How would you find a good roommate?

[BPH]

Looking into some housing options and what's affordable.

Right now I can't move too far away because my current job is my only income, and I'm not sure if I can count on my brother or one of my friends being available. The latter because he's living in New York paying less than $800/mo for where he lives, and the former because most of them are in LTRs living with their girlfriends.

So I'm wondering how to go about finding a roommate. I've heard plenty of stories of people going into these arrangements as friends...then ruining that friendship once forced to live with each other. I've also been on the receiving end of bad random roommate assignments during college both on and off-campus.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

 

[sevbucmash]

It's same as OLD bro. You login to a site, create a profile, and hook up.

 

[Travel memoir21]

It's same as OLD bro. You login to a site, create a profile, and hook up.

In my opinion, just like business…don’t do it with a good friend or family…..it could sabotage your relationship.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Looking into some housing options and what's affordable.

Right now I can't move too far away because my current job is my only income, and I'm not sure if I can count on my brother or one of my friends being available. The latter because he's living in New York paying less than $800/mo for where he lives, and the former because most of them are in LTRs living with their girlfriends.

So I'm wondering how to go about finding a roommate. I've heard plenty of stories of people going into these arrangements as friends...then ruining that friendship once forced to live with each other. I've also been on the receiving end of bad random roommate assignments during college both on and off-campus.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

By NOT seeking one out, and instead committing to do what's required to TRULY live on your own... That means by yourself, until and if you decide to marry, or unless you need to take in a terminally ill relative for few months

Every man comes to this crossroads, BPH... It's your turn now

 

[Gamisch]

Good bro. Props where it's due. You woke up.

Salute.

1. Find a like minded person who is not necessarily a friend. Jealousy is a thing. If you go hard and homeboy is passive he will try to keep you down. 2.Preferably find a place where someone wants to rent a room so you can do your own thing

 

[SW15]

he's living in New York paying less than $800/mo for where he lives,

That's an amazing deal for New York.

most of them are in LTRs living with their girlfriends.

A lot of men near your age are living with girlfriends/wives. That gets common for men 30-35.

You might be able to get a mid-20s guy as a roommate.

A gym bro type could be a good option for a roommate. You might be able to find a good roommate through a gym connection. You and a male passionate about going to the gym could attract new women together.

You want a roommate who is good at paying bills on time and a good lifestyle match for you.

I've heard plenty of stories of people going into these arrangements as friends...then ruining that friendship once forced to live with each other. I've also been on the receiving end of bad random roommate assignments during college both on and off-campus.

Some people who are passable friends are not good as roommates.

Random roommate assignments in college dorms are often a failure. It's not much of a reflection on you.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Does it have to be a roommate? Have you looked into basement apartments?

I think there are some Facebook groups for communities in your city where you can make a quick post saying you're looking for a 'room to rent' or a roommate. People will start sharing what they have available.

 

[Chow Mein]

Why not continue to live with you parents if you are paying minimal or no rent?

This will allow you to take the risk of finding a job that gives you much better compensation.

If you are currently looking for ‘affordable’ housing, you might not have the financial stability yet.

Nothing wrong with living with your parents to save money, it will be much worse to be living paycheck to paycheck on your own.

 

[Gamisch]

Why not continue to live with you parents if you are paying minimal or no rent?

This will allow you to take the risk of finding a job that gives you much better compensation.

If you are currently looking for ‘affordable’ housing, you might not have the financial stability yet.

Nothing wrong with living with your parents to save money, it will be much worse to be living paycheck to paycheck on your own.

At what point does a man has to become independent and learn how to stand on his own ?

I had a homie in a similar situation . 34 living at home. I even told him he shouldn't worry and just save money. But he acknowledged he was practically undateble to quality women. And certain (low tier) women you don't even wanna be seen with. You can also only pull that trick so many times before your parents will start to complain.

Time flies after 30. Its literally like 10 years fly by in 7 /5 years. On top of that this IS his prime. He wont be better looking in 10 years and its sad to imagine all the great experiences you wont have because of your living situation. On top of all this ..

Boom hairline gone..boom metabolism slows down. Boom mental issues left and right. The best transition is to go from that situation straight to getting a NICE place perhaps (sometimes) even with a woman...other than that, you might wanna start to learn how to: cook, clean, decorate/style your house, garden, do maintenance on big and small shyte around your house.

We're not talking about a 20 y.o man who still studies. We are talking bout a man MAN who could be a grandfather in 10 years..That's how close phases in our lives are. One day you are a teenager who gets hairs on his ballz, 5 years later you are fighting a war for your country and 5 years after that you are a father . We don't live forever.

 

[Chow Mein]

At what point does a man has to become independent and learn how to stand on his own ?

I had a homie in a similar situation . 34 living at home. I even told him he shouldn't worry and just save money. But he acknowledged he was practically undateble to quality women. And certain (low tier) women you don't even wanna be seen with. You can also only pull that trick so many times before your parents will start to complain.

Time flies after 30. Its literally like 10 years fly by in 7 /5 years. On top of that this IS his prime. He wont be better looking in 10 years and its sad to imagine all the great experiences you wont have because of your living situation. On top of all this ..

Boom hairline gone..boom metabolism slows down. Boom mental issues left and right. The best transition is to go from that situation straight to getting a NICE place perhaps (sometimes) even with a woman...other than that, you might wanna start to learn how to: cook, clean, decorate/style your house, garden, do maintenance on big and small shyte around your house.

We're not talking about a 20 y.o man who still studies. We are talking bout a man MAN who could be a grandfather in 10 years..That's how close phases in our lives are. One day you are a teenager who gets hairs on his ballz, 5 years later you are fighting a war for your country and 5 years after that you are a father . We don't live forever.

OP is 29, he needs to invest in his career now because you will start making the most money in your 30’s. Grind hard for a couple of years and by the time you’re approaching mid-30’s the money and women flow in like wine.

Unless you’re one of those thinking you won’t have a shot at young chicks when you’re older

 

[Gamisch]

OP is 29, he needs to invest in his career now because you will start making the most money in your 30’s. Grind hard for a couple of years and by the time you’re approaching mid-30’s the money and women flow in like wine.

Unless you’re one of those thinking you won’t have a shot at young chicks when you’re older

You will.have a shot but it's mostly a shot in the dark...

I do agree somewhat, but if this is his strategy hee should OWN it. Don't mention it to anyone. Have a default excuse( e.g my mother is sick imma take care of her) or be dead honest about your mission even if it will cost you losing some potential partners. Unfortunately women lobe to brag about their dude, and something as "understandable " as being NEET will already cost you TONS of good p00sy..just being real..

I agree at some point every man will have to take time off and reinvent himself. Even famous high value men go through this after a failed relationship where sometimes their lids are taken away from them. But it's extremely dangerous path to wak on when you are nonchalant with it while time flies by. When you are 20 you have more room for error. At 30 you gotta go GO.