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How would you rank these areas in terms of difficulty?

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Just a fun little post. Here's a list of locations that I thought of ranking in terms of difficulty.

Streets
Store
Bars
Clubs
Public Transit (Bus/Subway/Trains)
Coffee Shop
Gym (Weight Lifting)
Dancing Classes
Martial Arts Gym (Boxing, BJJ, Muay Thai, etc.)
Parks
Beaches
College Campus
Church
Concerts/Music Festivals
Library

Here's my personal ranking in order from hardest to easiest:

1. Streets
2. Public Transit (Bus/Subway/Trains)
3. Parks
4. Store
5. Beaches
6. Library
7. Coffee Shop
8. College Campus
9. Martial Arts Gym (Boxing, BJJ, Muay Thai, etc.)
10.Dancing Classes
11.Gym (Weight Lifting)
12. Church
13. Concerts/Music Festivals
14. Bars
15. Clubs

Rating based on receptivity you would get from women and the potential of fallout from a space that the both of you frequent.

Streets are by far the most challenging, as well as public transit, because they probably carry the least amount of expectation for a man to approach a woman. Rejection is far more commonplace than the others and the process is much more daunting. You have a very limited amount of time and often have to approach on the spot.

Bars and clubs are the easiest by far (in my experience). Women are generally open to being approached, and the setting makes it easier for things to take a sexual turn, especially if alcohol is in the mix.

This is all anecdotal. Feel free to add any locations, your own ranking, agree/disagree, or just skim through and go on with your life.

Disclaimer: I am not a master PUA, I just strive to learn, improve, and have fun.
 
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It's difficult to rank 14 venues from top to bottom.

The street is definitely the most difficult venue.

Store is too broadly defined.

Check out this thread below where some YouTubers broke down most venues by tier.

 

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It's difficult to rank 14 venues from top to bottom.

The street is definitely the most difficult venue.

Store is too broadly defined.

Check out this thread below where some YouTubers broke down most venues by tier.

Yeah, it's a bit hard to rank them. It's due to anecdotal experience mostly. Some guys would find beaches harder if they have a lame body or I probably find parks harder than others
 

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Interesting..as an ultimate daygamer and cold approacher, most of these places I find equally easy and there aren't enough nuances to separate one location from the other.

So, I'll go based on preferences.

1. Store
2. Public Transit (Bus/Subway/Trains)
3. Streets
4. Library
5. Coffee Shop
6. Club
7. Parks
8. Gym (Weight Lifting)
9. Church
10. College Campus
11. Beaches
12. Dancing Classes
13. Bars
14. Concerts/Music Festivals
15. Martial Arts Gym
 

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The grocery store is the daygame location where I have gotten the most quantity of dates. I've also put a lot of effort in there.

I find malls a bit disappointing.

I don't find enough good prospects in bookstores when I go to bookstores. I might need to linger much longer in bookstores when I go. Barnes & Noble has the best pickup atmosphere but is not the best bookstore overall. Other bookstores are better.

I've never tried this. Libraries do require quiet. Public libraries in a lot of bigger USA cities are a bit seedy.

Conceptually, I like parks. However, parks/outdoor spaces/walking paths/hiking paths have all been affected by the same thing. Women wear earbuds/headphones in these places to discourage approaches or make approaching more difficult.

College Campus
This is a good place for both community college students and for 4 year college/university students. The rest of my commentary is going to focus on colleges/universities that offer 4 year bachelors degrees + graduate level degrees.

A 4 year college/university is a good environment because the vast majority of students are unmarried. At the undergraduate level, nearly everyone is unmarried, with the exception of some juniors/seniors at highly religious colleges/universities. At the graduate level at lesser religious schools, secular private schools, and public universities, there are some married students but that is less common.

At the undergraduate level, the fact that most undergraduate students are unmarried isn't as helpful as one might think it would be. Most undergraduate females have a boyfriend at any given time during their undergraduate experience. Even in this environment of unmarried people, fewer people are available and fewer women are seeking new penis at any given moment.

The sheer proportion of unmarried people in that environment isn't equaled in other areas in life.

8. Gym (Weight Lifting)
The general gym floor in conventional gyms like LA Fitness and 24 Hour Fitness are difficult environments due to earbuds/headphones. This has been discussed a lot.

Fitness classes at gyms solve the headphone/earbud problem and offer great ratios for males. However, women are not very sociable before/after these classes. Many of the women who attend group fitness classes at gyms already have boyfriends (or husbands in more suburban gym locations).

