I think you put your ENTIRE game all into that one opening line, thinking that busting on her tanning obsession by calling her an Oompa Loompa would seal the deal for you.
First of all, her COMFORT level with you determines what you can talk about with her, without driving her away. It's kind of a measurement of how much tension she can take, and depending on your past relationship with this specific girl and how long it's been since you last spent time with her.
You may have known better than to try to ask her out through a text conversation, INSTEAD of on the spot, RIGHT when you saw her.
You're probably familiar with the word
congruency. In this text conversation, you got more and more INCONGRUENT as it progressed.
Let me break this down for you individually, starting with her:
Hb:I have a hott date
hb:Im alrdy havin fun
loser lol
hb:Yeah he likes when i melt in his mouth lmao
All ****y lines for the most part. Notice how she doesn't exert much effort, and she calls you a loser very quickly. This is playful isn't it? She did put the "
lol
" smooshed beside the word "loser," so that makes it playful, right?
I suspect she was coming from a position of higher status, and this was also in fact a test.
In the last line, she's just teasing you...I sense a braggy tone about it too, which could mean that she was leading you on for fun. She sounded very ****y.
Scion said:
me:Hey Oompa Loompa girl, what u up to sat night?
me:Cool cool. Was gonna invite u somewhere fun, but now no fun for u
me:Lol, I'm the loser, at least I'm not orange
Hope this guy likes creamsicles lmao
me:Wait, should it be the other way around? I think your doing it wrong, I'd be more than happy to give you a lesson
Okay, I have a problem with your first line. I really liked the Oompa Loompa thing in there (I just looked at some pics of them on google and they look like sunburned little weirdos, very funny to call a girl that,) but you start right away with "What u up to Sat night?" which is moving a little too fast in my opinion.
I don't think "At least I'm not orange" really passes her shyt test...You kinda set yourself up for this though by asking what she was doing.
It just went COMPLETELY downhill from there.
Okay. Now how can you improve your game?
I have a few things for you:
1) If you're going to go in with a ****y attitude, be able to back yourself up with CONGRUENCY because, as soon as you called her an Oompa Loompa, it was on, and you lost when you failed her shyt test.
2) Learn C&F; you're not going to become a natural just by trying it now and then, you have to put some time and effort into learning it.
And, most importantly:
3) DON'T text girls that you are interested in for conversational purposes, unless for some reason she can't use the phone, or if you're texting her to get ready to be picked up. Something trivial like that.
Try brainstorming some other things that you could have said in response to her shyt test as a little exercise.
All in all, I wouldn't get my hopes up about this girl, but you're here to improve and that's exactly what you're doing by having this experience, so consider this a victory for the long-term!