She was a next all right. If I were in your social circle I'd made sure your boo-boo nexted her my way. I'd take proper care of her on your behalf man. Really..
I'm assuming you are serious and this is a real question so I will really refrain from sarcasm. So I'm giving you a SERIOUS reply. If you can step back and objectively reflect on it fine, if not fine I couldn't care less either way.
The solution to your problem lies in the statement: "you didn't do your job well enough." contemplate that, read EVERYTHING below, and return to that statement. And remember, we're all here to help each other to that next stage of excellence.
There is a fine line between confidence, ****iness, and self-absorbed arrogance. I only read two lines into your message before I was shaking my head wondering why ANY chick with a smiggen of self esteem would let you get pass feeling her up.
Mistake one, when you went into "brag mode" and told her such and such you were displaying a bit of neediness, and obnoxious neediness too. Not the cloying AFC type of neediness, but something more subtle. Chicks, no PEOPLE in general, really observe actions, your actions have to be congruent with your words and intents. When there is a mismatch people notice it.
Mistake two, its obvious she was attracted to you, after all she let you feel her lucious b00bies a couple of times.. and.. did you try to escalate? Did you work on her attraction and sexual compulsion? Or did you make out, feel her up, and assume the fire was going to stay hot? Mistake numero two was that you had a bad situation the SECOND time and STILL she let you put your grubby mitts on her and you didn't work her up well enough to convince her you could do the job.
How well did you work her? Did you sort of grope her tits like a high school boy or did you try to sensully carress her, pleasure her with your hands. Did you explore her back and stomache and sides, did you slide your hands down to her a$$, did you nibble lightly on her neck or did you;
Grab Tit 1, rotate squeeze.
Grab Tit 2, rotate squeeze.
Slobber on her lips.
As the b1tch to slobba on your knob and act surprised when she told you to buzz off.
You had no value to her after the second time, you didn't do enough work to close the lay, you gave her NO incentive to fsck you. Why would she? If you weren't able to
I've never gotten as far as laying my hands on a girl's tits without enjoying her completely either that same day or the next meeting. EVEN as a so-called "AFC" (silly term) because I touch a girl in a way that makes my hands feel really good, and once she gives me that open window to caress her tits I realize that she wouldn't have let me get that far if she didn't want to enjoy more, so I let my hands wander
This has always been my way of overcoming "ASD" let your hands wander, tease her there, and before she can even complain or move my hand gently move it back someplace she enjoys but that's "safe" repeat, wash, spin. You keep going a bit further and back, you know she enjoys it even if her logical brain says "stop". The only time that didn't work was with my best LTR. And I worked her up so much she begged me to come all over her and massage my come into her supple skin. She wouldn't let me into her panties but she insisted on letting me do a hell of a lot of other things. Begged for it.
You can imagine what happened the next time we met.
ARROGANCE CAN BE KING with some guys, if its congruent with your overall character well displayed arrogance - strangly - can make some girls rather wet for you. But ONLY if you seem to have something backing it up. If you are an arrogant SOB and act like you can do the job, heck yeah she's going to let you do some dirty little things to her. If you are an arrogant SOB and the first time you even lay hands on her tits much less than anything else she senses, no knows, you can't even get her off, your value drops. The arrogance that may have been annoyingly cute and even hot now becomes annoyingly.. annoying because you are showing nothing to back it up with...
If arrogance is part and parcel of how you act then live with it, but if you were really as arrogant as you seem to have tried to be you would've shrugged it off as inconsequential. "So a bird doesn't want me inside of her, whatever I've got 3 more in the bush." Nonchallant arrogance is attractive to some women, not all but some. Spoiled little rich boy controlled tantrum types of arrogance are universal turn offs.
In other words, you were trying to push too hard, in the wrong time frame, without PAYING ATTENTION to the dynamics of the situation. Even if she was the biggest slut in town and you had laid her, it would've been the worse lay or either of your lives. There are things I'd rather be doing than a bad lay.. like making money or watching X-Files reruns... seriously.
CONGRUENCE baby, know the situation. Some girls need sugar, some girls need vineger.
LegendBoy said:
As the story goes I met up with this chick for a date hooked up and felt the bitcchh up. Next day at school we chilled felt her up and **** but didn't hook up. She refused then I went into brag mode like telling her not to waste my time and that other girls would appreciate my time and ****. Then when she refused a hook up I left. She msg me saying sorry.
FAST FORWARD 3 days.