There are also standalone fitness studios that offer classes, such as SoulCycle. Classes at standalone fitness studios have a similar feel to classes at big box gyms like LA Fitness and 24 Hour Fitness. Women aren't sociable there either.
 

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The grocery store is the daygame location where I have gotten the most quantity of dates. I've also put a lot of effort in there.
The grocery store has paid DIVIDENDS, my guy.

DIVIDENDS, I tell ya. :cool:

I find malls a bit disappointing.
Ehhh. Malls are old news...and I like my targets to be alone, but the last time I went to a mall, all of the women were in pairs, or packs.

I don't find enough good prospects in bookstores when I go to bookstores. I might need to linger much longer in bookstores when I go. Barnes & Noble has the best pickup atmosphere but is not the best bookstore overall. Other bookstores are better.

I've never tried this. Libraries do require quiet. Public libraries in a lot of bigger USA cities are a bit seedy.
As a person who loves to read and would always frequent libraries, let me tell you, the library is underrated for day game.

It may be daygame's best kept secret.

There's a library up the street from the crib, and I go there at least once a week to use the computer for a couple hours.

The amount of cute women, both young and old that comes into the library...you would never think it.

But, the mud comes with the rain..a lot of libraries are where homeless people take refuge...but don't let that take away from the cutie patrons.

Bookstores, yup, my kind of refuge..for peace of mind, and daygame.

Conceptually, I like parks. However, parks/outdoor spaces/walking paths/hiking paths have all been affected by the same thing. Women wear earbuds/headphones in these places to discourage approaches or make approaching more difficult.
:lol:

This is a good place for both community college students and for 4 year college/university students. The rest of my commentary is going to focus on colleges/universities that offer 4 year bachelors degrees + graduate level degrees.

A 4 year college/university is a good environment because the vast majority of students are unmarried. At the undergraduate level, nearly everyone is unmarried, with the exception of some juniors/seniors at highly religious colleges/universities. At the graduate level at lesser religious schools, secular private schools, and public universities, there are some married students but that is less common.

At the undergraduate level, the fact that most undergraduate students are unmarried isn't as helpful as one might think it would be. Most undergraduate females have a boyfriend at any given time during their undergraduate experience. Even in this environment of unmarried people, fewer people are available and fewer women are seeking new penis at any given moment.

The sheer proportion of unmarried people in that environment isn't equaled in other areas in life.
Ehh. While I certainly cosign the cuties on college campuses, even thinking about the uphill battle when pursuing those youngins, not a pleasant thought.

Thankfully, on my list, I have 1-9 to keep me content.

The general gym floor in conventional gyms like LA Fitness and 24 Hour Fitness are difficult environments due to earbuds/headphones. This has been discussed a lot.
Yeah, the earbud thang.

But, listen mannn, if she is fine enough, I'm going in...she is gonna have to take those earbuds off and listen to what I have to say.

At the LA Fitness that I attend, there are more women (people) ages 50+ than 50-.

I don't mind it, because older women can get it too!!

Another thing about the gym; there have been occasions where women that I thought were working out alone, had a husband/boyfriend nearby.

One case recently... cute, white, brunette..HUGE titties in a sports bra.

I was working up the nerve and opportunity to pull up on her, when I saw her walk over to her guy at another area in the gym.

Needless to say, her and I stole a few glances at each other... but uh, you just gotta be aware.

Fitness classes at gyms solve the headphone/earbud problem and offer great ratios for males. However, women are not very sociable before/after these classes. Many of the women who attend group fitness classes at gyms already have boyfriends (or husbands in more suburban gym locations).

There are also standalone fitness studios that offer classes, such as SoulCycle. Classes at standalone fitness studios have a similar feel to classes at big box gyms like LA Fitness and 24 Hour Fitness. Women aren't sociable there either.
Which is why fitness/aerobics classes would rank at the bottom of my list.
 

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Which is why fitness/aerobics classes would rank at the bottom of my list.
Over the years, I've poured a lot of effort in group fitness classes as a part of approach/seduction. It's not been that fruitful from a seduction standpoint despite the great ratios but it's not a complete waste of time because there are fitness benefits.

Malls are old news...and I like my targets to be alone, but the last time I went to a mall, all of the women were in pairs, or packs.
I like my targets in daygame to be alone too. I've never really enjoyed mall approaching as much as grocery stores.

When you've done mall approaching, has it mostly been on weekends?
 
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