I am having a fricking hard time and i brought it all upon myself...

[Ricky]

Damn guys,

I moved to this new town and of course that girl dumped me and totally made me feel like complete **** the opening weekend before I started the new job.

Since then I haven't been able to get it going. I don't really enjoy the town, haven't been excited about going out and the weather has flat out sucked 90% of the days here.

I have alot of hate in my heart now and I'm real skeptical of getting involved with any women other than using them for a ONS. Even to that end I dont even want to play the games i need to get them in bed.

Whats worse is that I find that the slightest little things are setting me off. I never used to be an angry person, now I'm pissed all the time or I'm sad.

The only thing holding it together for me is the job. I love it. If I didn't I dont' know what the hell I"d do. It better stay good. I imagine it will be getting stressful so the only thiing i have to do to blow off steam is workout right now.

I cant wait until i start being more resourceful.

 

[BigDawg]

Ricky -
Don't sweat it. You'll have to give yourself some time to adjust to your new surroundings. When I moved to to my current location a couple of years ago, I had ended a two and a half year long relationship (although she and I still communicate), and I went through a lot of what you're going through now. Over time, things got better for me (although I think they took waaaay too long, and my dating record here has been abysmal!), and I'm sure you'll settle down into a groove.

As the old saying goes, "Rome wasn't built in a day." So, don't beat yourself up. Things really do get better. Your new city really does have a lot to offer, so don't give up on it yet.

Cheers

 

[Ricky]

Thanks Big Dawg. Right now I'm not feeling good on many levels.

I need to join a gym. I've been going to one that I can get into free if i get there in the morning only.

I really need one that i can go to at all hours so I can work off the aggression.

 

[BigDawg]

Originally posted by Ricky
Thanks Big Dawg. Right now I'm not feeling good on many levels.

I need to join a gym. I've been going to one that I can get into free if i get there in the morning only.

I really need one that i can go to at all hours so I can work off the aggression.

I recently returned to a regular gym routine (I worked out a lot as a grad student), and I'm already beginning to feel better. But, like your situation, the gym hours and my schedule don't always mesh. Still, some exercise is better than none at all.

Oh, and to unload the aggression, you can always, uh, what's the expression? ah, yes, you can always "rub one out." J/K.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Relax Ricky, give it two years and then pass judgement on your new venture. What you don't have is that network of family and friends close by to fall back on in times of anger and sadness - your predictament is natural - give it time!

Your timing with the move and the girl leaving wasn't the best that is why you even feel more lonely. If you didn't have a girl before you left you would saw this in a more positive light - and yeah, the weather influences our mindset as well.

Your lonliness will pass as you meet new people!

 

[Slickster]

Rick

I too, have recently gone thru a break up with a great woman. Although I don't feel hate towards women, I'm definitety reading you on the "not feeling good on many levels" thing. I haven't been myself for 3 weeks.

I think a break up no matter how good or badly it goes will send your life for a loop. Hang in there bro. I see better days ahead.

 

[FratAndDiddy]

what you are feeling is natural. most of us have been in this situation.
i remember your post about this chickie dumping you. i know it's not a big confidence booster, but to me she did you a favor. think positive bro and keep your chin up. your new city could be the best thing that ever happened to you. keep us updated.

 

[Ricky]

Thanks guys. This is a good forum. We all get down at times, I really appreciate how people help you up when you feel like you've been knocked down on your ass too much.

There are tons of single girls here. I don't have my mind or game together yet, but when I do watch out. And it will happen soon I believe.

 

[Squid]

Ricky, I also know exactly what your going through. The whole reason I moved to the city I'm in now is because of a woman I am no longer with. I've met women, gone on a few dates, but I just have no desire to pursue anything at the moment.

I posted this in another thread, can't remember which one, but the best way to move on is to make some personal goals to strive for (i.e. train for a marathon, etc.). Without goals our lives begin to get meaningless and stale. Find something you have a passion for and become an expert in it.

It was really hard for me here for a while, I had few friends, I hated my job and I also had been here long enough to feel that I couldn't go back home (it's about a tenth the size of where I am now). I've found a great group of guys to play hockey with in the last little while and I've decided to change my career and go after the my dream job. It's been 8 months of training and jumping through hoops, but I'm almost there, and it's kept my mind focused through the tough times.

When you focus your energy positively everything will eventually fall into place, but it's going to take some time.