I became more mature but also more boring

[nelysses]

Normally I was like a kid who was always laughing and having fun. There were also a lot of girly things like gossiping.

It changed over time, I became more mature. But besides that I feel more boring now. I started to approach everything seriously. I started to be proud of nothing before...
As a result of this I saw that a girl I liked liked a post on Instagram that said "I like tall and funny guys".

I had sent a message to this girl. She replied but I didn't write anymore because I felt the coldness (She replied but didn't ask me anything).
Now I don't even go and say bon appetit when I see her eating because she wasn't interested and frankly I don't want to follow her around like a tail when she's not interested.

I know it's ridiculous to change for a girl but do you think I should change again in general? My friends around me also say that they miss the old me.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I know it's ridiculous to change for a girl but do you think I should change again in general?

Yeah, just do it for your own well-being first and foremost, not to please anyone else. Women included

 

[Barrister]

You shouldn’t change just to pick up women. You should change if it means improving yourself for YOU.

You sound like you aren’t happy with your current outlook on life. Change that. No need to be “boring” or “serious.” You can save that for work but be the fun loving, carefree person you used to be at other times. It’s all a mindset.

Also, stop obsessing over women’s social media. Very rarely does anything happen other than giving the woman free validation. That’s what you did here. Put your focus elsewhere (and that also may help with the overall issue too).