Hypothetical sittuation with BPD's

[j0504s]

Ok boyzz,

Lets say I find myself in a relationship with bpd and it become serious. I figure out at a later point after I am very invovled that she is BPD...But I Love her and want to be with her...what do you do? Is she eventually going to go haywire? is this fact at this point? is it that rare that they actually become tamed? or does this disorder never really settle down? With pyschological help can they become better? or are they just gonna suck the life out you eventually?

I know this isnt a Psych furom just looking for opinions
im looking for more then an answer of just drop them asap before they tear you apart. any exprience of a civilized healthy ltr with these type of girls? exprrience of where they learned or got the help they needed?

Just for the record I am not in a relationship with BPD currently I have been though for a year+ and did not end well due to her ability to be head over heals for me one day then another day she snapped and ended it for no good reason.

 

[PeakIV]

walk away for your sanity, take it from me 8yrs . it doesn't get better if they are in denial. in fact it will get worse. someone once said they are the closest thing to unintentional evil.

You will end up psycho. It is serious, read all the other posts. she is a train wreck waiting to happen. It will happen at some point down the line.

Get off the train at the next stop, or better still jump now.

 

[pdx1138]

8yrs peak? damn, bro.

Mine was fully aware of her "weirdness" as she called it.

1.5 years is all I could handle on that roller-coaster ride.

Glad I cut her off after that even though it was VERY difficult to do.
Sucks the life out of you.

 

[dangdang]

I was reading this site the other day, http://www.reignitethefire.net/ , with some really good blog content. I liked what he was attempting to create with being unshakable to the point where bpd or not doesnt matter.

I bought his book. Read it. After I was thinking to myself, these are some great tips men should be molding themselves into anyhow, but Fukk if I'm gonna do all this just to date a BPD.

She can go duck herself, and when she hits me up ill rail her in the ass and send her packin.


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[PianoGuy33]

Get away my friend!

 

[Wingedsig]

Word of advice.

Cut all ties immediately. Had a 1 yr relationship with one, and still 3.5 years later carry residual psychological effects as a result.Doesn't effect me quite the way it did, but let me put it this way.When it goes down in flames, and it will think of what happens to a hard drive that crashes.That is exactly what will happen to you psychologically.Yes, the sex it probably good, but YOU CAN NOT REHABILITATE THEM.Get counseling on why you seek out unavailable partners and correct this.

 

[VladPatton]

The trick is to get out as soon as you sense it in her. Don't try to be a hero, and listen to the guys with experience. I wouldn't even dream of fųcking tackling on such a relationship, I'd rather be single.

 

[Down Low]

What makes you think there's any option other than leaving now?

Behavioral disorders are mental illnesses. Unless you have some special experimental drug or surgery or something, you're SOL.

 

[j0504s]

as displayed through all these posts these girls are just "undateble" obviously some of these girls are getting married at some point...are they leading to divorce more often then your general marrige? is that a fair assumption?

More importantly why do these type of females destroy men more then any other female. I consider my self very good with women and good with understanding of your avg. female...how did this bpd girl trap me and real me in? how did i have no clue she was insane till we alrdy dating for a bit (its only my fault I let it last for a year till she broke my heart). Why does this break up and other peoples with BPD effect us more then any other? this is what I truly dont understand...

 

[pdx1138]

obviously some of these girls are getting married at some point...are they leading to divorce more often then your general marrige? is that a fair assumption?

More importantly why do these type of females destroy men more then any other female.

I can tell you from my ex, no matter how ideal and perfect the guy might have been she begins to think about cheating on them about a year in and nothing
has lasted over 5 years.

In the simplest term a BPD type is on a locked course of self-sabatoge.

 

[Fatal Jay]

I dated an hb9 bpd

she only got a 9 cause she had a kid, without the kid this chick was a 10

I want through so much with this chick, I let this chick take my nuts and humiliate me at times, just for the simple fact she was hot

never again will I do that, never, I don't care who the woman is.

 

[VladPatton]

as displayed through all these posts these girls are just "undateble" obviously some of these girls are getting married at some point...are they leading to divorce more often then your general marrige? is that a fair assumption?

More importantly why do these type of females destroy men more then any other female. I consider my self very good with women and good with understanding of your avg. female...how did this bpd girl trap me and real me in? how did i have no clue she was insane till we alrdy dating for a bit (its only my fault I let it last for a year till she broke my heart). Why does this break up and other peoples with BPD effect us more then any other? this is what I truly dont understand...

Because they are not far in operation from con artists. There is no way for you to know you've been screwed over until, you get: screwed over! It's remarkably efficient work on their behalf. It's natural, no one taught them this, a true talent that they practice and refine daily. There is no way a sane person stands a chance, hence the advice to run like hell at first encounter with such a person.