hs parties and getting more than just a #

[cgraz]

I went to a little party last night. Mainly guys, with a couple girls (as they usually are). Anyways, on cold approaches you can talk to them for a bit, make them laugh, then go for a # close and meet up with them some other day, but what do you do at a small party like this where you want to mess around?

There was this HB 8.5 at the party last night that I talked to for a bit, but it didn't feel right number closing cause I usually like leaving after I # close. If it were a bigger party, I could've told her that I'm going to get back to my friends but that she seems fun and we should get together sometime (and she'd offer her number). But what if I just want to take it a little farther with this girl and then decide if I even want her number for later or not. Any tips?

Cgraz

 

[Drow]

Uhh sure. Try to get her when she is by herself, or ask her to come with you somewhere to talk. Basically seclude her so she isn't distracted.

Flirt with her, touch her, and see if you can get a kiss. Be bold, try things. If she isn't into it, then no big deal. There are other girls who will be.

 

[Stratocaster]

Alcohol is the only thing that will help you man. I mean...high school parties arent all they are cracked up to be...rarely do you get action off a cold approach unless the previously mentioned beverage is envolved.

Later

 

[Swedesensational]

well id say if it were a kegger or there was drinking get her some drinks and then take her to a couch or secluded place and talk enjoy the beer, then maybe cuddle or kiss but definately flirt man, and if it were a more conservative party take her away from her friends and do the same but without drinks ya know, get to know her or something but dont lunge in too much ok? hope it helps peace!

 

[ReD MaFiA]

i had the same problem...not knowing exactly how to make that first move to mess around with her. Then it hit me..alcohol! I started having a few drinks before the party,so i came there all buzzed and happy,not giving a ****...then after few times i kinda got a feel of it and didnt even need alcohol anymore,it came natural. When you're a lil drunk (not piss-drunk) you get that "i dont give a ****" attitude and its much easier to do something you'd normally hesitate to do. After you do this a few times you'll see that you can do it and wont need the booze anymore.

P.S. high school parties ARE very lame. Most guys are too stuck up,girls are too shy,music mostly sucks and you cant even puke under the table like a normal person...you gotta go to the ****en bathroom for that!

 

[es_mer8]

I've been to a few parties and have learned from a lot of them. I honestly would avoid trying to hook up with girls from parties unless its to have a f*ck close which doesn't happen as much as people would like to believe.

1) Are you drunk? If so, is she drunk as well? If she is sober, then odds are you have shot your chances away. I remember this time from a party in which I tried to get a friend pumped up to ask this one girl. She was maybe a 6.5, a nice body but not that nice. Anyway, he was drunk and she did not drink. He asked her out genuinely and she said, "Ask me that again when you are sober." Its happened a few times. I remember he got down on himself about doing that and never did ask her again. She probably would have said yes but since he was drunk, she thought he wasn't serious.

2) HS parties are not the be all end all of parties. A lot of people often times "party hop" to eventually find a good one. Yes, it seems like there are at least 5 each weekend but sometimes, none of them were interesting. Just a bunch of sausages with a couple of girls. In most, if not all of parties, the male:female ratio was at least 8:1. Most of those girls were seeing someone, a lot of their someones were at the party and they spend most of the time making out and banging eachother. If you go to HS parties to get phone numbers, you are wasting your time.

3) Maybe its the girls I went to parties with but rarely did they even drink, let alone get drunk. Some did but it was such a rarity. I'm not sure if its the anti-slut defense ("If I don't get drunk then I'll be less likely to f*ck") or what but most girls there are pretty uptight at parties. Few parties were actually parties: just a few clusters of sausages and the girls pretty much stuck to themselves.

If you ask me, HS parties suck ass. However since you have no choice, you should probably go to them. However go just to have fun. I never take a party pickup seriously; I just fool around with them at the party and thats it.

 

[cgraz]

I just graduated high school, so I'm desperately waiting for college to start so I can meet some real women. But your right, most of the parties are just a bunch of guys and very few girls. And they are all lame. There is usually drinking, the problem is you can't really sit there and talk and establish some rapport becuase people are always walking up and interupting, and if you haven't established rapport, it's sometimes difficult to get her to go someplace quiet.

Most of the "parties" I go to end up being girls I already know, so I don't get much practice in this situation. The other problem is if there is ever a good size party (20+ people), the cops always end up there giving MIP's. They give a rediculous amount of MIP's in the city I live (not much crime so they're all out on party patrol. They even have a f'ing party patrol chopper). I'm also really light drinker; I occasionally have a beer or two, but I think I might try that buzzed approach.

Cgraz

 

[es_mer8]

I got busted with an MIP once. Its funny because I didn't drink at this party and all the other ones I did. It was less than a slap on the wrist but its something I don't want to do again. A lot of parties around here get busted but thats because people rat eachother out. Its so hard, its not worth it. Thats why I usually go to parties for 2 hours at most. That way if I get buzzed in the first 30 minutes or so, I will be sober and drive off. Thanks to this little strategy, I have avoided 4 busts. I'm serious. Second offense is community service and third offense is 10 days in jail. Its a scary thought; enough to give up on alcohol until you are 21.

I'm also really light drinker; I occasionally have a beer or two, but I think I might try that buzzed approach.

Its a good plan. Getting buzzed is fun. I cannot tell you how much I hate being piss drunk. You feel good for about 5 minutes and then you feel like sh1t afterwards. Then the hangovers are never any good. Plus getting buzzed means that it won't take you long until you sober up in case you have to leave for whatever reason. The buzzed approach is one I recommend.