I am 5'3".

[Iba90]

I am 5 foot 3 inches, male and almost 19 so there's almost no chance I'll grow anymore. It's an embarrassingly low height that means pretty much everyone just thinks of me as cute, but not in the sexy way.

So I'd like to know what kind of things I can do to overcome the problems that my height brings. When I walk into a club and everyone is taller than me, my psyche gets crushed.

 

[search1ng]

yeah camdry90, cause what you said really fcking helps the OP heaps doesn't it. Just go stroke your ego more kk.

At OP, you could try some platform shoes if you really wanted to, but don't hide the fact that they're platform, or you'll look like a douche. Accept the fact that you're 'short,' (only in stature) and make sure your confidence is so high it's like you're 7' tall.

 

[Apocalypse Now]

Excerpt from Carlos Xuma's Secrets of the Alpha Man:

1) Wear lifts and taller shoes to give me an extra inch or two. (There are elevator
shoes that give up to 3.5 inches of added height.)
2) Make a list of famous men who are short, but still get women (Tom Cruise,
Dustin Hoffman, Robin Williams, Earl Boykins – NBA guard, only 5’ 5”).
Before you say, “Yeah, but they’re famous,” remember that they were short
before they got famous. Think about it.
3) Dress in colors and patterns to accentuate my height.
4) Develop my humor and presentation to sweep women off their feet with my
wit, giving them too much to be attracted to rather than focus on my height.
5) Find the women that are looking for a man my height. There are plenty of
women that are shorter than any man, so I’ll hunt them down.

Okay, I gave you four ways there, but I know there are a lot of guys with this
concern. I wanted to show you that there is a way to overcome your perceived
limitation.

Tallness
We covered this in a previous section. While being tall is a good physical trait,
not many guys realize what this translates to in a woman’s mind. When a man is
physically taller than a woman, this provides a subconscious reassurance of protection
for her. She feels better around tall guys because they imply physical security, a man
that can protect her.
This can be overcome by AMPing up those other qualities that give her a feeling
of satisfaction and security. Your confidence and overall fitness can overcome this, as
we discussed earlier.


ALPHA TACTIC:
Here are two more ways of compensating for height: 1) develop your physical
body as best you can, and 2) develop a strong sexual communication style.

Get to the gym and work out, as well as pick up a self-defense skill. There is no
excuse for not being in good physical shape. If you don’t have enough time, what you’re
saying is that you’re not willing to make the time.

A strong communication style will replace your height to her as a way to provide
comfort and security. When you can communicate your value without words, you’ll
attract women on a subconscious level.

 

[djinhell]

Well dude, im the other end of the scale. Im 6ft 5, and sometimes thats a problem for me. I unintentionally intimidate some girls and stand out which makes me self conscious a lot of the time.

What I would say to you is, I dated a chick once who was 4ft11 lol. So theres no reason why you cant go for any girl you want regardless of height if the attraction is there.

ALSO, theres a lot of really cute small girls, I've got a few girl friends who are stunning and all around 5ft, and none of them go for tall guys, but rather smaller stocky type guys.

In a nutshell, try not to sweat it too much!

Dj In Hell

 

[Captain]

I am 5 foot 3 inches, male and almost 19 so there's almost no chance I'll grow anymore. It's an embarrassingly low height that means pretty much everyone just thinks of me as cute, but not in the sexy way.

So I'd like to know what kind of things I can do to overcome the problems that my height brings. When I walk into a club and everyone is taller than me, my psyche gets crushed.

Work out a lot and put on a lot of muscle.

 

[pua1989]

dude my roommates probably 5'5" so not quite 5'3" but definitely below the average....hes the biggest mack i know its all how you conduct yourself

 

[mothballs]

Just be like: "Hey baby, I wonder what that guy over there is overcompensating for by being that tall..."

 

[magickarl]

I'm 5'9 in shoes (I know thats taller than you, but stick with me) which is still kind of short.

I'm not going to pretend like I know what it's like to be 5'3, but all my friends are taller than me so I can sort of identify with your situation.

I don't want to sound like I'm just putting up rainclouds on a sunny day either, but the truth is that to an extent height does matter. There really are some girls who won't even look at you sexually unless you are over some sort of height requirement that they've deemed appropriate. No lie. I've actually been told before that I wasn't tall enough. To be fair, the girl who said that to me was over 6' in heels. Women want to feel protected and for one reason or another, most directly relate height to dominance. The same thing goes on other places. You never see any 5'4 bouncers at clubs even if they do have a blackbelt in kung fu. Instead, your going to see a 6' + guy just because at face value they are more intimidating. Google the phrase "height discrimination". When I first heard the term I thought it was a crock of ****, but after reading some of the stuff out there, it seemed a lot more believable.

