I am such a loser.

insomniac

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You've so far shot down/given excuses for every suggestion given. Bad start.

And if not getting replies to your yahoo ad is so bad...just wait until you really get into it. Next are the ones who write you back...a few times that is, and then ignore you. After that, the ones you actually are able to meet in person, but will blow you off and disappear afterwards. Disappointment after disappointment. If you have the patience to stick it out, it won't be so bad after and you'll not care anymore...that's when you'll succeed and learn to play the numbers.

Take the suggestions you've been given so far...take a hundred pictures and pick the best, or get professional ones done if necessary. Put up your ad here for review and get some helpful tips.

I'd say work on other parts of your social life first. Chances are, you'll meet a lot of women through that.

Hell, I'm shy too, but when I stopped making excuses and feeling sorry for myself, and put myself out in public and took some chances, that's when I made progress.
 
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Haha, you are not a loser - it is just that women are too sheap to pay the $20 to respond!
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Haha, you are not a loser - it is just that women are too sheap to pay the $20 to respond!
Is that right? So why do they post online if they can't respond?

That might explain it! I am great guy. Of course!
 
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To glorify themselves!

Or if they are pissed at their boyfriend they can find a quick penis and are looking for a gigalo type!

There a few that do respond only if you are their IDEAL mate!
 

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Dude, you ARE a loser, your attitude stinks, even your username stinks loser.

Go find the nearest person and ask them to slap you hard.
 

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Do not count yourself out right away. Pat yourself on the back for taking that courage putting your profile on the net. Don't you think that has a sliver of courage attached to it?


Everyone agrees that your attitude stinks. Consider Alpine's advice and find someone to slap some sense in you. Just kidding.


Try reading self-help books. Go to seminars that teach assertiveness. Best of all, do activities that you enjoy regardless if there are women or not. You are not alone on this one. Most self-proclaimed DJs had or having troubles just the one you are experiencing.
 

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Read "Think and Grow Rich" by Napolean Hill... If you take nothing else away from that book, remember this: the richest and most successful people in history got that way because there was never a doubt in their mind that they'd be anything but successful...

I know it works because I've had firm faith and confidence that I'd be rich since I was five years old... now while most everyone else I know is in debt I get richer and richer everyday... now I'm in the process of converting that same attitude into use with women... you'd be amazed at how well it works.

You think it is hard -and as such it is.

The Don Juan thinks it is easy -ans thus it is!
 

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APPLYING THE PRINCIPLES

I was going to mention Napoleon Hill's book to negativefcf but he may misconstrue it and think that it only applies to money. Go get his book! I am also reading Joel Osteen's Your Best Life Now; I think it is an awesome book.

What does "negativefcf" mean? By itself sounds self-fulfilling prophecy.



Originally posted by The_Becoming
Read "Think and Grow Rich" by Napolean Hill... If you take nothing else away from that book, remember this: the richest and most successful people in history got that way because there was never a ...
 

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Great posts.

Negativecfc, PM me. We are both in a similar situation now.

BTW, Matchdoctor is free. Try that one. I'm starting to use in and getting replies. I have a few experiences that make me less apt to use internet dating (a stalker, but hey that could have happened to anyone I guess, except this girl didn't look like what she said!)
 

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"I recently signed up with Yahoo Personal, paid the $20 (unf*ckinbelievable). I am sending out all these invitations. But I have yet to receive ONE reply. It's been two weeks!

I feel like such a loser."

With an attitude like this I can see why nobody has replied. Why don't you post your invitations here and let us restructure it so that you sound like a real positive winner, while you actually do the work inside to change yourself that way.

While we are redoing it, you can re-do yourself.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
To glorify themselves!

Or if they are pissed at their boyfriend they can find a quick penis and are looking for a gigalo type!

There a few that do respond only if you are their IDEAL mate!
cause its free
cause its fun
and cause they can

we love how good it makes us feel to get lots of responses to our ad that we made just for the ego boost.

and then we say we did it when we were bored, like you will believe it, trying to hide the need for the ego boost.
 

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Originally posted by CraigMack
"I recently signed up with Yahoo Personal, paid the $20 (unf*ckinbelievable). I am sending out all these invitations. But I have yet to receive ONE reply. It's been two weeks!

I feel like such a loser."

With an attitude like this I can see why nobody has replied. Why don't you post your invitations here and let us restructure it so that you sound like a real positive winner, while you actually do the work inside to change yourself that way.

While we are redoing it, you can re-do yourself.
craig...
if you paid yahoo the cash , this is what you do ....
figure out when these chicks are online and im them.
everytime i did yahoo, the paying guys im'ed me left and right.
they said since they paid , they could see when i was online.
i did not pay, so until they messaged me , i had no real way to communicate.
try that and update us ok

good luck
 

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