I am an stupid EMOTIONAL *****..

[Bratt2230]

Recently i realized what a Emotional ***** i am, omg. and i call my self a man?

Seriously, after i learned how to number and or kiss-close, i have been getting theese FAKE fellings for all of the girls, especially the ones i kiss..

I have not realized that a kiss, is not like placing a ring on someones finger, it could mean NOTHING at all..

I do not know how i can get rid of this felling, and just let go, seriously, i need some serious help whit this stuff!

 

[john_trenor]

It’s not that you’re emotional its that you have to close the deal. You all ready kissing her what keeps you from seeing her again on a date. Every pick up artist stresses confidence, and for good reason. But, what does it mean to be confident and how do you do it? Well, the art of attracting women through confidence involves body language that communicates your strength and manliness, being fun and lighthearted, and… just plain loving yourself!

You see, If you’re comfortable with yourself (this includes your flaws), it’s far easier to approach and talk to women without inhibitions – without sabotaging yourself. If you hold onto bitterness, on the other hand, your self esteem will plummet and even the ugliest girls won’t give you the time of the day. After all no sane woman wants to be with a guy who’s insecure. So, chin up and believe that you’re great – she think so too.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

I look at is this way.

When you buy a lottery ticket do you expect to win? No.

Treat women the same. I'm not suingt this analogy to illustrate chances of getting laid btw, obviously you should be a lot more confident in that area! But one thing experience has taught me is that the majority of women aren't worth bothering with, all very similar with similar traits, and whlist fun for sex, aren't worth much more than that. That attitude would have made the old me feel guilty, like an *******, now, having been on the recieveing end of pretty horrible treatment from some girls, I realise it's just the right way to think.

Do not get me wrong, I do think there's a bracket of good women out there, possible LTR material, but you have to trawl through the crap to find them, so when you kiss a girl in a bar, accept that she probably isn't going to be the one for you, treat it like a job interview almost. If you have that attitude then the chances of becoming emotionally attached and therefore vulnerable early on diminish greatly.

Easier said than done I know, because women lull you into a false sense of security, or try to. But it's the attitude I adopt now, and I've learnt that lesson the hard way.

 

[Swift Shadow]

I look at is this way.

When you buy a lottery ticket do you expect to win? No.

Treat women the same. I'm not suingt this analogy to illustrate chances of getting laid btw, obviously you should be a lot more confident in that area! But one thing experience has taught me is that the majority of women aren't worth bothering with, all very similar with similar traits, and whlist fun for sex, aren't worth much more than that. That attitude would have made the old me feel guilty, like an *******, now, having been on the recieveing end of pretty horrible treatment from some girls, I realise it's just the right way to think.

Do not get me wrong, I do think there's a bracket of good women out there, possible LTR material, but you have to trawl through the crap to find them, so when you kiss a girl in a bar, accept that she probably isn't going to be the one for you, treat it like a job interview almost. If you have that attitude then the chances of becoming emotionally attached and therefore vulnerable early on diminish greatly.

Easier said than done I know, because women lull you into a false sense of security, or try to. But it's the attitude I adopt now, and I've learnt that lesson the hard way.

This guy knows what he's on about it, i've had similiar experiences where i would get too attached and literally have my heart stomped on by women.
Now i just treat meeting women like a little lighthearted game and i don't expect it to go anywhere.

I am an optimist but sometimes i expect the worse and that way if the worst happens i'm not disappointed.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

Exactly, and even when it does go somewhere I keep my wits about me, keep speaking to other girls etc, it's all about finding that 5% or so that are worth more than sex and fun.
If you start thinking any girl who flutters her eyelashes at you and says the right things (they all say the right things,) then you're just asking for trouble.
The mistake most men make is they meet some girl who they think is different, the girl usually tells them something along the lines of "I'm fed oup of being messed around, just want a nice guy to have fun with etc," they think that's me, unaware that what women say they want and actually desire are two completely different animals. Then it inevitably ends up with the man getting dumped.
I'm not a woman hater, I'm just realistic. Don't expect every random girl who gives you attention in a bar to be LTR material because she probably won't be.
Personally, I work a lot of hours in a stressful job and I am ****ed if I'm ever making the mistake again of giving up my free time to any girl that isn't worth it. Like an interview process as I say, it sounds arrogant and don't get me wrong, i don't have loads of girls begging to go out with me or anything. But the ones I meet that do have high IL, I just don't expect it to necessarily lead to anything. It would be nice if it did and I'll do all I can to at least get a lay out of it, but to expect anything more is asking to get hurt. One step at a time, as she proves herself allow her a little more leeway. This attitude is also less likely to cause their IL to drop anyway tbh, it's usually clingness, dependency etc which causes that kind of reaction in the first place.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

I get attached to girls as well, hence my current attitude.
I think society through films etc engrains this romantic love tale attitude that you're destined to meet the girl of your dreams.
The harsh reality is that the above is possible, but like anything else of value in life it takes work. Some people might be lucky enough to marry and love and live happily ever after with one of the first girls they meet, most will end up with a huge alamoni cheque and a load of legal fees.
I would rather wait, and be as sure as I can be that the girl I'm with is the right one. You can never be totally confident, but you can be close to that level.
In the early stages of a relationship i treat them as a past time, on level with other past times like gym, football, friends etc. If they can prove they're worth more than that then fine, but I've learnt not to let women in too soon. It spells disaster.

 

[Tovansky]

when u have backup chicks you won't encounter this emotional feeling anymore. I know, blame it on me being the faithful follower of the pook.

 

[PapiChulo]

Extremely good advice everyone.

 

[Bratt2230]

Very.

Very nice advice Guys.

It helped a lot.

I guess my real problem is, that i am not used to kissing girls on the first day, Usually it did take me longer than this, and when we kissed, it ALWAYS led to a Realationship or at least sex.

I guess i will have to work on building up sexual tension.

 

[Bratt2230]

Believe it or not, there is nothing wrong with being a "feeling"-type of male.

Some men are logical "thinking" types, while others employ their "feelings"

You will be better able to emote with the girls, which can be to your advantage.

ATM i can only see it working for my DISadvantage.

But i guess i will just have to figure out, how i can turn it around at use it NOT against me, but "with" me