I am not scoring any girls so losing my confidence?

Maverick_92

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Hey guys,
Its been six months since I am out of a six month relationship with a girl. I'll give a brief background, this was my first relationship in which I didnt set boundaries. We are college students in early 20s. She had an ex for three years and broke up with him when we start getting serious. She was a drama queen and emotionally unstable because of her ex. Things were smooth in first couple of months then it was ups and downs, and eventually we broke up. The reason for breaking up that I tried to kiss her which I had already been doing before. She left angrily and didnt respond to my texts. I tried to talk her out by sending a text week and eventually I stopped after a month of breakup because I heard she has gotten back together with her ex third time, twice on my back which I forgive and told her logically you wont be comfortable with her after all the mess.

This breakup changed me and I decided to hook up with many girls but dont get emotional with anyone. This was a perfect strategy, I got couple of dates and talk to various girls hence keeping myself sane and enjoying my life. I also decided to pursue some unfinished goals which I mistakenly stopped pursuing.

Everything was going great for me. Eventually I got so busy that if I talk to a girl, my goal is to set a date otherwise she's wasting my time so I next her. Couple of weeks ago I texted my ex and start teasing her and being unreactive to her responses. Told her that stop making your ex suffer and you have been talking to other guys behind my back. You also talked to your friends about our breakup whereas I told you we will try to resolve our disputes ourselves. She told me to forget everything and we are done. So I texted so it means you dont have any issue if any other girl comes into my life. She responded nope, never had before. :) and that was our last message.

PROBLEM: I am loosing my sanity and confidence. I got busy with my studies and started running along with weight lifting ( I felt happy and relaxed on first day of running. ) . I started cold approach on facebook but didnt have the balls to approach directly on college campus. Worst thing is that I have started to text my old friends with which I had fights to hang out.

Please help me what to do ? As this is affecting my emotional being and social life as I have nothing to talk except girls.
 

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Don Juan
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You are allowing your emotions to be codependent upon others. This isn't okay. Anytime you start drifting this way (and it happens to a lot of people) you need to take a step back and turn your focus inward. You must be happy with yourself before you can expect another person to be happy with you.

You don't have a woman in your life? That's cool, you're fine with that because you're happy all on your own!
You do have a woman in your life? Awesome! If she is the right kind of woman, she enhances your already awesome strengths! (But, you don't need her. That's really important.)

This is my #1 mantra:
True happiness comes from within.
 
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