Once again, I'm not trying to piss in your cornflakes, but I just want to make it clear that height can be problematic. If it truly made no difference, then those same platform shoes that people have mentioned wouldn't exist. Those taller guys (6'4+) who say that their height can be trouble too because they intimidate women or just come off as awkward also have valid concerns.

All that aside, while height does matter, it isn't the end all be all. Height is just a small piece of the pie, and by no means makes more breaks the man.

Al Pacino is maybe 5'4 or 5'5 without platforms, but is one of the most charismatic men in the history of cinema. Watch any movie with Pacino in it, and just notice how he dominates any scene he is in. Here is a screen shot from Scarface http://l.yimg.com/img.movies.yahoo....ictures/scarface/_group_photos/al_pacino1.jpg

In the shot, you can see that Bauer clearly has height on Pacino. Still, if you had never seen the movie and were asked to guess which guy was in charge based on that picture, you would pick Pacino. The guy is ****ing dripping with swagger.

Confidence really is the most important factor for success in social interaction. If you truly believe in yourself, you will COMMAND attention without trying.

Here are some things that worked for me:

- While a sense of humor is good, you DO NOT want to be the little funny guy. Keep your jesting in check. If you want girls (or guys) to take you seriously, you have to actually be serious sometimes. I've done the class clown thing before. Sure, it got me a lot of friends, but it never made me look like a guy who could be in control of his environment.

- Grow a backbone, and don't bend it for anybody. Stand up for yourself. Obviously, if the situation is dangerous you should know when to fold your cards. However, if some jerk off is clearly just trying to bully you around because he thinks he can get away with it then put the dude in his place. I know that violence never solves anything and yadda yadda yadda but **** that. If you are at a party, and some guy spits in your face, and you just turn the other cheek and walk away everybody in the club is going to think you are a total wuss. Not one female in that bar is going to look at you and say "wow, that guy is really mature and has a lot of self control -- I wish I had his penis in me."

On the other hand, if you slap the guys drink out of his hand and cold **** him in the jaw you have put yourself in a position of advantage that few realize. Especially when the guy is clearly bigger than you. You have the underdog card. It's win-win. If the guy beats you up, he doesn't gain anything. He gets no badass points for beating on a little guy. You on the other hand showed that you break your balls for nobody and are not scared. My money says that he doesn't try the same thing twice.

If you win -- You get the iron balls points, plus the reputation of being a firecracker. I've got a buddy who is my height, and when he raises his voice guys that are 6'3+ have been known to back down. They back down because they know that the guy doesn't give a ****, and isn't going to let himself get walked on. Besides that, he has a cemented history of busting heads. BTW - Dude is practically rolling in *****.

I don't want to lend support to neanderthal behavior, but people in general (not just women) are always in awe of a little guy that can draw obedience from those bigger than him.

Hit the weights, get platforms if you need to, take some MMA classes, and watch Scarface a few hundred times.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Just be like: "Hey baby, I wonder what that guy over there is overcompensating for by being that tall..."

What? How is being tall an overcompensation for something? Its not like buying a huge truck cause you have a little wang, its a genetic trait.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

What? How is being tall an overcompensation for something? Its not like buying a huge truck cause you have a little wang, its a genetic trait.

No man! You're missing the point! He's being C&F and the ALPHA MALE in the group! He's turning the situation into a positive one by making other males feel insecure for what HE actually feels insecure about! That's what this is all about.

Instead of making the other males feel bad, you should make her feel smaller than you.

Be like:
"Hey... I know I'm short, but you're a freakin' amazon. Whore. Nice dress, my brother wore that for Halloween. Still feelin' so tall? Let's see how big you feel with my wang in your mouth. Wanna come home with me?"

Use that line to give them a compliment, yet making them feel as if you don't care about them. It's like the '2 steps forward, 1 step backward' approach. Also with this line, you're turning the situation into a sexual one mentioning your wang... while incorporating the Apocalypse Opener, but demolishing down the bitch-shield before she puts one up. This is also great for passing the shit-tests with flying colors... she's calling you 'cute' to see how you respond, this will turn the tables and it will make HER qualify HERSELF to YOU!

It's fool proof, man! Try it!

 

[Iba90]

Thanks for all the encouragement guys

I have considered platform/elevator shoes a few times... but in the end they just look too disgusting for me. I have bought some insoles that raise me by 3cm though. In the end, there's not much difference even if I raise myself to 5'6" as I'll still be small.

