AFC_Schism said:
Just an update guys, my ex ended up coming down last weekend for mardi gras to visit friends in my dorm and she ended up coming to talk to me at like 1am. She's gotten fatter :crackup: and it turns out she's actually dating the guy that she saw behind my back now. He's some metrosexual indie kid that's majoring in audio engineering at a community college and I made fun of her, asking he how she could go from me to a guy like that. She snapped back "No, he's twice the man you are!" and then suddenly, as if she realized what she was actually saying, she started crying and leaned forward and hugged me... (rofl)... and while she was hugging me up close, our noses like a centimeter apart, she ended up kissing me on the cheek several times as we talked over the next few minutes about her life. She then tells me she thinks that she might be bipolar and I just kind of nodded my head like "yeah... probably" and she gave me a weird look. I was laughing so hard on the inside.
Eventually she went to leave and I slapped her on the ass and pushed her out the door back to her friends room and just sat smiling to myself.
She later ended up talking to me again the next day on facebook and later and I found out that she had been calling me a douchebag to our mutual friends behind my back. That kind of upset me, I at least had the decency not to slander her name when I was the one that was screwed me over. So I wrote her a brief facebook message telling her to please never talk to me again and told her and her new boyfriend that they can "go off and be depressed and have panic attacks together for Valentine's Day - sounds romantic"... which resulted in her crying again and removing me from her friends. It's really relieving in a weird way to know that she's dating the kid, my imagination was running rampant that she might be dating someone better than me, but turns out its this kid - who's a chode. It feels good, especially when by our encounter the night before it was obvious she wasn't as over me as I was with her.
Honestly, thank you SoSuave. Thank you for helping me make the right decision. She insisted that while we were together she never thought of that kid as anything more than a friend and only after had we broken up had things started between them, which I actually kind of believe now, because why would she lie about it now when she has no reason to? Regardless, she was too much emotional baggage with the depression, she had gained a lot of weight, and honestly I just wasn't that attracted to her anymore, so I feel like I dodged a bullet by breaking up with her then. Since then I've been with half a dozen girls (most are one-night-stands, but there's one that I'm talking to now) and even though I still think about her, there's no longer that gut wrenching feeling that comes with it.
Again, everyone who helped me out in this thread, thank you.
Let this post be a great lesson for other guys.
AFC-schism, I suggest a name change, drop the AFC tag, you've just gone up a whole new level. Think about it has gaining experiance in a computer game and going from lvl 1 to lvl 10.
Being a DJ isn't just about shag*ing random girls, it's also about making sure the girls you keep for the long haul are worth your time, it is clear you've disovered your standards or are starting to find them. Those skills imo are far more important then negs, DV tests or all of that other PUA cra* - At least your not going to be living a miserable, shi*, emotional volitile life with a toxic female with Bipolar.
The next chick you find who even shows a shred of the traits of your EX, I am sure 100% you'll pull that eject cord alot sooner and in that allow yourself that much extra time to meet a women who is more mentally stable.
Also remember: Never tolerate your GF cultivating male friend orbitors again, PERIOD! You've found out exactly why.
I'll also lay it down what transpired, others have already posted it, but i'll summerise it.
Your girl is Bipolar, she has a void to fill of emotional attachment and ego validation, I wouldn't be surprised if she has a dodgy upbringing; probably abandonment issues (no father) - She fills this emotional void with male chumps giving her attention, but no matter how much attention she gets, the void is never filled, it just keeps sucking in more drama and emotional ego validation, because she is mentally unstable - A BF to this sort of chick, will get the most drama since she will derive the most void filling validation from him.
It's not that she fancies the orbiters but they are very much 'coc*s in glass cases, break in emergency' - They are not real male friends they are guys being led on with the promise of poon, to award her, her emotional fix.
When you bailed, she broke the glass on the first available orbitor, she is pretty much on the re-bound and the relationship will not last, but she will still do what she does to the new BF that she did to you and will continue to be like this for the rest of her life.
Yes you dodged a bullet, you should be proud of yourself.
