong moves (He consantly calls her -OBSESSIVELY- and all he talks to her about is like in depth **** that no one wants to talk about with someone you just met.) I know that she's annoyed because she was telling me about how she feels to needed. I'm pretty sure I'm not in the friends zone since we've flirted back and fourth (alot) and she has asked me alot about my relationship situation (the "would you be willing to go out with a girl if the chance came along" and the "are you looking..." type of shiznot.)

My main thing is she said she didn't like how my friend was being too "spiritual" and "emotional" and that he is making her feel pressured. (he called her five times today!). My main problem is I feel like we've made a really solid connection and that we are EXTREMELY compadible. I don't feel uncomfortable around her at all and I am totally ahead of the "GAME" when I DJ her @SS. . But my main question is what should I do about my friend and the fact that he likes her alot but she obviously is annoyed the hell by him. I don't want to risk this chance because I feel like I have no one else to live for. She is absolutely the most perfect person I've met (personality wize). Thanks a lot!

 

[DJoneday]

well i've had this type of problem a lot with friends (I wasn't as into the chick as you seem to be but with the whole friend situation) and i basically go to the friend and say "Hey man, i know you like her, but unles you make a move in the next [insert time here] im gonna go in dude.." type of thing...in 90% of the cases they won't have hte balls to, and if they do and she says no your good to go.

 

[Evil-Rom]

*cough* oneitis *cough*

 

[Sammo]

Yeah dude never get that attatched to that chick before you have met her. You dont even know her that well yet, she still might turn you off, wait till you have ****ed her then see if your still 'in love'.

 

[Cloud-uk]

mmm yeah, does sound a bit oneitsish. Sorry dude, but you havent even met her. She could be a really amazing friend to you, but don't ever say you love her untill you've been seeing her for a gd few months, let alone after you've ****ed her, and then let alone after you've met her! Watch out, you're in a very dangerous mindset.

But yeah, screw you mate (not literally), go for the girl soon, that means meeting her. Maybe through taking this girl he's obsessing about it'll kick some sence into him and he'll get un afc'd

 

[abcd_z]

You could always offer to go out with her on a date. This helps you in two ways.
1) You're going out with her. Always a plus.
2) You can now tell your friend to leave her alone, because she's with you now.
Best-case scenario, he leaves her alone and you get credit for it. Worst-case scenario is he doesn't leave her alone. Not much different from the way things currently are, except that you're going out with her. See point #1.

P.S. Yeah, that does sound kind of oneitis-ish. I mean, come on. "I feel like I have no one else to live for"? Not smooth.

 

[seloifter]

two tips:

1) Read the god damn DJ bible
2) WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT GO BEHIND YOUR FRIEND'S BACK AND ASK THE GIRL OUT! YOU WILL FOREVER DESTROY YOUR FRIENDSHIP, WHICH IS FAR MORE IMPORTANT THAN SOME CHICK YOU'VE NEVER MET, HOWEVER "PERFECT" YOU MAY THINK SHE IS!

 

[downfallofdisbelief]

Thanks for all the replies! Yeah, I totally see what you mean about the meeting thing but you know how that goes. I'm just saying that I want to find a way to not ruin my friendship because it would f/uck up everything in my life, (my band, etc.) I'm just confused. As for this situation I'm also asking for advice in other situations (where my friend wants the chick also you know what I'm sayin?). Thanks!

 

[drixsa]

te phone convo was nice and all but imagin how much better it could of been if you 2 were talking face to face?

 

[REDblueOI]

We have rules for a reason. Break em and pay... we've all decided to throw the rulebook out the window @ one time or another, and we've all gotten burned for it. Read the bible and dont be such a *****. I have a ton in common with my buddies, and I don't go around preaching that they are different and I love them, why is this broad any different? You havn't seen her, you dont have any kid of physical chemistry... its all over the phone, see her in person and dont burn your friend, she'll probably be an ugly *****.

 

[Boono11]

You should at least meet her before you do anything else. And If you really want to go out with her tell your bud that he has a certain amount of time to make a move, and if he doesn't get anywhere then you're goin in. This way your friend will have the first shot and you will be clear if he doesn't take it. Well, before you try that you probably need to reassess everything. Find out if this girl is really as great as you think she is. You are totally falling into the oneitis trap. Don't let this ruin you and your bud's friendship.

 

[Pheonix:ScndrlReborn]

Originally posted by downfallofdisbelief
I talked to her on the phone for like 2 hours last night (Tonight, I just talked to her for like an hour (we got into some really in depth conversations

I have a little problem, my best friend likes her but he's obviously making the wrong moves (He consantly calls her -OBSESSIVELY- and all he talks to her about is like in depth ****

Wow, I had to kind of look at that twice. Seriously, that was kind of dumb.

 

[Sammo]

Personally if it was me i'd tell my mate to go for it, **** man there are plenty of girls out there, you and your friend shouldnt be shining your nob over the same girl, go out and find more girls, more attractive, nicer, funnier, etc. girls.

Bro's before Ho's
Mate's before Date's

 

[tracy Jaks]

At the end of the day, you and you buddy are both obsessed with the same chick which neither of you have ever met.

Conclusion i have came to is whoever doenst get the girl is going to get hurt. It is worth the hassle to go behind a friends back and all for a relationship that wont work out.

Heres why it wont work out.

1.You have never met this chick but youve spent 3 hours on the phone to her in 2 nights abut 'deep and meaningful' schiznit.-- this means there will be nothing to to talk about when u are in the relationship, deep and meaningfuls come into an ltr not a pre date.

2. When you talk to a chick about deep and meaninful **** and you think you are falling in love, the chick thinks that SHE HAS FOUND A THE FOUNDATIONS FOR AN EXCELLENT FRIENDSHIP.

So basically by doing all that talking on the phone you hvae dug yourslef into an early grave, my friend.

deal with it.

 

[Oxide]

medium or well done roast for ya?

 

[kevbo]

you accuse your friend of calling obsessively, yet you've spent two hours on the phone with her at once. why, in that long of a call, didn't you set up a date with her? cut the calls short and save all that convo material for the date.

as for the friend, if he's only a friend in the sense that you talk to him every now and then, you should go for the girl. if he's a really close friend, you might be better off letting him screw up, especially if you haven't met the girl yet. on the other hand, if he knew you were going before it before he started, then you should tell him what a scumbag-like move that was (i'm not saying the guy is a scumbag, but if he did something like that, he's sure acting like one).

 

[seloifter]

Re: Re: I believe I have found it!.......

Originally posted by Pheonix:ScndrlReborn
Wow, I had to kind of look at that twice. Seriously, that was kind of dumb.

rofl, I can't believe I missed that one! Hahahaha that's gold

 

[Escalade]

You got one-itis bad...your in love with her after 3 hours of conversation?

You say your friend is a loser for calling all the time when you yourself are calling her everyday...ask her out already and stop having pvssy conversations, oops, I mean in-depth conversations

As for going being your friends back, unless your good friends I wouldn't worry about it, but if you are, give him the chance to go for it first, even if he does try he still won't get her then she's all open for you again.

You seriously need to read the bible again, your throwing away everything you've learned because you think this girl is special because she's popular.

 

[TeflonDon]

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[TeflonDon]

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