So I'm gonna take on what you guys said about compensating with personality

I guess my height can also be used to my advantage as I can more easily come in under the radar

Thanks for that extra time put into the post magic

All of this has been quite helpful.
I'm not sure about the muscling up though - short, big muscles men look kinda ridiculous. I am moderately well built though.

Michele, l'Arcangelo there's no way that line would work You must be ****ting me!

 

[ssj4halo]

I am like 5 7'. I know what you mean by when you go in the club and you see all the 6 feet pillers. Its intimidating as hell. Just remember what some of the other people said on here(as well as the DJ bible). Girls are more concerned with your personality than your otheer shiz.

I know I sound like a broken tape recorder but you got to seriosely get the mentality that being short is a disadvantage out of your head. Because the truth is, as long as your personality is on tip top shape, everything else DOESNT matter. If anything, work on things that you can actually CHANGE(not genetics). Dress better, get more built, etc. You will be fine, just don't let yourself not listen to sh1t that doesn't even matter.

 

[Apocalypse Now]

I'm 5'11", and I used to know this guy who was about 5'3" and I never took him seriously. But it wasn't because of his height, he was just a disgusting slob. He had long, black, frizzy hair that was greasy at the same time. He always wore pajamas, no matter where he went. He smelled like BO. He had absolutely no ambition or drive to do anything, he just played video games all day and lived with his mom. He was a joke.

If he had been hygienic, clean cut, dressed nicely, and not a complete loser, I'd have not even noticed his height.

So what I'm saying is, just work on everything that's under your control, don't worry about **** you can't change.

 

[mothballs]

What? How is being tall an overcompensation for something? Its not like buying a huge truck cause you have a little wang, its a genetic trait.

Yeah that's the point of the humor... being tall is not a choice, but it eludes to the fact that being tall has no correlation to **** length.

No man! You're missing the point! He's being C&F and the ALPHA MALE in the group! He's turning the situation into a positive one by making other males feel insecure for what HE actually feels insecure about! That's what this is all about.

Instead of making the other males feel bad, you should make her feel smaller than you.

Heh... I think that's reading into it a little farther then I meant, and you wouldn't say it around the tall guys anyway, so making the other guys feel bad wouldn't really be a goal.


BTW I'm 5'7" and it has presented no problem to me whatsoever.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Being 5'3 doesn't mean sh1t.Its all in your head. Its all about your personality , your values and how comfortable you are with yourself. Other then that , its all irrelevant.

Stop letting social conditioning dictate your life. Take your life in your hands and you'll start getting pvssies like a rockstar.

Just dont let it bother and you'll be fine .

 

[Warrior74]

I'm 5'8. Never thought of myself as short, but all of my best friends growing up were 6 feet and taller. I still pulled more ass them, why? Personality. I'm a great conversationalist, I usually take charge in a group and make decisions. I assert myself. I've gotten jokes for my boys on having "short man complex" but when they need advice or direction who do they come to? I am also a big flirt with women.

One of my friends is 5'4. He's a dj and straight up clown. The life of the party, sometimes he takes it too far (bragging about his 11 inches and pulling his pants down in the club), but he's outgoing and sexual an fun and friendly to everyone. Everyone likes him. He's never without a woman.

Don't let your height stop you from being the man you want to be. Good luck.

 

[Trader]

Let me preface this by saying I'm 5'5


If the girl you like is 5'3 and under, then your height really is a non-factor

Let's acknowledge the fact that your height at 5'3 is a shortcoming - IF you are trying to get girls who are taller than you - 5'4 and up

Of course, as a man, your goal is not to whine and cry about your shortcomings, but to OVERCOME them

2 things

#1 Get muscle. Muscle helps you because it gives you presence, it makes you look more solid. In fact, muscle gives you the impression that you are taller than you really are

#2 Dress well. Dress to the nines, dress fashionably, this will help you in your first impression with girls

Good luck.

 

[Iba90]

Being 5'3 doesn't mean sh1t.Its all in your head. Its all about your personality , your values and how comfortable you are with yourself. Other then that , its all irrelevant.

Yeh I guess my height is more of a blow to my psyche/state when I enter a club, rather than thinking she wont like me because of my height.

"short man complex"

I call it "height advantage" haha :woo:

One of my friends is 5'4. He's a dj and straight up clown. The life of the party, sometimes he takes it too far (bragging about his 11 inches and pulling his pants down in the club), but he's outgoing and sexual an fun and friendly to everyone. Everyone likes him. He's never without a woman.

Sounds good man.
Same goes for other stories in this thread. It's encouraging to know that other people of similar height still have great success


Have to say "OVERCOME" (Trader) is the word of the thread