My story so far
you asked for help
and i'd be glad to share my wisdom.
I'm not that much further into the game, but because I'm already in the midst of it, I feel like I can at least offer what success I've had so far.
The first thing I wanted to ask you was about your gf. How long have you two been seeing each other, who asked who out and how IS she around you? Is she surprisingly interested in you and you don't know why?
The important thing about that is that girls have a good way of seeing past people simply by the cues that they give them. Some girls want to help change a guy into who he IS on the inside as opposed to who he's being on the outside. Sometimes they're able to believe in us more than we ever could.
I could be wrong with all of this, but if it in some way strikes a chord with you then I'll be sure to tell you the next part.
One thing is energy and willingness to succeed at getting to be where you want in life. That means that you will NOT listen to yourself anymore because simply put you have been causing your own failure. Sound wrong? Sound like it doesn't make sense? Why would we do that to ourselves? Simpy because it's what we've known as our reality our whole lives. All we know is what it COULD be like, the rest is just a fantasy.
First thing I would recommend doing is writing down a list of things you want to accomplish. Goals of who you want to be. Create a list that molds the individual you are striving to become. Then USE THAT to propel WHY you want to get out of your situation. Eventually you want your shift to go from "how am i going to do this?" to actually just trying and learning. This is so key.
Being hard on oneself is easier than actually doing and that is something that I STILL have a hard time with. BUT now there's some things that are critically different.
Those things include:
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Knowing my self-worth. Knowing my talents, my likes, my dislikes, my hobies, my skills, my desires and the extent of what I can do with myself and thenactually doing those things.
I've worked on all those things mentioned above because they help you to stay interesting and busy. A girl will enjoy being in the pressence of a man that does a lot with himself.
I have FINALLY and I mean FINALLY started accepting myself, loving myself and being the ONE person I can count on. Sound silly? It's GOLD when you REALLY see the world for how it is. That isn't to scare you, but it's true that eventually you'll start picking up on what the world is about and what seperates you.
Eventually in the end all it really means is that you have it all within you, but you've been holding back because of either the present reality you're stuck in or because of the fear of having to try and fail before you learn.
One last thing you have to remember man. That it's YOUR LIFE, YOU are the ONLY one who's going to do ANYTHING for yourself. You are the only one that's TRULY going to care whether or not you succeed. You can practically tell your best friend that you're going to be touring across canada as a rockstar and they'll STILL look at you the same. It doesn't truly matter what they think, that's something that's VERY critical. Because when you finally remove that barrier, a LOT opens up. When you truly live your life the way YOU want to and stop with the focus of everyone else, that you'll be all that and more. AND understand the world for who you have to be and why it's important that you be a certain way. Far too many people in one way or another try to fit into societies view or their friends view of who they should be, instead of being themselves.
Most importantly, believe in yourself. Believe you will succeed, believe you will become the greatest you can be. If you have a girl that already sees that in you, then perhaps that's all you needed to hear to understand what she sees in you.
Take it easy,
DJ Hoola Hoop