I'm 5'9 in shoes (I know thats taller than you, but stick with me) which is still kind of short.
I'm not going to pretend like I know what it's like to be 5'3, but all my friends are taller than me so I can sort of identify with your situation.
I don't want to sound like I'm just putting up rainclouds on a sunny day either, but the truth is that to an extent height does matter. There really are some girls who won't even look at you sexually unless you are over some sort of height requirement that they've deemed appropriate. No lie. I've actually been told before that I wasn't tall enough. To be fair, the girl who said that to me was over 6' in heels. Women want to feel protected and for one reason or another, most directly relate height to dominance. The same thing goes on other places. You never see any 5'4 bouncers at clubs even if they do have a blackbelt in kung fu. Instead, your going to see a 6' + guy just because at face value they are more intimidating. Google the phrase "height discrimination". When I first heard the term I thought it was a crock of ****, but after reading some of the stuff out there, it seemed a lot more believable.
Once again, I'm not trying to piss in your cornflakes, but I just want to make it clear that height can be problematic. If it truly made no difference, then those same platform shoes that people have mentioned wouldn't exist. Those taller guys (6'4+) who say that their height can be trouble too because they intimidate women or just come off as awkward also have valid concerns.
All that aside, while height does matter, it isn't the end all be all. Height is just a small piece of the pie, and by no means makes more breaks the man.
Al Pacino is maybe 5'4 or 5'5 without platforms, but is one of the most charismatic men in the history of cinema. Watch any movie with Pacino in it, and just notice how he dominates any scene he is in. Here is a screen shot from
Scarface http://l.yimg.com/img.movies.yahoo....ictures/scarface/_group_photos/al_pacino1.jpg
In the shot, you can see that Bauer clearly has height on Pacino. Still, if you had never seen the movie and were asked to guess which guy was in charge based on that picture, you would pick Pacino. The guy is ****ing dripping with swagger.
Confidence really is the most important factor for success in social interaction. If you truly believe in yourself, you will COMMAND attention without trying.
Here are some things that worked for me:
- While a sense of humor is good, you DO NOT want to be the little funny guy. Keep your jesting in check. If you want girls (or guys) to take you seriously, you have to actually be serious sometimes. I've done the class clown thing before. Sure, it got me a lot of friends, but it never made me look like a guy who could be in control of his environment.
- Grow a backbone, and don't bend it for anybody. Stand up for yourself. Obviously, if the situation is dangerous you should know when to fold your cards. However, if some jerk off is clearly just trying to bully you around because he thinks he can get away with it then put the dude in his place. I know that violence never solves anything and yadda yadda yadda but **** that. If you are at a party, and some guy spits in your face, and you just turn the other cheek and walk away everybody in the club is going to think you are a total wuss. Not one female in that bar is going to look at you and say "wow, that guy is really mature and has a lot of self control -- I wish I had his penis in me."
On the other hand, if you slap the guys drink out of his hand and cold **** him in the jaw you have put yourself in a position of advantage that few realize. Especially when the guy is clearly bigger than you. You have the underdog card. It's win-win. If the guy beats you up, he doesn't gain anything. He gets no badass points for beating on a little guy. You on the other hand showed that you break your balls for nobody and are not scared. My money says that he doesn't try the same thing twice.
If you win -- You get the iron balls points, plus the reputation of being a firecracker. I've got a buddy who is my height, and when he raises his voice guys that are 6'3+ have been known to back down. They back down because they know that the guy doesn't give a ****, and isn't going to let himself get walked on. Besides that, he has a cemented history of busting heads. BTW - Dude is practically rolling in *****.
I don't want to lend support to neanderthal behavior, but people in general (not just women) are always in awe of a little guy that can draw obedience from those bigger than him.
Hit the weights, get platforms if you need to, take some MMA classes, and watch Scarface a few hundred times.
