I approached 2 girls and got tested, trying to fix.

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Here is what happend. I was walking after my class and said hi to these 2 girls walking one smiled at me when I said hello. I was walking by bar and I saw them sitting so I went to approach them and I asked her where she got her glasses at. She told me, she got them at a fair and found them on the floor. Then she showed me them and was saying she got them at a Phillips 66 gas station I took them and she was like you going to give them back? I played with her a little and said I was gonna get them for my sister. I told her I didnt understand what she was saying I somewhat couldn't understand when she was talking about the gas station part. Then when I gave her glasses back she said I was in her bubble. I told her friend oh she has a bubble huh? She said yeah I stepped back a little back and then she was like where did I get these I said Phillips 66. She afterwards told me to leave I stood quiet for a little then walked away.

I am thinking I should of just changed the subject asked her different question also. I watched good looking loser and he approached girls just saying that I thought you were attractive wanted to say hi should I just do that from now on If I see a girl instead of indirect approach? Because it just seems like I will get tested if I ask her some bull**** question.
 
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Okay how do I avoid that though in the future? Basically just change the topic of conversation when she tries to do that crap?
 

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Slow down....relax... Speak slowly.....confidence is the key.
 

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I starting going direct and it's the best decision of my life. Girls are used to guys plating around. Just let them know what and why you are talking to them. Honestly life is too short to be role playing ...be direct and accept the NO or YES. Makes everything better than regret it
 

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OP, you just need to get more comfortable in smooth conversation. The best thing you can do for that is to make small-talk daily with both men and women. That's what changed me from being socially awkward to fairly smooth in conversation.
 

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Should have teased her about the bubble. "Is it just us two or is your friend in here with us"?
 

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I agree with the approach of being straight up and not trying to beat around the bush. She was a bit snarky but I wouldn't worry about it.
 

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Fitters is right... don't d!ck around. You should have just walked up to them and said "I remember seeing you earlier when you smiled at me, and here you are! It must be fate and we had to meet, what's your name?" Don't offer anything up about yourself, even you name, she has to ask for everything.

Gauge her interest level, read her body language, let her talk... then do not hang around longer than 5 minutes, make an excuse that you are busy and you have to go, ask for her phone number. If she hesitates or makes excuses just tell her it was nice meeting her good luck in life and leave.

This is the BEST and in my opinion ONLY way to do an approach.
 

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She afterwards told me to leave I stood quiet for a little then walked away.
Can't win em all. Look. You need to be totally fine with her not being interested. The problem is you're clearly not. The reason you stood there quiet before walking away was because you expected an outcome and didn't know what to do when you didn't get it. First of all, you should have bowed out before she had to tell you to leave. When you sense a bad vibe, gracefully excuse yourself and leave on your own accord. Second, the moment she told you to leave you should have done just that without hesitation. Why? Because your time is valuable and you have better things to do. Right? "Oh hey my bad didn't mean to bother you. Have a good one."

The way you describe her behavior would indicate she wasn't interested and had an attitude. Maybe you were being obnoxious, maybe she's just a b*tch. Maybe both. Pick your battles better. Be less outcome dependent.
 
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