Hows this sound...

[Enigma2517]

Situation: Met a girl, hooked up with the girl, started giving her too much attention/lost something along the way, she doesn't give me attention the same way she used to for a day or two.

Of course, I figured out my problem, but only too late. Or not...maybe...thats what this is about.

Today was better. I just woke up and decided I was gonna try my best to just not give a ****. And it worked pretty well. I usually approach her and intiate conversation but this morning I just kept reading my book until she got so desperate for attention she came over and said something playful like "hey sorry to interrupt but uhh blah blah".

Talked to her for a bit that block and then rolled out. Not bad I thought...I was under the impression that she borderline hated me (based on wednesday) but apparently not. Ok I thought, maybe I should give this whole picking her up thing another go. But this time its gotta be different.

Rest of the day was fun, I was in a pretty good mood, I hung out with my friends, macked on some other chicks, managed to NOT spend all my freetime thinking about her etc.

Weekend's here...I thought about it and I think I've got a plan thats pretty good (unless of course u guys want to add something )

In light of my good mood and somewhat reaffirmed infatuation I thought about asking her to come over, or go out, or do anything. Of course...she nearly turned me down for something like that on wednesday. So I'm definetely not gonna try that...yet

I'll just do whatever this weekend. Smoke some weed, chill with my friends, whatever. Might go to the fair even. Just general stuff to keep me occupied.

Come monday I'm gonna have to unroll some major pimpage. This is where some individual suggestions might be handy. I'm going to try to build some rapport with her throughout the week (monday-thurs, schools off on friday). But its gotta be specific. I can't give her too much attention because then the same exact thing will repeat itself. However, the opposite of that could be just as bad. I think I have a tendency to get all uptight when I try to control myself. I need to find an equilibrium between "keep away" and "I'm expressing interest in you". I think I'll start out small and increase by just a bit everyday.

Come Thursday night, Friday, the weekend, etc. I'm not really sure either. I don't want to set myself up too much...a lot of the later stuff comes when I get some reaction from her. But I was thinking about inviting her over then, and if we manage to hook up again I'll ask her out. I think I know that some people her might even insist that I ask her out first, but who knows.

Anyway, tell me what you think of the general idea and give me some examples (or point me to some) of how I could possibly play this off (the keep away junx).

 

[Dukester]

you are an AFC w/ oneitis. drop this chick and move on. in hs... is she really that worth it- never (hell no chick is ever worth it)

you'll learn that once you get to be a DJ. the women will fight 4 u, not you chasing them.

 

[WishIWas]

Originally posted by Dukester
you are an AFC w/ oneitis. drop this chick and move on. in hs... is she really that worth it- never (hell no chick is ever worth it)

uh...no he isn't.

he's trying to figure out how to hook up with her again. he's putting forth effort to get what he wants. that isn't oneitis. I don't see him crying and moaning because she was rude to him on wednesday.

your plan seems fine. you need to not only build rapport, but also social proof.

Don't get yourself down about her being a ***** on wednesday. Girls just sometimes get into moods and act mean even to guys they like.

 

[LikRetsam]

Originally posted by Dukester
you are an AFC w/ oneitis. drop this chick and move on. in hs... is she really that worth it- never (hell no chick is ever worth it)

you'll learn that once you get to be a DJ. the women will fight 4 u, not you chasing them.

Your signature is actually the serenity prayer and it's slightly different from that. The prayer is asking god for those things

To the original poster, You need a hobby!

 

[Enigma2517]

Dukester - Sorry bro I think you got it all wrong. I specifically mentioned that I didn't think about her and even flirted with some other chicks. Thats the whole point, it improved my attitude and killed whatever lingering desperation I had. I'm sorry that I'm not such a "DJ" like you are, but I like to try for women I like more than just once. I know you'd like to keep the confidence rolling and all, but all women are unique and this just happens to be one I'm not giving up on just yet. No hard feelings tho

IWishIWas - You're exactly right man. This chick was tired as hell on wednesday, AND she just lost her soccer game. No wonder I was getting the cold shoulder.

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ATTENTION!
ADVICE FOR ALL ASPIRING DJ's

Ok this has been mentioned before somewhere before but I think its important and my situation made me learn exactly this.

STAY AWAY FROM HER WHEN SHES NOT FEELING WELL! Don't associate yourself with her and her bad memories/moods. Sure it might give her some negative reinforcement about you, but more importantly, it can totally throw your game off. You'll just get all confused like me . Don't do it

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That being said let me tell what happened next. Totally out of left field.

So I'm sittin at home friday night watching some movies because theres the hurricane and I can't go out. My friend Chris calls me at 9 something. He's never called me before. What a pleasant surprise I thought, what could he want.

Turns out that on Friday I must have driven this chick NUTS! She called/texted Chris at least like 8 times, asking if he was my friend and if he could ask me if I liked her or not and stuff like that. Heh heh heh, we all know what that means. When he asked me for an answer I just told him to tell her that I'd call her after I was done watching my movie (can't just drop all my priorities now can I ).

Next part got kinda gay....apparently she went to sleep really early to catch up with all the insomnia she'd been having lately. I woke her up . Although I have no clue why she left her phone on when she went to bed . She wasn't pissed but still incredibly incoherent. I thanked her for Friday night and the good time and all of that as sincerely as I could. Halfway thru my Oscar speech I realized she was barely awake so I just stopped myself and told her to give me a call tomorrow.

Got out of the shower Saturday morning and just missed her ring. *69 and called back. She seemed open and friendly, but a bit nervous. Great. Told her I was extremely busy right now and had to go do some other stuff (hang out with my buds) but we should hang out again sometime. She gave me a pretty enthusiastic "sure!". "How should we work this out?" I asked. Haha, get this, she told me to call her when I wasn't busy. As if shes going to stand by the phone all day and wait for it to ring. Perfect

Tomorrows gonna be a fun day .

What can we learn from all this boys and girls? DON'T OVERANALYZE! You'll drive yourself crazy. Women are incredibly random and enigmatic sometimes. Don't sweat it. Just act like she wants you (she does).

This also ties in to something I read earlier about controlling your emotions and being result oriented. Personally I don't think that its toooo bad of an idea but if you get down about every incident that occurs between you, you will hurt your game more than you'll help it. Watch out for the big signs, avoid the little stuff. As soon as your emotions slip your game and behavior is sure to follow suit.

Thanks SoSuave! You've made me into a believer! [corny end saying]

 

[Porky]

Good job. You sure must have driven her wild if she was willing to expose herself to your buddy Chris like that.

work out the date ASAP before she has time to reconsider. you never know what **** will come up.

 

[Enigma2517]

Haha yeah no problem, today is Sunday and I'm calling her. Hmmm now i just gotta find some stuff to do to keep her entertained at my house...and keep myself entertaiend as well