I am in an emotional wreck and I don't know what to do.

[Konada]

Let me start off by saying I don't know why or how in the first place I got into a all time low recently. I've been doing fine with building confidence and approaching people, making fluff talk etc. But recently, I felt that I went back to my quiet old self and lost that touch of confidence, I have not been doing well with convos and felt sh!tty all the time. I don't know how in the first place I got into this state and I have tried hitting the 'reset button' but it seems like I am always stuck in this state of mind, where I don't want to do anything with people.

As if this isn't bad enough but whilst in this state of mind, I've noticed that people are beginning to get distant from me (Idk whether its paranoia or really its true.). I mean I am able to establish good rapport with some people in the beginning but after that I get the feeling that I'm driving them away and am always getting the 'Fvck off, I dont want to talk to you' vibe whenever I approach them. With others, I've always felt that my quiet nature in the past times have left a rather indifferent impression about me when it comes to others. Even though I try to be as happy as I can and as carefree, cracking jokes and stuff, it seems like they don't want anything to do with me. To say the least, I've been incredibly upset over this and I don't know what the fvck is wrong with me that is driving away people that I used to have such good relationships.

I realise I'm coming off as needy of friends but the point here is majority of people seem to try to get distant with me after knowing them for awhile which leads me to think its probably an issue with me. I can't figure out what the issue is, I don't know where to start. Please help.

 

[Drdeee]

Man, I'm not gonna pep talk you. That stuff never worked for me. Just something I noticed about myself, after a low there is a high. After a big dip sh!t low there is a big dope ass high. Roller coaster. Ride it.

Try getting deeper insight into yourself with the help of weed or some indian meditation with a help of magic mashrums. You get an idea.

 

[Mike32ct]

It is normal to have "relapses" in this game. I'll do great for a while, then lose my "mojo" and be quiet and depressed for a couple of months. It's not uncommon. But I always find a way to get it back and come back better than before.

First, get some exercise to help boost your mood. You don't have to be a weightlifter, unless you are into that. Maybe you like biking or hiking or even just walking. Getting active will make you feel more alive.

Also, listen to some fun, upbeat music before you go out. That helps me a lot.

Finally, you might be trying too hard to be funny or interesting. Don't be afraid to be a little boring, just talk. Being quiet is MUCH more of a turnoff to most girls than being a little dry or not funny. A common misconception in "The Community" is that you must be this super interesting, story telling, hysterically funny entertainer in order to get girls. While those things can help, they aren't strictly necessary to get girls.

The only caveat is that you must be more entertaining for larger sets to hold their attention. For now, I would focus on lone wolves and 2-sets. Trying to charm a group of three or more is a pain in the a$s.

But anyway, for now relax and tone things down a bit and be a little more serious since it's more genuine that TRYING to make them laugh. Once your confidence is back, you can insert more humor again without it looking tryhard. I guess what I'm trying to say is that humor works best when you aren't trying to be funny.

 

[Konada]

Thanks man. It's true I may have lost my mojo but I can't help but feel something about me is driving people away that I used to know so well. I don't know what is that issue that is driving them off and it's really getting me upset. I see these guys once in awhile so there's no issue of being clingy or sh1t like that. I am really confused as to what I'm doing that makes people want to stay away from me.

 

[Huffman]

Exercise works to get my mood back up for the short term, but the only thing that can keep me happy is doing things that make me proud.

Usually it's about tackling stuff that you're shying away from, such as any kind of work, duty, or also social contacts. If you tackle one such thing every day, then you can feel proud every day.

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

Me too; I'm in the exact same situation...