Met this Russian chick this weekend. Friend of a female friend. I met them down in the lobby of my building and did my "hug instead of a handshake" greeting I use when I first meet a woman.
She didn't expect me to go for the hug, but what I got in return surprised ME. She actually EMBRACED ME. Not the ass out kind of thing. The she kissed me on the cheek. Like a GOOD sort of kiss. Kinda wet. And I broke away from it first since i am not accustomed to the chick latching onto me like that the first time we meet. Chemistry, yes. Semi-passionate embrace....never had that happen. If it were a more appropriate time and place I could have been making out with her within ten seconds of meeting her, no doubt in my mind!
After having a drink at my place we hit a club. I couldn't understand a damn word she was saying but I did dance with her, and came about an inch and a half from kissing her (don't ask why I didn't, long story).
Point is, always, ALWAYS go for the hug when you first meet a chick!
When you first think about doing it your mind might resist thinking the chick is gonna look at you like a creepy perv, but I have NEVER had a bad reaction.
I think it accomplishes two things. First, it sets the frame that you are comfortable with touch and that you are a social kind of guy.
Secondly it breaks through several barriers. It creates COMFORT and RAPPORT, and if her first ten second interaction with you is good, it can even go so far as to spark ATTRACTION. there is no doubt in my mind that had i not hugged this chick it would have been an entirely different frame between us.
ALWAYS go for the hug!
She didn't expect me to go for the hug, but what I got in return surprised ME. She actually EMBRACED ME. Not the ass out kind of thing. The she kissed me on the cheek. Like a GOOD sort of kiss. Kinda wet. And I broke away from it first since i am not accustomed to the chick latching onto me like that the first time we meet. Chemistry, yes. Semi-passionate embrace....never had that happen. If it were a more appropriate time and place I could have been making out with her within ten seconds of meeting her, no doubt in my mind!
After having a drink at my place we hit a club. I couldn't understand a damn word she was saying but I did dance with her, and came about an inch and a half from kissing her (don't ask why I didn't, long story).
Point is, always, ALWAYS go for the hug when you first meet a chick!
When you first think about doing it your mind might resist thinking the chick is gonna look at you like a creepy perv, but I have NEVER had a bad reaction.
I think it accomplishes two things. First, it sets the frame that you are comfortable with touch and that you are a social kind of guy.
Secondly it breaks through several barriers. It creates COMFORT and RAPPORT, and if her first ten second interaction with you is good, it can even go so far as to spark ATTRACTION. there is no doubt in my mind that had i not hugged this chick it would have been an entirely different frame between us.
ALWAYS go for the hug!