I was wondering if anyone here has ever been in this situation and how they escaped it.
I'm in my late twenties and haven't had any friends since I was a teenager. I have never had more than one or two friends at a time or for very long. "Aquaintance" might be a better word; I have never had what you could call a close friend. I spent most of my high school years and all of my college years alone because that's what I was used to; I just never had the desire to meet people. I was fine with being alone because that's what I grew up seeing. My father has no friends or relatives, never gets phone calls, and spends the weekends sleeping. My mother is not quite as bad.
Now that I want to make friends and have a normal life, I'm reaping what I sowed. I feel like I've dug myself a hole too deep to climb out of. I simply am not meeting or making friends with anyone. I have tried and failed to make friends with co-workers. I'm positive people think I'm a loser because I am always alone. When I tell people I went somewhere by myself, they look at me like I'm pathetic or even tell me how sad that is. I'm sure I'm not doing anything wrong to make people dislike me. Maybe I just don't have anything in common with anyone. I think people are afraid to be seen with someone who they think will harm their image. People always seem to have an excuse not to hang out.
I'm clueless about what to do next. This loneliness is killing me. I find myself in a catch-22: I cannot make friends without first having friends. I must be be the only person on the planet who dreads the weekend and can't wait for Monday. I haven't left the house the last couple of weekends because I get depressed and angry, especially when I see people my age with their friends or families, and I see what I'm missing out on. I am worried that time is running out to meet people because people at my age are often in relationships or just starting to settle down and have kids. People also seem to be less interested in making new friends as they get older, though that might be a misobservation.
I am very worried. I can't even afford to move out of my parents' house. I feel like I've been left behind and will never have any of the things others have in life. I don't even remember what question I was supposed to ask at the end of this post.
I write this post because someone else here had responded to my post about my virginity and never having been on a date by saying that I should be more concerned about not having any friends at my age.
I'm in my late twenties and haven't had any friends since I was a teenager. I have never had more than one or two friends at a time or for very long. "Aquaintance" might be a better word; I have never had what you could call a close friend. I spent most of my high school years and all of my college years alone because that's what I was used to; I just never had the desire to meet people. I was fine with being alone because that's what I grew up seeing. My father has no friends or relatives, never gets phone calls, and spends the weekends sleeping. My mother is not quite as bad.
Now that I want to make friends and have a normal life, I'm reaping what I sowed. I feel like I've dug myself a hole too deep to climb out of. I simply am not meeting or making friends with anyone. I have tried and failed to make friends with co-workers. I'm positive people think I'm a loser because I am always alone. When I tell people I went somewhere by myself, they look at me like I'm pathetic or even tell me how sad that is. I'm sure I'm not doing anything wrong to make people dislike me. Maybe I just don't have anything in common with anyone. I think people are afraid to be seen with someone who they think will harm their image. People always seem to have an excuse not to hang out.
I'm clueless about what to do next. This loneliness is killing me. I find myself in a catch-22: I cannot make friends without first having friends. I must be be the only person on the planet who dreads the weekend and can't wait for Monday. I haven't left the house the last couple of weekends because I get depressed and angry, especially when I see people my age with their friends or families, and I see what I'm missing out on. I am worried that time is running out to meet people because people at my age are often in relationships or just starting to settle down and have kids. People also seem to be less interested in making new friends as they get older, though that might be a misobservation.
I am very worried. I can't even afford to move out of my parents' house. I feel like I've been left behind and will never have any of the things others have in life. I don't even remember what question I was supposed to ask at the end of this post.
I write this post because someone else here had responded to my post about my virginity and never having been on a date by saying that I should be more concerned about not having any friends at my age.
